Marriage Evolved discussion Lifestyle Discussions True Experiences Wife admits she loves us “differently”

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    • Madison.cpl
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        My wife and her bf have been together a bit over a year now. But they’ve known each other much longer.

        Last weekend as he was leaving, and they were saying their goodbyes, I heard her tell him that she loved him. It didn’t seem like anything new to him. He said replied in kind and they kissed, hugged and he left.

        I didn’t say anything at first as it caught me off guard, I guess.
        When I did bring it up, she was surprised that I didn’t know this already.
        She told me that she loved us both for different reasons. Dean, the bf for more physical and “masculine” reasons (something she said was difficult to explain). She loved me for our solid foundation and our history.

        Last night she told me that Dean and her talked about this and he wants to sit down with us and talk this out and define our situation better.

        Sorry. I’m not much of a writer. I’m mainly looking for advice maybe and to get the views of others in this situation.

        How common is it that the wife falls in love with her bull or bf?

        Thanks in advance

      • Cathy & Jerry
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          Cathy has been with her lover for just over 6 years. Last December she told me that she was very much in love with him and hoped that I wouldn’t be upset about it. If I didn’t want it to continue she would stop seeing him. I had to think about it for a few days but I came to the conclusion that during those months prior to her talking to me about it, they had been showing much more closeness and when they stayed at our home instead of his and that I didn’t think anything negative about it at all. I would listen in on their love making and I could tell that there was a difference in what I was hearing, they were being so much more passionate rather than just “fucking”, which I thought was great. I also thought about how they interacted in front of me, showing more closeness and kissing more passion instead of just grabbing and groping as they kissed. They were definitely “in love” and after all this thinking I decided that I would be a fool to break them up because Cathy would have been sad and not very fun to be around. Also, I know that she would have never wanted to do this again because she would be afraid of falling in love again only to have me end it. Really, it’s been a great thing for all of us. I have so much compersion for these two and it excites me to see her so happy to be with him, to watch her eyes dart back and forth looking him in the eyes as he hugs her before they kiss. It’s only inevitable that your wife will fall in love if the man she’s seeing is a good lover, shows his passion for her as he’s giving her the sexual, sensual passion she desires and deserves, and there’s no reason why a woman can’t be in love with two men. The best thing to do is to take a good look at how happy your wife is and decide what you would and wouldn’t accept in their relationship, keeping her needs and desires in mind – after all, this isn’t about us as cuckolds, it’s about our wives. Keep the discussion calm and if you feel it’s necessary, make any rules known and put down on paper and talk about them, and discuss what will happen if the rules are broken or at least, be sure that if they want to break a rule, it should be discussed with all three of you first. Cathy’s lover and I are very good friends, much like brothers. We go fishing together and work on cars and our homes together, like brothers or good friends would do.

        • Madison.cpl
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            Thank you very much for that greatly thoughtful response.
            I guess my biggest fear is that I will lose her.
            Dean is a decent guy. I can definitely see the differences that we bring to her life.
            He’s coming over tomorrow for dinner and will most likely spend the night.
            Linda is out shopping for the dinner ingredients and I’m making sure they have clean sheets for tomorrow night.

            • Cathy & Jerry
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                That’s wonderful, you’re a good cuck husband. As long as your marriage is strong and you two never hide things from each other, talk lots, and do lots of things together as a couple, then it’s very unlikely that she’ll ever want to leave you when she has it so good just the way it is. She has a wonderful husband who believes in her and trusts her, and a lover whom she gets the passion she desires and deserves. Let us know how the night goes for them, and please keep us updated as to how things are progressing, talks etc.

            • Madison.cpl
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                After a late dinner that Friday evening, we sat down for a chat. Well, Dean and I were there to listen to my wife’s concerns and expectations. I suppose at this point, I could say, “our wife.”
                She said how our love and bond we’ve created over the years could never be broken.
                We were soul mates. We have a family. Kids, now grandkids…
                Buy, as I’ve come to understand, her body belongs to Dean. She told Dean that she loves how he makes her feel physically. She feels like she’s in her 20s again when she’s with him.
                So, as of that night, she didn’t want there to be any misunderstanding.
                Dean was to respect our time together. During the week, unless otherwise planned, would be “Family Linda.”
                She would be a wife to me, a mother, and a grandmother. She could focus more on her career to this way.
                Her promise to Dean would be that her body belongs to him.
                We would not have sex. I would no longer see her nude if Dean wasn’t around.
                If she got really hot and Dean wasn’t available, she “may” allow me to have sex with her, but a condom would be a must.
                In exchange, she would allow Dean the occasional “sleep over” during the week.
                Dean was visibly not happy.
                He did not want me to have access to her body at all.
                And he wanted access to her whenever he wanted.
                Linda excused me from the room for a few minutes.
                After I was called back in, Linda apologized and said that she agreed with Dean that sex with me would be inappropriate.
                Also, there would be times that I would be required to sleep in the spare bedroom when Dean came over for use of her body.
                There were other things she discussed but these were the major ones.
                After that, she excused herself to change and they both then left for his place where they stayed until Sunday afternoon.
                He brought her back with a few hickies (never been my thing) and he laughed a bit as he raised her skirt to show me that she was completely shaven.
                They kissed and said their goodbyes. He, reminding her to put on something more respectable.
                She slept until dinner. We chatted about her weekend.
                I asked for a handjob as I was really turned on, but she declined as she was tired from the weekend.
                Last weekend was better. She stayed with him Saturday and Sunday.
                But I got that handjob. Lol.

              • Kevin123
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                  Hey man, I hear you, and it’s wild how our journeys can have so many parallels yet feel so unique. I totally get the mix of emotions you’re describing—my wife and I have been in a similar dynamic for a while now, with her having four regular bulls and occasionally hooking up with others. Her body count’s over 80, and yeah, at the start, the jealousy and discomfort hit hard. It was a rollercoaster, questioning everything, feeling that knot in my stomach. But over time, I came to see it differently.

                  What helped me was realizing that our love, our bond as soulmates, and our family—two kids, a home we’ve built—none of that changes because of her physical connections. It’s like you said with Linda: the love you share is unbreakable, even if her body belongs to Dean in that way. I’ve learned to focus on the intimacy we still share—whether it’s emotional, like our late-night talks, or even the small moments, like when she’s just “Family Linda” for you. For me, it’s about cherishing the moments I get with her, even if they’re not sexual.

                  It sounds like you’re adjusting to Dean’s role and the boundaries Linda’s set. That’s huge. It’s not easy to let go of the physical side or deal with the changes, like the spare bedroom nights. I’ve had similar moments where I had to step back, and yeah, it stings sometimes. But I found that open communication—like your Friday night chat—helps a lot. Maybe keep talking with Linda about how you’re feeling, especially about Dean’s expectations. It sounds like she’s trying to balance everyone’s needs, but if Dean’s pushing for more control, it might be worth a calm check-in to make sure you’re all on the same page.

                  Also, props for finding some humor in it—getting that handjob last weekend, lol, small victories, right? For me, I’ve found peace in focusing on my own role in her life. I love and respect her choices, and seeing her happy, fulfilled, and confident is worth it. It’s not always easy, but it’s our dynamic, and I’ve grown to embrace it. If you ever want to swap stories or tips on navigating this, I’m here. Keep loving her, man—it’s clear you do.

                • Madison.cpl
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                    Thursday night,Linda told me that she would be going to Dean’s place straight from work on Friday. Something that she has never done. Fridays have always been a kind of, family night, for us. Occasionally, Dean has been over for a dinner or sometimes they’d go out to a movie or event. But she’s always spent Friday nights at home. Dean staying over on most of those occasions.
                    She said the tension between Dean and I was getting to be to much and she wanted an extra night with him and to get everything straightened out.
                    She has totally accepted her submission to Dean, but it’s not something I’m totally on board with yet

                    I sent her a text Saturday morning to see how things were. No answer. Several texts more throughout the day also went unanswered.
                    I considered calling her in the evening, when she finally replied to my messages.
                    It was a simple. “Stop it. I’ll see you Sunday.”
                    Sunday evening finally arrived. It felt like the weekend was an eternity.
                    Dean followed her home and they came in together.
                    She immediately told me, “Thank Dean for the wonderful weekend he provided your wife.”Um.. Ok. Weird, but “Thanks Dean for the great weekend you gave Linda.” They looked at each other kind of odd. Linda said, “You don’t use his name. It’s sir to you. Try again.”
                    I tried again and that brought a smile to them both.
                    He stayed a bit for drinks and snacks which I served him. Remembering to thank him for everything I did for him.
                    After he left, Linda took a shower and got ready for bed. When I joined her, she told me that there were now ground rules for me.
                    Our lives had changed without me even realizing this was about to happen.

                  • Kevin123
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                      Hey man,
                      Damn, that sounds intense—thanks for sharing the update. The shift from family Fridays to her heading straight to Dean’s after work must’ve hit hard, especially with the radio silence on texts. I’ve been there with Priya; early on, she’d go silent during hookups, and it felt like an eternity, stirring up all kinds of anxiety. But the way you handled it, giving her space until Sunday, shows how committed you are to this dynamic and her happiness. That’s huge.
                      The “Sir” thing and serving him drinks/snacks? It’s a clear step into that ownership/submission territory she mentioned. Priya’s dominant like that too—she’s got me greeting her four bulls (and 60+ randoms) at home, serving them drinks, cleaning creampies from her pussy and ass, and even sucking their dicks while locking eyes with her (that smirk she gives? Gets me every time). At first, the humiliation and awkwardness were overwhelming, especially as a straight guy, but it’s become part of what makes our bond stronger. She keeps me caged, lets me have sex once a week on Sundays, and I love fulfilling her every need. If Linda’s setting ground rules now, it might feel like your world’s flipping without warning, but talk it out with her—ask what these rules mean for you both long-term. Maybe start small, like non-sexual service to Dean, to ease into it and build trust.
                      You’re not fully on board yet with her submission to him, and that’s valid—communication’s key to make sure it works for your marriage. Sounds like she’s all in, and if you can find a way to embrace your role (like I have), it could bring you closer. Hang in there; you’ve got this because your love for her shines through. How are you feeling about the new rules? Spill if you want—here for you, buddy.

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