Re: Wife is having Lover’s Child

Abike (Abi) was born last week and weighed in at 3.5 Kg.

We both knew that Carol was near and had some minor contractions but, as her waters hadn’t broken, I decided to go to work. Onye is away at the moment playing in a football tournament so it has been left to me to do all the running around, worrying and getting sleepless nights because Carol was so uncomfortable. Because she couldn’t sleep she wanted me to stay with her.

I put the a small bed up by hers (the same bed I laid on when Onye and her were trying to conceive) and we stayed like that chatting for most of the nights.

Although I was tired I went to work only to receive a call last Wednesday morning that she had started. I rushed home and took her to the local hospital where she gave birth to Abi at 2 in the morning on Thursday.

There was some inevitable confusion about who ‘Dad’ and ‘Hubby’ were by the medical staff but they were very professional and took the obvious fact that I was not the natural father in their stride – very professionally if I may say so.

Abi is undoubtedly a beautiful little baby however I am not going to talk much more about her because this is not the right sort of forum for it, enough to say that she is very welcome into our lives.

Its early days, but I am not feeling any jealousy or sense of embarrassment or dishonor; neither do I sense any sort of disconnection, if that is the right word, because my wife has had her lover’s child. To her great credit, Carol is involving me in everything and she would be the first to say that she needs me as much as I need her. I shall have to see just how I feel when Onye returns and whether he can be a good father or not

For those men who are not cuckolds all of this must seem very strange or ‘far fetched’ as we say in the U.K. but it is nevertheless how my life is lived and I wouldn’t change it for the world just now.
Just because Abi is now with us, it doesn’t mean that this topic is finished because I shall keep it up to date as best as I can.