Re: The Difficult Wife

Thanks Luvr. 

I was reading your reply and the open marriage one isn’t it, I should have mentioned that I assured her of this right before she agreed initially. 

She knows I’m attracted to her but the third point about her self image may be a major part of the problem.  She was (and as far as I’m concerned) still is a stone cold fox.   But in the last few years she put on some serious weight brought on by an injury that kept her from her beloved sports, then depression set in over the weight and the slower metabolism due to the more sedentary life.  I still am attracted to her as much as ever and she knows it.  But she is aware of her image to others and i know it really bugs her.  She was used to being a gal that got all the looks from everyone when she walked in the room but she doesnt get that anymore. 

She and I have both started to lose some weight but we have a long way to go.  Since I’ve always been big i dont think it affects me the same way.  Plus, being a guy makes it different too.  Frankly I think her depression may not be so  much from not getting guys attention but from the way other women treat her.  Women can be flat out cruel when it comes to looks and weight.  While her injury still limits some of what she likes to do, she has gotten back to exercising in the last couple of weeks.  Hopefully I can help motivate her to get out of her rut.  Thanks for everything and I still would love to hear from others on the topic.  I hope to update in the future with some positive gains, ahem I mean losses in the weight dept for both of us… 🙂