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Bellaazz
I will try not to make this too long, but I wanted to talk with anyone who has been in the same boat as I am right now. First of all, my wife is a hotwife who has been cuckolding me for about two years. She has a current bull that really sexually rocks her world and she mentioned to me the other day that she would like to be exclusive with him. At first I think she meant including me but when I asked her she said “as far as fucking goes, for the most part”. When I explored it further, she told me she will still always need me to perform oral on her and me watching as she masturbates. She also said she would still be willing to find a guy on our various vacations and trips as we both enjoy. For the most part, I have absolutely no problem with this but the bull she wants to be exclusive with kind of bothers me and I cannot totally pinpoint why. I guess the best I can explain it is that he is very cocky and seems to overly enjoy “sticking it to me”. By that I mean, whenever he finds out something that my wife has never tried with me (like cumming in her mouth or on her face, anal, etc) he seems to me to take great joy into doing these things and making me watch. I really enjoy watching but I guess I am a tad bit jealous of this one guy and it is bothering me. Of course I can’t tell my wife or she will freak out or threaten to stop the whole “hotwife” thing. WHich I certainly do’t want to. I have never been jealous of any of her lovers. It is just this guy. He is increadible, I have to admit. He is hung like a horse, can last forever and can really take control of my wife, like I never thought possible. She had always been the assertive one in our marriage and especially sexually but with him, he can make her do anything he wants and she actually really seems to enjoy being sub to him. One thing that I never cared for was watching guys kiss her. I had told her that when she first started cuckolding me, so she would be careful not to kiss the guy too much, even though she told me she cannot feel like she has to hold back. Still, I could tell she made an effort. Well, she must have said something to Steve (the bull) because now he kisses he constantly, especially when he is fucking her and about to cum in her. He kind of gives me a glare when he does these things. Well, at least that is how I take it but my view may be jaded. This feeling I have bothers me and as I said, I don’t want to say anything to my wife about it, especially thinking she may tell Steve, but I guess I could use some advice. Now that she wants to be exclusive with him, I feel it will be even worse. I feel he may try and stop her from letting me eat her pussy, which is my favorite or even stuff like seeing her naked, etc. Ok, so I guess what I may be asking has any other cuckolds been through anything like this with a particular bull and if so, can anyone offer some advice. I am totally serious and real, and would appreciate if you would be that way with me too. Thank you for your time…….
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gary001
My wife started cuckolding me after only a few months of marriage and it was a joint decision, I only have a small penis and I knew I couldn’t satisfy her in bed, so it seemed the obvious thing for us to do.
She now has a boyfriend who she couples with and she is exclusive to him. To the point that I don’t even see her naked, she wears a bra and panties when she sleeps with me and the angst that I feel, knowing that she’s nude with him and clothed with me is exciting to me.
Knowing that she is exclusive to him and never with me is a mixed feeling of lust and jealousy but as a cuck husband, we have to accept these feelings. Our main goal is for our wife to have an enjoyable sex life.
Her boyfriend has never been too dominant with me but he made it clear that he calls the shots when it comes to my wife.
It’s been almost two years since I have seen her naked or touched her and I still have those emotions when she’s with him or just talking to him over the phone.
They are in love with each other and that is a beautiful thing to see develop over time but I know that she still needs me in her life and we will always be married and have a normal healthy married life, apart from sex.
Use those emotions that you feel and turn them into positive things bud, like, how hot it makes you feel when he’s coupling with her and things like that.
email me if you want to talk in private, I will do all I can to help you.
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Say_Oy
What is your power dynamic with your wife? i.e. Are you totally submissive and into being denied and humiliated? Are you actually controlling her for your own voyeuristic pleasure? Or are you and your wife supposed to be doing this for mutual pleasure and satisfaction? And are you turned on by the fear/jealousy/angst caused by the Bull or are you actually being hurt emotionally?
Those are questions you need to ask yourself and when you think you know your own answer, ask your your wife.
There is a frame of mind a woman gets into when she is submissive and the more the Bull controls her the deeper she gets into it and finds it hard to say no. It sounds like he is being sadistic with you (and her, but she likes it.) So the longer it goes the deeper she will get into it until something happens to break the spell, usually him finally taking it too far and hurting her in some way or a crisis happening. But that could be a long time down the road. I have no interest in fucking a man but it is fun to control the woman who controls, or at least influences him.
On the other hand, he may think that you like the denial game and he may be trying to make you a happy hubby. He could be watching you to see you enjoying your denial angst and that may turn him on more… Have you talked to him about it? Or your wife?
So as a bull, I have not been in your shoes but my thought is you should tell your wife how you feel. She could ignore your feelings or she could talk to the Bull… or you could talk to him when they are not fucking and ask him why he stares at you or does things you have been denied – is he feeding your cucky angst and his own ego for mutual pleasure or just his own ego? You might be surprised and find out he thinks he is doing a service to you. If he is just being nasty, then that is something to discuss with your wife. She may need to stand back and look at his behavior. If he is not taking both of your feelings into consideration then she may need to reconsider her lust for him vs. your mutual happiness.
I get why he does not want her to fuck around with others (and yes, it came from him either directly or as a hint she latched onto). 1- STDs, no matter how safe you think you are there are mistakes. 2- control. If her mind is on him then he has more and tighter control. 3- she won’t happen on someone better than him by accident. 4- it’s a power game and ego booster. I bet he is not limited to just your wife. 5- STDs … again.
Also, your wife not being naked and having sex with your might be simply that she does not find you attractive physically. After I asked about her husbands sexual activity and possible affairs a few times she told em that she stopped having sex with him. She did not find him attractive (fat and lazy in bed) and cutting him off was easy – simply don’t respond to feeble hints. She flat out says she is mine. On the other hand, after a year of wanting to get away from him so we could be together more she realized that she did love him. They had a long history together, a family, he was a good provider and he didn’t track her activity. So she has the best of all worlds – me as her Dom and Bull, time for her hobbies, and her family life.
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Bellaazz
Thank you for replying, especially With a bulls perspective. Our power dynamic is my wife is totally dominant over me sexually, however outside the bedroom we r pretty much equally dominant. She does enjoy controlling me sexually, denying me & controlling when I can orgasm. No real humiliation other than her doing things with him she’d not do with me & enjoying me watching.
Yes I am totally turned on by the angst, jealousy & fear caused by her bull. It’s be a lie if I said otherwise. I never thought about the fact that he could be actually trying to increase my enjoyment & excitement by denying me & suggestions for this. Plus thinking about the 4 reasons you listed, they all make sense & can be very true. Also this could be what turns him on & his pleasure is important as ours too for it to be a win-win-win situation. Perhaps I’ve been too cognizant of my own pleasure & needs & not thinking enough of theirs. I have talked to Nicki about how she seems to enjoy when he dominates her & she said it’s a huge turn on. She even found it extremely exciting that he wants her to be exclusive with her.
She did tell me she finds me attractive & I have a nice body (outside of my tiny cock) but regular sex with me is extremely frustrating for her because Id barely get inside her and I’d cum, I’ve even cum before getting in her when she’d rub my cock on her pussy. However she says she really enjoys me eating her,saying I’m the best at it & get into it so much it’s exciting, especially after he cums in her.
I do like your suggestions of talking to him about it. I can do this in a non-accusatory way & it May ease my worries. Thanks so much!!
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Say_Oy
@Bellaazz – You don’t have to be “hung” at 7″ or 8″+ to please a woman. First, the fact that you go down on her to please her is a big plus. Second, you don’t have to totally stretch her, you just need to hit the right spots to stimulate her. Indeed, hitting the cervix or the back of the vagina can cause pain. On the other hand angling your dick so it hits just behind the pubic bone can hit her G spot and increase her enthusiasm – or give her an orgasm from intercourse. Even 5 inches could do it at the right angle. If you slide a finger inside her and up behind the pubic bone you may be able to feel the difference in tissue / engorgement. Study anatomy.
Being a premature ejaculator can be fixed with practice and training. THe first time I had sex I stuck my dick in and came. I was lucky. My (future) girlfriend agreed to try again next time, and we started practicing having me last. Mostly I would withdraw and wait until the need to cum faded a bit, then resume. She also tried grasping my dick at the base inside the scrotum and squeezing to keep me from coming. However, that was a mistake as I think it caused an anurism in my urethra. I stopped shooting a couple feet and instead stream and then dribble out. However, the stop and withdraw practice paid off and after a while I was able to go as long as I wanted. In my old age I go to exhaustion (mine or my subs – typically 45 minutes) and I actually decide that it is time to cum, at which point it might take another 5-10 minutes – or go to sleep and have my sub wake me up with a BJ and then a quickie before she leaves. Anyway, it’s in the mind and you can train yourself, but you need the will power to keep trying. Oh, and if you cum real fast try to get it up again right away or real soon. Getting to cumming a second or third time takes longer.
Also, your dick can get bigger. I used to be 6.5 inches but now I’m 7″. All you have to do is angle your dick away from where the ruler sits! Just kidding – I measure straight out. But your dick will grow with use and age. At one point I had a “Broken Dick” (look it up) and when I recovered months later it was bigger around and longer. 🙂 I don’t really recommend that method. I continued to fuck but it hurt to get erections for months. I never tried suction pumps but it might work, just be careful. Anyway, old men always seem more hung in locker rooms. Young women should be made aware of this.
And Finally, if you are fat you can make your dick longer by losing weight. Does it seem to you that slim in shape guys have longer dicks? They don’t really, but when I lost 30 lbs a few years ago my dick got a 1/4 inch longer – less fat to hide the base. A really really fat guy could be losing 3″ or more to fat. Now is that incentive to lose weight?
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stonemtncouple
Im in a true “Hotwife” marriage so that’s where I’m coming from.
My Hotwife does have a Bull who fucks her without me present and she does have deep feelings for him.
This turns me on and adds to our marriage. My advice to you is if a activity increases your sexual gratification and your wife’s then thats a positive. If a activity increases your love and bond for each other then thats a positive. If anything her Bull does or she does harms or decreases your lust or love for each other then I think thats a negative and should stop immediately.
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Bellaazz
Ok, here is an update on my situation: I got some good advice here and talked to my wife and her bull separately. I made sure not to tell them of my angst feelings but I emailed him with some questions on seeing if her being exclusive to him was his idea and what his thoughts were. Say Oy, you were correct, Steve says his main reason for suggesting she be exclusive to him was his concern for STD’s. They were tested before she started letting him do her bareback but he didn’t want to keep having to get tested and they both LOVE him fucking her and cumming inside her. (I love it too). He said there also is the fact that him being able to take another man’s wife and fuck her and cum inside her while I watch helplessly, is a HUGE turn on to him and one of the main reasons he prefers to be a bull with married woman as opposed to meeting single women alone. He also read that many cucks enjoy some denial. He said he has no issues at all with be eating her pussy and ass, in fact he enjoys watching me eat his cum out of her. But that he wants her to only fuck him. (Interesting but he never mentioned if he was fucking any other women, just that he wanted her to be exclusive to him). He also said the reason he looked at me and sometimes teased me when doing something with her that she never did with him was because he felt it would increase both of our enjoyment. Some of the cuck humiliation thrills can come from watching another man do things with your wife that you have never done or are not allowed. And I admit this is very true on my part, I was just looking at it from my point of view. He also re-iterated the fact he does not want any part of a relationship with her, other than sex. He said it is the ultimate great situation for him, being able to have amazing sex with a very hot woman and not have to worry about any relationship type things. When I talked to Nicki, she mentioned that she had also read the denial was part of the enjoyment of the cuck and teasing him by not letting him see her naked unless in sexual situations, was all part of that. Funny but as she was telling me this, she had just a night shirt on and it barely covered her ass and pussy, she kept crossing and uncrossing her legs and noticed me staring and said “see, when you can’t see everything it is very exciting”. She also said she felt it would make me want to watch her have sex more and also make me want to please her orally. She too re-iterated she wanted no part of a relationship outside of sex with him, that was for me, the intimacy is for me. She said she does have feelings for him but not nearly like she has for me. So all in all, I feel 100% better so I am on board with what they want to do and my sister in law is taking the kids this weekend so Steve can visit tonight and maybe tomorrow.
Just a quick note on some of the items you mention in your last reply, I am not 5 inches, maybe 3 so there is no way I can make her cum through intercourse. Also, I am 62 years old (she is 17 years younger than me) and have ED issues in addition to my other issues so the chances of me satisfying her other than with my tongue are extremely slim. Maybe if I wore one of those cock sleeves but she says she doesn’t even like dildos because they don’t feel “real”.
So that is where we are at now. I do feel 100% better and excited and proud to be her cuckold
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Say_Oy
Great to hear about your progress and glad I could help. Communication is key in any relationship. Also, you may be submissive to your wife or bull or both but it’s OK for a bottom/sub/slave to make an occasional request. A good Dom/Domme will listen, file it and eventually grant it.
My sub occasionally asks for something. I may have a whole caning scene planned and she says “I had a rough day, can we just cuddle?” and poof, we cuddle for foreplay. I may be a Dom but I try not to be stupid… we all have to get something from the relationship. I bet that if you asked your wife nicely she might even sleep naked with you once in a while. Or let you run your hands over her body… say in a whole body massage. Read up on massage technique and anatomy. You can even massage tits.
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Bellaazz
Thanks and you have helped ! I do give her massages quite often. She says I have great hands. It is a tremendous tease to sometimes give her a sensuous massage followed by getting her off a couple times with my tongue and no recriprocation she drifts off to sleep and I am left with my tiny cock rock hard. However I am not sure if I will be allowed to do this anymore. I am totally submissive to her sexually so I am sure whatever she wants will be the rule but I will remember your suggestion about occassionally asking for something. I do have a very hard time with this now but will try
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