Vulnerability

Hello, LadyOmphale, welcome to my site.

Your point is a good one in that both of you can be vulnerable in this process, but that is something that also binds you closer together. By recognizing each other is vulnerable in your own ways, you can both work toward mitigating that fear in the other as you move forward.

Some practical advice: His vulnerability is best mitigated through inclusion – never letting him feel he doesn't know where you stand or what it is you've been doing. Your vulnerability is best mitigated through making better choices about who you meet and where.

One of the 'entry level' ways of experiencing sharing is when you attend social events or venues with the express purpose of 'being available'. These venues can be work related social functions or just enjoying the social nightlife where males and females are hoping to get nature to take its course. I often recommend that the husband attend with you rather than just sit home and wait. Of course this means he watches over you rather than sits with you. This allows him to feel included and allows you a greater feeling of security. Some wives feel inhibited by knowing the husband is nearby, but for couples where the need for this mitigation of vulnerability is a higher concern than having him watch you flirt, the choice is easy.

If you do feel inhibited by him watching, try to remind yourself of how arousing it is for him to watch you…to see you flirting, showing off and behaving as a sexually available woman. If you're in doubt of that, make sure to find a moment to talk to him after you've been flirting with someone or danced with another man and I think you'll find his 'truth detector' speaking volumes.

Because you never know when or where you might meet where mutual interest occurs, a hotwife should always dress and behave the part. This doesn't require that you dress like a hooker, but it does mean you can't rely on your 'married' wardrobe and behaviors which reflect your married status, not your available status.

Hope this helps a bit – keep us informed of your progress!

Yes Lady Omphale. You are so right to exam the this aspect of the new relationships bioth physically and emotionally.

You are especially vulnerable physically meeting new man you may not have taken the time to know very well(for some Women that's part of the enticement, for others they need to be with someone they know well, are previously attracted too and trust). Please make sure you discuss this openly with your sub and have plans for every dangerous possibility.

You are also vulnerable to the feelings of guilt breaking away from long embedded traditions. Talking with your husband and others should help you through this. Your husband needs to convey that he is understanding of his role in your life. You need to find out from him just what his thoughts are and needs and then assess the best way to lead him onward in your journey.  That's what he wants most from you. To see you as the stronge and confident  Woman he worships and desires to make happy. If you are truely in a Domme/sub dynamic he is hoping you with take him to where he is afraid to go alone.

There is so much more to say on this. So very exciting to think about.