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Voyeurcuck

    Nice to see you had a good conversation with your wife. And from the minutes you post it seems she and you were quite honest.

    To some extend, I understand your wife’s situation too. While you only have emotions for her and sexual pleasure of her fucking her ex, she needs to handle emotions for both him, you and sexual relationships to both of you too. In other words a more complex situation for her than for you in many aspects.

    When she said she was taken by surprise I think you should trust her. She was in a different spot than you, and hormones and lust filled her body while anxious and fear filled yours. And it must be quite hard to be questioned like you did too. I see the same with my wife, if I question her too hard it becomes awkward and misunderstandings occur.

    I think I was one of the guys saying you should drop her ex. It was based on the knowledge I had at that time, and more over the lack of intimacy I saw in your description of your and your wife’s way of handling the situation. The way you just described your conversation with her completely changed my mind, I think this actually could make your relationship stronger.

    Another aspect: She has married her ex but she has divorced him too. I don’t know why, but it seems like she doesn’t want him back. So if you compare risk of her leaving with him or another handsome lover it may actually be more safe to keep her ex. She knows she can’t live with him as husband and wife, and most often women stay strong once they have learned that lesson.

    Let us know how you progress – best of luck to all 3 of you