Reply To: Wanting to tell a partner, but how?

Cathy,
Thanks for the advice, but that wasn’t what I was looking for. I have a very simple test a wife or husband can administered which will show if a husband is cuck or stag material. And this test doesn’t even bring up the topic of hotwifing or cuckolding.
The test I tell couples is very simple. Before you fool around and you’re naked in bed, share stories about your sexual experiences before you were married. The wife wants to make her stories as graphic as possible. If the husband becomes aroused and hard listening to her tell him about other men fucking her, he is almost certainly cuck or stag material. If he doesn’t, she knows it’s likely he isn’t. The beauty of this test is if he does get aroused and hard, the wife can comment on that saying something like, “It looks like you like the thought of other men being with me.” If he has held any fantasies of her hotwifing, this is his opening to take advantage and answer back, “I guess my body gave me away. Do you ever have that desire? To be with a different man for sex?”
The beauty of this test is the topic of hotwifing and/or cuckolding is approached in a non-threatening manner. If the husband does not get aroused by hearing his wife’s sex stories, then the lifestyle is probably off the table. The other good thing about this test is the husband can suggest sharing stories and when he gets aroused by hearing his wife’s stories, she may comment on his hardon. If she doesn’t, he can always apologize for getting so aroused which could lead to an open conversation about the lifestyle.
Thanks again for your advice and suggestions. I think you misinterpreted my original posting, or i need to edit it and make it clearer.
John