Re: Is this a good way to go about it?

We have been married 15 years, and I think you nailed it, I have been jerking off allot, and always about her with other men. And as I think about it, the times we had “sex”, I had even jerked off that day, once several times, so I guess it's no wonder I can't keep it hard.

As far as comments, they are not mean, but always said in a gentle, teasing way. One time I had fallen asleep on the couch and woke with a full hard on, and after I stood up, she started giggling, saying “you look like Ron Burgundy in Anchorman, with your little, I mean big weenie” or when watching a video of me as a toddler naked, she squealed “wow, not much has changed!!” again not in a mean way with a smile. One time when sucking my dick I tried to shove it down her throat and she spit me out laughing asking ” were you trying to choke me?” when it was clear I didn't really enter her throat, but had given my all. Or when seeing me naked, like after exiting the shower, she always giggles, saying some thing like “I see you”. I know she isn't happy with the size, but goes out of her way to pretend it is not an issue, as I do belive she loves me, and does not want to hurt my feelings, even if she is not getting the sexual satisfaction she deserves.