Re: Know Your BULL (Article)

Welcome, Shango – I liked /  agreed with a lot of what you had to say.

With regard to the difference between a Master and a Bull, I would add to that by suggesting a Master is only a Master when someone entrusts them with their submission – otherwise, they are a Dom until such time. I don’t allow anyone to address me as Master unless we’ve made a commitment to such a relationship to each other. Semantics aside, there is definitely a large difference between a bull who is mainly a sexual surrogate and a Dom or Master who takes both responsibility.

Where I disagree quite strenuously:

Ownership. Ownership is simply an agreement among all involved to deepen the commitment of Dominant/submissive themes in the relationship. No Dom, in my opinion, should ever think to have or seek any financial control over a couple – money clouds all other objectives and anyone seeking to have say in the finances of a submissive or submissive couple should be carefully considered as being abusive of their role. A Master may be sought to provide guidance or opinion as a trusted individual, but no couple should ever give up their financial security to anyone.

“Let it be known that whatever the Black Master wants, he keeps. The white couple must learn to deal with and accept that … most especially the hubby.”

These sorts of statements won’t get you very far with the couples who are members here. Submission is a gift the offer, not something you are entitled to.