Re: Relationship Changes

Welcome K,

I cannot answer your question without asking you one first: what do you truly wish your role to be? As the dominant partner in the couple now, you have the ability to share her as a dominant vs sharing her as a cuckold. The difference is perspective/role. As her dominant, you would be making the choices of who has access to her body, how they can enjoy her, what intimate pleasures she will provide them. As a cuckold, that's largely out of your hands as you are sharing her from a more submissive perspective.

Having said that, you may still desire to share her from a submissive perspective, that is, not being the one to make all the decisions about who is inside your wife and when. Even for someone who currently fills the dominant role, this can be very attractive. Being the dominant doesn't always mean that's who you want to be or who you want to be sexually.

There are a number of ways to approach this and I'd be glad to discuss them with you, but I'd like some feedback from you on where you see this going for yourself. How your wife is going to respond to another man inside her will greatly depend on what your role in this is.

I have been with a couple myself where the husband was the dominant partner, but wasn't experienced as a Dom and involved me as their 'trainer' assuming that's the role he wanted in their lifestyle. When the three of us were together, she belonged to me, no questions asked. I didn't treat him as a cuckold, but more as a student who deferred to an instructor. He still followed my instructions, he still was denied being inside his wife for at least two days before we would be together and he deferred to me in how I chose to enjoy/train her. I would call this a more passive role than submissive, though if you step back and consider the context, it's still quite submissive given our societal norms, but but not to the extent of actively humbling him and overtly exercising his submission.

Perhaps this is something along the lines of what you need.