Re: Wife Initiated Cuckolding

In cuckolding, it's the mental interplay that truly defines the lifestyle for most. Yes, the better sex is a factor, but the reason the sex is often so good is simply because of the mental/emotional aspects of the experience. It's simply that in cuckolding, 2+1>3.

It's been much more common in my experience than not to see wives who are slightly or even overtly dominant with their husband become increasingly submissive for their boyfriend. When she chooses him as a partner, it is the act of promoting him to alpha within your 'pack' and even though she might be the alpha female, the alpha female still defers to the alpha male. This is only at the primal level, being human, we have a conscious mind that can layer on atop that.

It seems to me that you have both the perspective and relationship necessary to not only experience this together, but flourish within in it. You know her desire to enjoy another male in her life and in her bed isn't an effort to replace you or diminish your role in her life, but rather to supplement what you both experience in an instinctively sexual manner.

We are mammals, after all, and though we may pair for life, genetics have proven that seldom do we mate (monogamously) for life.

I know it's easy for me to say, but you might give thought to your concerns about your community and what those around you might think if they 'suspected' something. Newsflash: small communities always suspect something whether real or not, for one thing and secondly, who cares what they think. When you're 98 and look back, are you going to think to yourself, “phew, sure glad I made all those people happy by living up to their expectation of us…”.  I think not. In the end, the only people you need to be concerned with is yourselves (and children). Living your lives to please others only leaves you bound to disappoint both them and yourselves. Even if they were to see your wife on a date with a boyfriend, the most they could do is assume she's cheating and unless they were caught making out, there's lots of room for defense, if anyone even dared mention what was seen.

At this point, even if you were all the man she needed (you may be), you can't be all the man she wants, which is something else entirely.

I once dated a wife whose husband was the stud she wanted; he was hung as well as I was, had the stamina and tongue she enjoyed, but once she got a taste of making him watch her fuck someone else while he was denied, she was hooked – and so was he.

I don't think you'd have it any other way now either, now that you've tasted it.