About Size

I agree completely! My bf is almost 5 inches and thinks he’s about average. All the research seems to agree with him but I’d been with a few guys before him and none were smaller than 7. Since we began this lifestyle I’ve been with nobody smaller than 8. And girth definitely has been bigger than 3.5. My bf is 4 and I find he’s definitely not thick!

I’m about 4.5 inches long and about 3 inches thick. I think this is probably on the smaller side of average, but my wife had only ever been with guys bigger than me before we were together so I think I probably seem smaller. I tend to agree with @4decadecuck that people seem to be bigger

You are supposed to be erect when you measure… and ideally super turned on.

they might be using a universal standard, which might have to take into account some ethnicities and cultures with relatively smaller ‘average’ size.

I think men with large dicks find there are a lot of willing women. Smaller men hesitate to try because they fear rejection. The more your wife experiences larger the more insecure you become.

My dickette is 2 to 2.5 inches flaccid and can maybe stretch to 4 or 4.5 when erect. It is a waste of flesh in my opinion. My wife,, her 4 sisters and her mother agreed when we got married. My wife has had me drop my pants and panties so she could show it to her gf’s and bulls. I actually get excited by allthe laughing. Some they not to laugh, to be polite, but can never hold back.

I’m going to just throw it out there. The hardest thing in cuckolding is, like most sites it is usually a male whose fantasy has been crushed and they need the fantasy of being close to the action. People may not believe it but my husband and I can tell when a posting is written by a man or a woman. These site had good intentions when they started but so many have now become a place where males go to write about all their experiences, but in reality, they are men who got the cuckolding fantasy and thoughts in their head, but when asking the wife if she’s interested they have almost always received an immovable NO! If a wife calls her husband’s bluff and asks who would be their “bull,” she has already gone through the Rolodex in her head to see if they even know anyone who would do it. Then she goes through the possibilities again and none or maybe one guy they know is attractive enough that she would feel the necessary chemistry. Then she dumps it back on him expecting that since he knows the guy he can also talk with the guy and see what he thinks. Unless you are a married couple with single male friends (which no one recommends anyway) and the friend declines, have you forever altered the equality of the friendship.

If the wife is being told that the friend is without a doubt interested in experimenting to see how things feel, the husband who is superior in his relationship security should talk with both his wife and his friend. If mutual agreement exists and the wife knows the friend well and feels comfortable with the possibility, the wife should pick an evening for the friend to come over and talk. I don’t mean just general conversation. If he agrees, the husband must trust and respect his wife enough to be in their home with the friend but WITHOUT her husband. If the friend agrees to 90 minutes – 2 hours, the husband leaves the house but under no circumstances can he return for at least 30 minutes more than the agreed upon conversation time. If he will not agree to something harmless and simple like that you can be assured he will not accept and respect that all sex acts are for her, at her discretion and the husband is too insecure to experiment with cuckolding.

If he agrees to leave for a couple hours and the friend arrives after he has gone, if you have an iPhone or other device that can be followed online, the wife must go online and see where her husband’s phone is pinging. With an insecure, unsure man you can bet it will ping down the street or a couple streets over and his plan is to sneak back to the house and look in the windows where he has coincidentally opened drapes somewhat or opened blinds for all the windows that will give him a view of the inside while the wife and friend are talking. If you notice your husband had set up the house, have the friend walk with you as you close every drape and blind. If the discussion was supposed to take place in the den, look for tiny cameras that may have been placed so the husband can monitor the room. If you find any, intentionally turn them off or elsewhere. If you are not sure, pick another place to talk. The garage is always good because you can see and hear most things. If you want to talk in the back yard, look for the most cluttered or leaf covered area and take lawn chairs there to talk. If you must be in the house – say – out of the rain or snow, the kitchen table is usually good. Also make sure you turn on every outside light in the yard and around the perimeter. You’ll know if your husband’s insecurities are not conducive to cuckolding.

If your husband does actually extend you the respectful privacy you expected and you know for certain he has gone elsewhere, watch your time, but get to talking! Ask the friend why he’s there? If he says, “I don’t know, Joe said you and should talk,” stop there and go on to watching TV or anything else to bore the friend into leaving. If you cannot get the friend to admit he’s there so you can test the chemistry, he’s too unsure and is weighing his friendship with the husband against what he really wants.

If the friend is right up front that he and your husband talked and he is interested in trying it, ask him why he has never given you a compliment or tossed a flirt your direction, or shown any attention before this. He may be under the impression you are going to make all the first moves and he didn’t plan to have to work at it. There must be open two-way communication between all parties, especially between the wife and her bull. If the friend has been part of your lives for a while, he’s not creepy, excessively lonely because he doesn’t know how to approach women, and you feel the pull of interest and chemistry, tell him he can kiss you if he’d like to. Women know, if that first kiss is blah, unimaginative, too hard or slobbery, that is pretty good testament that he will not be very good with oral sex. He might surprise you though!

If your kiss feels natural and he’s really working it, touching your hair and face, or slides his hands down your arms while moving in for more kisses on his own, it’s a good sign that he is interested in you and your pleasure and if you are really feeling it, stop kissing and talk. Ask him what he wants to do. Then you can tell him what you are thinking and want to try. I had one of my husband’s close friends come over to test the waters. It was really nice, I knew I had all the privacy I asked for and I talked at length and made sure the friend will be comfortable with your husband watching or maybe participating. Move in and passionately kiss him like you own him. Always rub his crotch to gauge his interest. If you can feel he is turned on by the kiss, move in and begin to remove his shirt and pull it off along with any T-shirts. Rub your hands over him and then sit back. Tell him, “Stand up, slip off your shoes and socks. now take off your pants and underwear so I can see you naked. If he is comfortable and does not hesitate, check him out! Stand up and kiss him again and take his cock in your hand and stroke it. Once he’s hard you will know if he has a cock you believe will make it worth it when it’s inside you.

If he is hard and you are impressed by it, tell him so. Ask if he’s clean and look at it. If things look good and you are turned on by his erection, it’s likely you will be running your marital vows or asking yourself is you want it or it you’re that kind of woman. If there are no hesitations, kiss him again and then either sit down again or (I prefer to drop to my knees) you want to kneel, that’s the time. Take the head into your mouth and swirl your tongue around it. Listen for any sounds he makes. Look up at him to make sure he’s looking at you slide your mouth further down. I do not break eye contact unless I accidentally gag myself! If you cannot take all of him down your throat, don’t worry. Just go to it. You know that night is only going to be a blow job. He doesn’t care and will really get into it.

If he reaches down to fondle your breasts, gently take his hands and place them on your shoulder, telling him everything is for him that night. Most men don’t wan to remain standing for a blow job so ask him. If he wants to lie down, use the nearest carpeted surface. When he lays back his balls will drop a little and you can pull his cock forward and see just how long it really is. My rule is generally nothing less than my husband has, but that is unfair to most men. Lay on your stomach between his legs and let nothing else but the sensations of the head, shape, girth and length in your mouth enter your mind. A blow job is also a good way to determine how long he’s likely to go when he fucks you. Do your best to see how far down you can go. I’ve found if I pull it forward almost level, I can open my throat in that position and then slowly work down on it stopping if you feel a gag coming on. So far, my husband is the only man I am unable to take down my throat. He has over 6” of girth and it doesn’t shrink!

If you can take him balls deep and he has made it a point to shave everything for you, work all the way down and pause. Look up at him and with draw. Tell him you liked doing that. He will tell you if you were the first so enjoy the accolades. Go back to work on him but watch the clock so your husband doesn’t surprise you before you can make his friend feel great and you can swallow it all. EVERY WOMAN MUST SWALLOW! If you have to, close your sinuses and you won’t taste or smell anything. He will tell you he’s going to cum so you can be ready. As you hear him breathing faster and grunting or most guys say, “Oh shit! or Oh Fuck!” when they cum. You know it’s inevitable so if its down your throat he will shoot it directly into your tummy. You must take it all and not stop swallowing until you can tell he’s no longer ejaculating. When he’s done, slowly slip him out of your throat and swallow again. I always grab a swig of pop first so I rinse my mouth and swallow that too. Move up for another passionate kiss and then tell him its time he got dressed. I always tell a first timer that it was all for him and he cannot tell my husband what happened in any manner. Sit and chat until your husband comes home and he sees you both are sitting in the same places on the couch or wherever. He’ll think it was just talk and nothing happened. Say goodbye to the friend and then kiss your husband and go about doing whatever you need to do around the house.

Your husband will be following you around like a puppy asking for details, but all you say is you enjoyed a long conversation and his friend would be OK as a lover or third. It will drive him nuts but eventually he will stop asking. Then you can pick a day and ask if he’s OK with it. Give it time to see if his friend blabs. If he doesn’t, when he comes over, you tell your husband you want some private foreplay time before he comes in. Make sure he hears you cum because his friend gives great face and knows how to use his fingers. If he doesn’t, TEACH HIM. He will likely be the only other guy get good sex play with other than your husband! After – and only AFTER you have had as many intense orgasms as you can take, then you call your husband into the room. Make sure YOU are on top and working the friend’s cock with your hips and legs, as deep as you can take it but do not look at your husband. He can stand and watch as you passionately kiss his friend.

On your husband’s first time, you can tell you’re in-charge. If he’s not hard he may be conflicted. When the friend tell you how great it feels and whispers he is going to cum, you trade sides and take him Missionary style. If you pause a minute or two before he slips into you again, it will go a long way toward extending the friends fuck time while your husband watches. If you don’t normally make sexy sounds or noises, make sure you do with the friend pumping away. Kiss him and rake the back of his neck several times. If he makes you cum, make it very well know but never fake it! Remember, it is up to your husband to make a move and ask you to get in on the fun. If he doesn’t, stare into the eyes of the man fucking you and don’t break the gaze. Lift your head to kiss him and hold his head in your hands. You’ll know when his orgasm is building. Point your toes downward into the mattress and lift your pelvis to meet his thrusts. When he starts to cum, muffle his groans with a passionate kiss but take him deep and allow him to fill you. When he stops pumping, wait a minute and curl your pelvis upward so your lovers cum does not run out of you!

Have your lover gently withdraw his cock and you must tell him, “Gawd was that good. You fucked me so hard and deep! Wait a few minutes and we’ll fuck again. Reach out to your husband and grab his hand and pull him down to kiss you. Stroke his cock so he hopefully gets hard. Focus only on him. Then tell him, “I want you to tongue fuck me! Eat my pussy and make me cum!” That will be the test of reality. if he has been fantasizing about it he will likely go right in. Lie back and enjoy it. When he’s really into it, squeeze down and push that cum load out of you into his mouth or all over his face. If he takes it and continues eating you until you cum, then you tell him to fuck you. He should be almost bursting hard. Tell him to go slow and enjoy what he feels. When he is all the way in, you kiss him and whisper that you are always his girl. When he cums and he’s laying on you, turn to the friend and ask if he’s ready again. If he says yes and your husband moves out of the way, make sure the friend stops and licks you too. If he refuses or tries to do a crappy job and isn’t licking you top to bottom, he can stop and wait. Ask your husband to take his friend’s cock into his mouth. If he does it, you are where you want to be. After your husband has clean off his cock, the friend can take you again while your husband touches you. When the friend cums again, ask your husband to clean up your pussy. If as the friend pulls out your husband leans over and take him in his mouth again, you have set the die and you tell him his friend can fuck you but your husband can’t unless he does his submission and clean up work. It will progress from there and you will decide who does what when you all three are together.

When you are alone with your husband, wait and see if he brings it up. If not you can, but make sure your husband knows you definitely want it again. If he agrees, kiss him, take a shower together and relax watching TV. You must always tell your husband how much you enjoyed that first time and you’d like it again next Friday. You make the call and arrange for your lover to come over. If your husband is into it enough and he says it’s OK if his friend is there when he gets home, you tell the friend that you’ll suck his cock as soon as he can get there. Like the first one, it’s between you two alone. You’ll feel empowered and when your husband gets home he will start showing up hard and ready. He always watches his friend fuck you and cum inside you. You should be right where you want to be. If your husband agrees you can fuck his friend whenever you want but he gets to eat it, talk about having him over almost every day because you like the way it makes you feel. When he says OK, you have your cuckold. They remain best friends and the friend can’t tell him what you two do in private. We did it just like this and I had the best most intense sex until I was worn out. I really did have it both ways. It lasted 15 months before the friend got a transfer. We have not done it since because we don’t know anyone we can trust and I’m not going to have my husband told what he can and can’t do with me. I never wanted it that way. I just wanted to be desired, have a lot of great sex and fulfill my husband’s fantasy that he talked about for a year. Right now it’s only us but we are looking for the right guy here in Orange County, CA. I’m ready! Sorry it was so long.