How the Hot wife lifestyle saved my health

So I’m writing this to respond to the above comment on whether or not you should get into the hot wife lifestyle. About three years ago is when it all started to put this in perspective I have been married for 16 years and I have two children. I work in the accounting area for a large business. I have a very stress free job. I’m not responsible for anybody, and nobody bothers me. I come and go as I please, and I’m doing the job that I love. My husband and I were married for just over 2 years and we had our son, and then we had a daughter four years later. Everything was normal. My husband went to work. My husband came home from work. He had different shifts every week, but we managed to get it all done.

Fast-forward to when I started to get into this lifestyle and why. Both my son and my daughter play lacrosse. They are on travel teams. So quite often, I was running one place. My husband was running another place. We didn’t really see each other on weekends and during the summertime we saw each other even less.

So what started my journey was, I was becoming very stressed and overwhelmed with work, family and responsibilities. At first, I started blaming my husband for lack of support in the house and lack of support with the kids (not realizing that he’s doing the same exact things as me in addition to work). It came to the point that I stopped loving my job. I was dreading getting up in the morning for what the day had in store for me with getting my kids to school, their sports, keeping up with the house, and work. My only peace and quiet time became the car rides to work in the morning. I started shaking. I had developed bad stabbing pains in both my shoulder blades that never seemed to go away no matter what I did. ( I am tiny in stature and no it wasn’t my boobs. They are small). Then one day I was sitting at my desk, finishing up work looking at our family calendar and all of a sudden I was freezing at the same time that I was sweating, I started getting a migraine as well. It was so bad it made me nauseous. I managed to drive home and when I got into the driveway, I noticed I was shaking even more. I started feeling even more nauseous. I went in the house, got my daughter and her friend to lacrosse practice and pushed through the day. I figuring I caught a virus or Covid. But this just didn’t stop. It went on for weeks. Finally my husband convinced me to go to the doctor. They drew my blood. They tested me for Covid flu, lymes disease you name it. Everything came back fine. They sent me for an MRI of my back. There was nothing there. The Dr said it was maybe because I was hunched over a computer all day. I started talking to my gynecologist figuring it was menopause. She said maybe it was the start of menopause. She started a whole round of tests that came back negative. My estrogen levels were right in the range. My gynecologist is a good doctor. She sent me to a holistic doctor to see if I was missing some type of vitamin my blood work came back I needed some vitamin D and iron. That did nothing for my energy levels. I was always tired barely getting through the days. I had become miserable. Nothing was wrong with me but I just felt run down and tired as well as in pain. I started to develop stomach issues from worrying about what was wrong with me. The migraines kept coming mom and off. I even thought I was starting to loose my hair and my eyelashes kept falling out. If you could believe that. I was falling apart. There was no let up at work or at home.

Then one day I was sitting in the cafeteria eating the food I had prepared for myself, and I started to realize that as I was looking at my schedule for the day it made my symptoms worse. It was overwhelming. So I just broke down and started crying in this big giant cafeteria. Three girls that I know saw me and they came over asked me what was wrong. I Told them I didn’t know. they were giving me that look like yea right. One of the girls asked me if it was my husband cheating on me. which it wasn’t. I said no , and I just blurted everything out to them. All the stress the lack of support from my husband and my kids, the whole family was just depending on me for everything. Then one of the girls stated that I was probably having panic attacks. Especially being that my trigger point seems to be when I was looking at the calendar. I was kind of blown away. The girl had said that the symptoms I had were all from stress. So the other two girls left and the one girl stayed behind and we were chatting and she opened up about going through the same thing with her two children and her husband. She said without insulting you, when was the last time you had an orgasm? I told her I had had one three or four days ago in the shower with my magic wand. She said those don’t count. She went on to say she would use her vibrator all the time. It’s not the same as great sex. She asked when was the last time your husband basically f’d my brains out? That’s when I started to think we hadn’t had sex in probably nine months. I tried to explain that when we get home we clean up take care of the kids makes sure they are ready homework is done we eat takeout or whatever I can throw together then we pass out. The girl started to talk to me about her life and she was going through the same things a few years ago as me. Same symptoms only pain in her side that they thought it was her appendix or a torn ab muscle. But it wasn’t any of that.

she said she was researching auto immune diseases she didn’t have lymes. She said her mother would tell her that is life her mother had the same issues.

then while she was looking at her computer she stumbled across some articles about the power of orgasms and great sex. After reading the articles, she started to believe that her elements could’ve been fixed by more sex and better orgasms. The problem was that she lived in a house with her kids so that was limited as well. They had to be quiet and quick before someone walked in or before they passed out. Sex was a chore more than a pleasure when it did happen. Also the fact that her husband was also in bed and done by the end of the day as well made what she was looking for seem out of reach. She also said that, even though her husband was a great loyal guy the orgasms that women were describing in the articles she was reading. She had never experienced. It didn’t help that she had only been with her husband as well. She said she began to realize that her husband was just physically limited in how he could make her feel. She had never had an orgasm from sex. She started researching articles on how to have better sex and that’s when she started hearing and learning about the hotwife lifestyle.

She had all the same criteria as me with the ailments and that her husband wasn’t a bad guy. They as a family were always running around doing something, going somewhere. She said she began to take stock of things as I started to do after speaking with her, and that her husband was doing just as much as her if not more so he wasn’t lazy. He wasn’t the type of guy that just came home and watched TV and expected her to do everything and my husband didn’t do that either. She loves her husband more than anything. I loved my husband more than anything. Our husbands loved us. She said all the affection and time that they used to spend with each other, went out the window with kids. They would start the day telling each other how they were going to f the hell out of each other and as the day went on by the time 7 o’clock came, they couldn’t even keep their eyes open and they went to bed and this went on every day. She then said she stumbled onto some hot wife articles and she started reading them and that started her on her journey. Since becoming a hot wife all her ailments went away. All her stress had gone away. She had told me to read up on it and find a guy or two that were solely into the woman’s pleasure. Not their own pleasure. So s he had forwarded me some articles told me to look into it and talk about it with my husband. She said fitting in routine sex and going to bed was really the problem. And that all relationships loose their passion and that was the problem. She said my husband and I were just basically roommates. we had let life conquer us and break us. She also said that you can’t get that passion and mind blowing orgasms with a guy you have been with forever. You need that hunt the adrenaline that new guy unknown how big he was what he liked what positions he wanted. The thrill of new dick.

So I went home and I started researching everything. My husband came home and for some reason I didn’t even try to hide what I was doing. I just opened up to him and blurted everything out. He sat on the bed and confessed that he felt the same way and he knew that he couldn’t give me the things that he was reading in the articles. But as he was reading these articles, his face became flush. I thought he was embarrassed. He told me he was turned on.

A few weeks went by and my job had hired a few new people. Now, normally I never gave anybody the time of day and when they talk to me and it was obviously they wanted to fill me out. I would play with my wedding ring so they would walk away. This one gentleman was in his late 30s and he was a nice looking gentleman. Very confident, and seemed very strong. It was obvious when he was talking to me his eyes were wandering. I did nothing to let him know that I was married. I found myself starting to flirt with him, talking to him about how many times he went to the gym and how good he looked. He had shuffled off After a few minutes, and I texted my husband. My husband told me to unbutton my blouse so that my boobs are hanging out. My husband told me I should walk over to where he’s standing and drop some papers and bend over so he can get a good view down my shirt. I decided I was going to do as my husband said. I still remember walking up to him. My face got flush. My palms got sweaty. I was so nervous. And right in front of him I just dropped all my papers I bent down so that he had a perfect view right down my shirt, and I remember as I was picking up the papers I looked up at him and he was just staring right down my shirt. He saw me looking up and he jumped down and quickly helped me pick up the papers. I thanked him and quickly went back to my desk. I was so flushed, so turned on. I noticed my vagina felt like it was on fire and I was soaking wet down there. It was at that point I just wondered when I went from wearing my sexy thongs to wearing my mom’s type of underwear. I don’t even remember buying them or how that had happened. I texted my husband and told him what had happened and he told me that he was so hard waiting to hear back and listening to me describe what had happened. A few days went buy and I made a trip to Victoria’s Secret and purchased all new underwear and threw out my grandma underwear. I also purchased new bras. Mine were over 10 years old. While I was at work my flirt came up to me and started chatting me up. He said I looked different the past few days. There was a glow about me. I smiled and he then asked me to lunch. I stuttered a bit and said absolutely. As soon as he walked away I called my husband and asked him what to do. My husband said just to be honest with the guy and tell him what we are looking for. At lunch I had removed my bra so he could have a good view of my nipples through my silk shirt. I drove to the restaurant and we started talking as he kept trying to peak at my nipples. As I grabbed my water my flirt saw my wedding ring. His body language changed and he inquired about the ring. I didn’t know what to say. I got flustered and blurted out that my husband and I were trying the hot wife lifestyle and I asked if he would be interested in being a part of it. I remember he was taken back by it. He said that was an unusual request. He said he was familiar with it through watching porn. And he started asking questions. Some I had answers to others I just said I didn’t know. I just remember how wet my vagina was and how my heart was racing. I remember how hard my nipples felt. I had never had this happen to me before. My flirt said he wanted to meet my husband and then think about it. The rest of the date sped by and we talked and went back to work.

I had arranged for my kids to get rides to their games and I could watch the highlights of their play from the app. It was Friday and my husband and I were going to meet my flirt for dinner. My husband told me not to wear a bra and he had a special pair of underwear. It was a micro thong. And from that point till the end of the night I was just so wet down there. We went to dinner my husband sitting across from my flirt and me sitting next to my flirt as my husband insisted on. We all chatted and got along. We found out that he was married but his wife had passed on and he just wanted to be single. As dinner went on we got to the awkward phase of the night and my flirt asked us back to the apartment he had. My husband drove me to my flirts front door. We all got out and went in. My husband put the radio on I started dancing for them and my flirt joined in and my flirt took me to the bedroom and asked to have some privacy. Which I thought was so hot. As I left my husband flushed sitting in the living room with an erection. We went into the bedroom he undressed me and I had had the best sex ever. He threw me around all the different positions the moaning the spanking. He did things to me I had never done before. It had lasted for about 2 hours according to my husband. My husband and my flirt shook hands exchanged numbers and we left. My husband wasn’t mad he was turned on and asked if I still had energy for him. I smiled and said always. Right outside my flirts apartment I gave my husband a 20 second hand job and he exploded like I had never seen all over himself the car and the dash board. I had never in our relationship seen him explode like that.

So as time went on my flirt became my boyfriend. My husband and my flirt became best friends. And thinking back on things, the day I dropped those papers till the day I wrote this I had never had another symptom of pain in my back. Never had another migraine, never had another panic attack. My husband will set dates up for me with my flirt, I will set dates up. Sometimes my husband is there sometimes not. The schedules will get done the house will get cleaned things will work out. Making the time for my flirt and thinking about him just makes the day fly by with pleasure. I am symptom free since I started this lifestyle. My marriage is stronger than ever. I have been having sex 5-7 times a week. I am healthy and happy again. I sleep 7 hours a day straight with no medicine to help me. And not a worry in the world. I take 1 multivitamin a day and that’s it. I now dress to impress I am happy all the time. I don’t argue with my kids anymore. I treat my husband better. I have sex with him now on the regular. My marriage is filled with happiness and love.

I should add that I have one other boyfriend and my husband found a couple for me where I am their unicorn. The couple is a bit on the dominant side but they really know how to give a girl an orgasm. I leave there and I am so satisfied that I am good sexually for a few days. More to come on those details in future posts. This lifestyle is what I was missing and it is what every woman is missing. Ladies we don’t need medicine, we don’t need to live with a weight on our chests that if feels like we can’t breathe, and that we are drowning from the stress of the family life. We all need an understanding husband who is supportive and a boyfriend. Or boyfriends and a couple so we always have an option when we ladies need to be taken care of.

Also the last point. Never at any point was thinking about a divorce. I love my husband and he loves me. My husband knows everything about what happens. He shows up when he wants but likes to let me have my privacy as well