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    • Luvr
      Keymaster
        December 12, 2010 at 12:42 pm
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        #9265

        Getting started in such an intense and often complex lifestyle is seldom easy, but neither is anything truly worth experiencing.

        This thread is here to discuss the article Introduction to Cuckolding – if you want to start your own topic within Getting Started, please feel free to do so!

      • tyler durden
          March 1, 2011 at 1:20 pm
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          #9984

          my lovely wife and i have been married 15 faithful years. we have three super kids and are socially active in our church and community. I ,for some

          unexplainable reason, have had the fantasy of seeing my wife sexually involved with another man. This goes against everything i've been taught,

          monogomy and fidelity. I dont have any interest in being with another woman and I know she would completely object to that, but for

          some reason I think she might be willing to enjoy another man. Its diffcult to explain it to her when I dont understand this myself.

                    In the past we joked in our conversations and  asked eachother “would you ever…….” ; so I asked her would she ever be with another

          woman, her reply was a quick “no”. The conversation escalated and I asked her would she ever be with another man , she paused and said  she

          “doesn't know”. I asked her what would be the most promiscuous thing she would do? and I suggested “how about two guys?”, surprisingly she said

          “probably.” She quickly recoiled with “I don't know” and suggested that I want to cheat on her and the conversation fizzled. I stressed that

          wasn't the case at all. We've not spoken about the topic since but thought has still stuck in my head.

                    I plan on bringing up the topic again since she seems to be very sexual lately, but I want to  do it in a better manner. I realize this isn't

          some thing thats decided right away. I at least want to “plant the seed” right and let the thought grow. Sorry for the long post.

          Your thoughts, comments appreciated.

          cheers !

        • Luvr
          Keymaster
            March 2, 2011 at 1:22 pm
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            #9986

            Tyler,

             

            It's a good sign that your wife was willing to admit to being at all interested in other men.

            Her “don't know” answers really mean “I'm nervous to talk about it”, which is to be expected since it's a pretty

            big issue for her to admit to her husband that she might have interest in other men.

            What if you were to then accuse her of wanting to cheat, for example. Yes, you had been asking her

            and likely obviously aroused by the conversation – which helped her open up as much as she did,

            but you'll have to do more to reassure her that this isn't some sort of trap.

            Talking about this outside the bedroom can also help. If you're out at dinner or shopping and among a crowd of men,

            start asking her quietly which men she would choose as a lover, or point one out to her quietly and suggest he might make

            a good choice for her 'boyfriend'. Your playfull manner will help disarm her reflexive denials and help her open up more.

             

            Let me know how it goes!

          • tyler durden
              March 3, 2011 at 1:05 pm
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              #9990

              thanks for the advice. ill let you know

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