Moving Beyond Talking

What about a mutual friend that you may have? You could talk to him and it might be easier on her because she already knows him.

I sympathise with your problem, @Daman. For me, part of the problem is that we have no friends with whom I would be all that interested in her hooking up. They’re mostly not her type, or we don’t have the sort of relationship in which flirting would be even close to appropriate. Yet, if I even think about “setting it up” with a new person, my wife would feel manipulated into it as opposed to it happening naturally.

I suppose ideally, I should find some good looking guy to befriend, start bringing him around, and letting things go from there.

The question is: how on earth does a guy simply find a new, good-looking friend with a long-term view of the guy hooking up with his wife?!?

Buy her a 3 month subscription to seeking.com

Husband finding a man for wife isn’t easy and prudent. Any woman knows find a man whenever she wants. In real life is the best way to find a lover. In my opinion the wife just needs the support of her husband, affection and feels safe in marriage. So, MOVING BEYOND TALKING is to tell the wife, out of bedroom, the marriage needs another man.

I am also in a similar position. I would do anything and have done so if she would agree to this. Maybe she can’t see the benefits just yet or fear of being judged etc.