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October 10, 2023 at 7:29 am #40540Anonymous
As an experienced bull, I’d like to give some advice to people new to the scene who are eager to get started but don’t know how. I’m thinking more about eager new cucks and even wives who are curious about the scene but have reservations.
First of all, there should be no pressure from anybody. It’s a wonderful lifestyle packed with often unexpected benefits but the journey is one to be enjoyed together, both the cuck and his wonderful hotwife to be. The most important thing is to talk together, be open and honest, don’t judge, have empathy, listen and take the time to learn and understand each others views and concerns.
To the wife I’d say this. It takes real courage and love and respect to be open to you about his side of who he is. Forums are filled with men desperate to be cuckolded, too afraid to be open to their loved one. The fact that your husband has been open to you about something so deeply personal means he loves and adores you so completely. Don’t underestimate that, cherrish it, talk to him about it, it can be something deeply special between you. Also, an important note, a man can’t stop being a cuck at heart. It’s such a deep part of your partners personality that you should love and embrace it, you should never disregard it or expect it to somehow go away. It won’t.
So why would you even consider being a hotwife? Well here’s a few reasons.
1. Because it pleases and fulfils your husband. Almost all men are predisposed to porn, it’s how men are wired, but your husbands desire is to replace that with you. Not watching a stranger be wild but watching the person he loves so deeply be wild.
2. Great sex. A good bull will give pleasure like nobody else.
3. A chance to explore things you wouldn’t experience from your husband. Maybe you like to be dominated, maybe there’s some fantasy or desire you’d like to experience, but not with your love.
4. A happy and relaxed home and marriage. You and your husband are deeply satisfied. Hubby doesn’t need to try to perform, try to be someone he isn’t. Many cucks want to enjoy sex without the pressure to perform, they really do derive more pleasure from watching or helping. And this becomes a shared secret passion, something just for you two to share together, your adventures.
5. Frankly, it’s a great way to spend some time away from family. You’re a busy mom, your husband’s busy with work, life is hard and there’s so little escapism together for either of you. Well, a night away meeting a bull for drinks, conversation, back to a hotel for an erotic night of pleasure. A change to be adults doing something so natural and fun together. Think of the bull like a great chef at a restaurant. You don’t need your husband to prepare you a great meal to enjoy his company, well a good bull is delivering something even more satisfying while out with your husband for a fun and memorable night.
Countless other benefits, I’m happy to talk through more if interested or about your specific circumstances.
Where to start as a wife? Well, talking about it is a great start, especially in bed with your husband. During sex, talk about it, imagine it, you’ll see how excited it makes your husband. Want better sex from your husband? Tell him you’re thinking of another man and watch him come alive, and that’s just the suggestion of it.
Group chats with a bull is fun, it’s a chance to talk to another man with your husband being part of the conversation. You will feel special having another man compliment you, want you. Your husband of course fancies you, it’s so uplifting to know other men do to. The chat could get steamy, you could explore some fantasies and ideas, maybe you’d like to flash or tease.
After getting to know one or more bulls, maybe you’d like the excitement of meeting. It can be just a coffee meeting or a walk in a park. No pressure, you’re looking for good chemistry together. Some wives like to meet with their partner with them, others like to meet alone to start. It’s entirely up to you but I would say that I’ve found women tend to feel more relaxed if meeting alone to begin. Your husband might be too eager for more while a coffee meet can be fun with no expectations.
If you do want to try more, think about what you’d like to try. Some women like to just stick to oral for instance or find that being blindfolded helps. You set the pace.
When looking for a bull I would suggest avoiding young guys who are sending you dick pics and asking to fuck. They’re not bulls, they’re just horny guys. A bull understands the dynamic of the relationship, he’s there to enhance your marriage, to give you both a special experience. It’s like the chef coming to your home to cook, he’s happy when you are both happy, he takes his pleasure from delivering a great meal and seeing you both satisfied. I believe a bit of maturity and experience makes a big difference here. There are good young bulls but not so many. Also, a good bull listens to your needs and adapts. Some couples find they want a gentle experience, some women like to be dominated in ways their husband doesn’t, some husbands like to watch, others like to join in, still others like to be humiliated. A good bull reads the situation, listens and adapts, taking pleasure from delivering the perfect experience.
For new cucks, it’s really the same advice. Talk, listen, make it special for your wife. If she feels pressured she will clam up. If she doesn’t enjoy the experience she won’t want to do it again. Make sure she leads, she needs to feel the attraction.
Some bulls like to move more quickly than others. For me, I’m happy to take my time, advising the cuck, helping him to raise the subject, work through any questions or concerns. Then I’m happy to connect with her, if she just wants someone to talk to and get advice from then great, if she wants something more physical and personal, that’s great to. For me, seeing a new couple taking those first steps and discovering the joys of the lifestyle are what matters.
Of course I’m always happy for physical benefits but there doesn’t have to be sex for a good friendship and experience.
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October 13, 2023 at 6:10 am #40547Anonymous
Over the years I’ve encountered so many guys that want to become cuckold but miss the great opportunity often for the same reasons. Does any of the following situations ring true to you?
1. You want it but don’t know how to broach the subject with your wife? Maybe she’s very reserved, maybe religious, maybe she’s expressed no interest in porn or sex with others or anything. You just can’t bring yourself to talk about it with her.
2. You have discussed but your wife rejected the idea so you dropped it.
3. You’re role playing and discussing it a bit but it goes no where. It’s frustrating, how long will it take? How do I go from here to actual play dates?
4. My wife is sort of interested but has worries. She worries about the effect on our relationship or later regrets. What about disease or pregnancy? We have family, the timing just isn’t right.
5. I grew impatient and pushed it and now she’s backed off the idea.
6. We’re talking but how do you find a good bull?
Honestly, every hotwife has one or more of these experiences, sometimes all of them, before she finally allows herself to experience the lifestyle, going on to fully embrace its benefits in ways that would have shocked her and her husband just a few years back. All of these situations have solutions, things that work. A good bull can help you through them.
Indeed, I would advise a cuck early in the journey to find a good experienced bull who has the time and pateience to help him along the journey. Giving advice for things that happen, connecting with the wive at the right time to help her along her journey. A bull isn’t pushy and has no expactations, he knows it could take months or years or may never materialise but he knows when it does, all that effort will be worth while. Sliding into a new wife for the first time after a long wait, hearing her moan of pleasure, that makes it all worth while. Looking up and seeing the look of pure joy on her cuck hubbies face as you both know, there is more excitement to come on the journey, that’s rewarding.
If I can help, I will or I would advise you to find a local bull with the right characteristics. A good bull can also hold you accountable as in help you not to give up and push you along. Sometimes a cuck feels like giving up, a good bull will encourage him on and help to find the shortcuts as needed.
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October 16, 2023 at 1:58 pm #4057030sCreampieCplParticipant
Outstanding post. Your experience shows with this great advice. Also a demonstration to all potential Bulls as to the best attitude you can have toward a couple. We started young as swingers and gravitated toward mature confident men to join with her. This evolved into a cuckold marriage. In our case a dominant mature couple guided us into cuckolding.
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October 19, 2023 at 2:25 am #40580Anonymous
Thank you.
It’s wonderful to hear that you had a fun and positive journey in the lifestyle, it’s always inspiring to hear from couples like you who have made the most of your time together.
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December 12, 2023 at 8:37 pm #40700Loving Husband
Good read! Very informative! Thank you for posting.
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October 14, 2023 at 1:34 pm #40562subweiserParticipant
Fantastic article/blog. Resonated with me a lot.
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October 16, 2023 at 1:26 pm #40569motleyParticipant
Thank You SeasonedBull for this great cuckolding primer. i wish that this information was available when my wife took the big step back in 1986. i’m so glad that i just readily agreed as i knew that i was not fulfilling her sexual needs.
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October 17, 2023 at 3:58 pm #40575Anonymous
I wish I knew in my 20’s what I know now. Back then it was just about getting laid, I would have had a better time if I understood the bull dynamic back then.
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October 18, 2023 at 8:56 pm #40579RegmarriedguyParticipant
Fantastic post! Love your attitude and insight. Thanks for sharing!
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October 19, 2023 at 2:25 am #40581Anonymous
Thank you, I’m glad you liked it.
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October 29, 2023 at 7:19 am #40601Anonymous
A really well thought through and very practical break down . I’m very impressed.
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