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“I really appreciate everything you’re doing So what are you gonna do if I meet someone one of these days?”
I felt panic when she said that. It meant that ending the marriage and finding a new man was still on the table but that one remark shifted something in me. I felt my dick began to swell in my pants. My mouth went dry, and my heart was pounding.
“I would be OK with that as long as we could stay married”.
“I’m not talking about just a couple of dates” she said, what if I was in a relationship with someone, could you handle that?”
I was fighting for my marriage. I was in a panic mode especially since in knew that the state of our marriage was my fault. Gone were the days of begging me to go to marriage counseling and getting pissed at me because I sucked in bed. She stopped hassling me about it all together. Now I was the one begging for marriage counseling and love bombing her. Then her boyfriend Chris first came into the picture. Her friends are the ones who introduced Chirs to my wife. I saw the way he looked at her. I immediately remembered that conversation we had and felt a title wave of emotion.
My wife completely understood why I felt threatened by him, but laughed and reassured me that there’s no chance she would be interested in a guy like him.
“I get it” she said. “He’s handsome, he’s successful, and funny. So on and so forth.’ Her adjectives did not make me feel any better. I started getting accused of being clingy and possessive. We started having conversations about boundaries. But her denials didn’t line up with what I was seeing. He always seemed to be around. Finding ways to be “Helpful”. I was like WHAT IS HE HELPING!?”
And then came the day at a local Denny’s where she said.“OK if you’re serious about what you said before, Chris and I are gonna start seeing each other”.
My dick involuntary became rock hard and strained against the material of my jeans. She wasn’t sure how I was handing the news and was probing me and asking me If I just heard what she said. I moved her hand on my on my cock. She resisted at first because this was a serious conversation, but I had to show her.
“Has he touched you”. I asked. Whatever happened to “I would never be into a guy like Chris!?”
Her silence answered my question. “Things are different now. I didn’t mean for it to happen, but it did. He makes me feel special inside and does things you always thought were gross. We’re not gonna do anything in front of you. At least not right away” My head was spinning as she continued.
The have been “seeing” each other for 4 years now. Her friends respect him and give him recognition. My wife knows how humiliation arouses me; so she goes out of her way to find ways to do it, but when it happens by accident is when it affects me the most. -
Cathy & Jerry
It’s easy to see that she’s very much in love with him, we hope that it blossoms for them. Cathy and her boyfriend came to me last fall and admitted that they were in love and asked me if I was upset with it. I told them no I wasn’t upset and why did it take so long? I explained that I could feel how attached they are and that being in love just makes the sex so much more intense, they’re not “fucking” anymore, they’re “making love’. She kissed me and thanked me and he shook my hand and thanked me for being so understanding and for giving him my wife. I no longer have any sex with her as requested quite awhile ago, so he’s the only man allowed inside of her. I don’t miss it really, I was a dud in bed and even then I’m only 4 inches hard which I knew that she really hated. We are even closer now than we were when we first got together, we hold hands everywhere we go (when it’s just the two of us) and we talk about everything like best friends. I enjoy knowing that he makes passionate love to Cathy, it’s as it should be and should have been right from the start of our marriage. Last Christmas Cathy admitted to me and to her lover that she wished she had cuckolded me while she was much younger and met him back then because she wants his child. He smiled and kissed her and told her that he would gladly give her a baby and she looked at me and I just smiled as well and said “and I wish the same thing babe, you two would have created beautiful children. Oh well, at least they are together now. She wears his ring next to mine, we’re all very happy.
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Brian2006
I feel better about the whole situation now. I am getting used to this like I have gotten used to so many other things along the way. Can’t tell you how many times I told my wife “No I’m not doing that!” or “NO, that’s too embarrassing. She quietly listens and lets me get all the “I don’t want to’s out of the way and then I find myself doing precisely the thing I said I was not going to do.
Example: When she first started dating Chris she was sympathetic to me because she knew that giving up this part of her to another man was going to be a lot to digest at first. SO she took it slow. First she would go out and meet him someplace. Then he started picking her up from the house. He didn’t come in and she would run out when he pulled up. Then, he would come in just prior to a date for a few mins and I was expected to be respectful. And with each milestone came a whole host of new things for me to learn how to cope with.
Now, I have to ask his permission to take her anywhere just in case he had plans with her first. I sleep in the guest room or the couch when he comes over. My daughter loves this guy and respects him. My wife’s friends all thing he is super hot.
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Cathy & Jerry
That’s really good news, the affair is moving along very well. We haven’t heard anything for awhile Brian, how are things these days?
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Brian2006
Things are going well. I feel like I have arrived at a place of acceptance when it comes to our arrangement. It was one thing for my wife to fuck a guy on the side, but it’s quite another when this man is so involved in our life and knowing that my wife is in a relationship with this man. What was the biggest challenge for me wasn’t the sex if you can believe that. It was the difference with how she acts with him compared to me. The way she looks up at him when his is speaking. He has a commanding presence which shines a light on what I am not. My wife’s friends all accept him as “her man” and even my daughter really likes and respects him.
Sometimes when I see them together, I remembered a conversation we once had “You know I love you, but I feel safe around him, he isn’t a victim”
I was incensed at being referred to as a victim. She laughed and tried to clarify what she meant. “I meant that you are a sweetheart, and I love you, but…you are kind of a pussy. And I need the masculinity he provides”
What’s really twisted is that after my initial anger the humiliation of all of it get me extremely hard. He comes over a lot now. And I have learned to accept him in my wife’s life. I understand why she feels the way she does about him. I have to admit that his is a good-looking man and is rather intimidating. It is like he is a bad dude who is choosing to be nice. He is generous and charismatic. He pays for my wife to get her hair and nails done and sometimes has me come out with he and my wife to dinner. And then, when he is ready. He will throw my wife on the bed and fuck her, while I sleep on the couch and get to listen to them fuck.
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Brian2006
Sorry for taking so long to respond. This thins like to time me out too fast.
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