safety when meeting for the first time…

I strongly recommend that you meet on neutral ground the first time you are going to meet potential playmates in person.  Also that the first meeting be non-committal i.e., that it be understood by all parties that the meeting will be  strictly social with no strings attached.  If for some reason there is no chemistry or you are put off in any way, you can politely part company and no one is hurt or embarrassed. Always leave everyone a safe exit.

If, on the other hand, the attraction is irresistible, you can always change the rules on the spot and fall into the nearest bed together.

Good luck.

I'm in agreement with LuvsItWet neutral ground is the best first time meeting place.  Remember even though you've been talking with this person you don't know what you might be walking in to.  Keep it strictly social but if you're attracted to the guy there's always kissing and some friendly touching which is always fun.

Good luck, I hope it turns out good for you!

Toni

xoxoxo 

After meeting, chatting online, and talking by phone, I (hubby) meet the guy first at a public place.  I get a feel for his personality through conversation and likes/dislikes about sex, etc… We then trade full-panel std tests and schedule a meeting at a hotel.  I know what she likes in a guy and she likes to meet “a stranger” first the first time and be able to go bare.

I'm there to start but if we're comfortable, I leave and let him have her all to himself.

We've done this only twice. She saw the first guy for six months.  Then we meet a different guy online. This past Monday was the six-month mark that they have been seeing each other exclusively.