A primary mission of this site and the community it serves has been to move the needle toward greater societal acceptance of ideas and practices counter to current, mostly evangelical societal norms. These societal norms shame women for their sexuality and falsely prop-up all males as alpha males provided they can lock in a woman by marriage.
Well, the tide is changing for us. Sure, it’s just one town in one state in the U.S., but it’s a start.
Under its new domestic partnership ordinance, the city of Somerville now grants polyamorous groups the rights held by spouses in marriage, such as the right to confer health insurance benefits or make hospital visits. –Boston.com
What got us here already are those couples who have put their needs as a couple before the collective judgement of society and been public facing enough in their dating and socializing to help encourage others and to change minds. This has to not only continue, but expand.
I hope legal recognition of the cuckolds status is just around the corner. Could we start to build the infrastructure of formal cuckold marriage ahead of legal recognition? In the old FMSB I really enjoyed the section on retired cuckold penises. Could we have a system where a cuck could have served on him a penis redundancy notice? It could be formally notarized document, delivered by a process server, which he would be obliged to sign for. It would be a formal recognition of his status and could be proudly displayed in the marital home and become part of his personal documentation. hopefully when cuckold marriage becomes legally recognized it would be enforceable in law.
part of attraction for many is it being seen as very ‘norty’ and adds a frisson of excitement. much like drinking alcohol when it was banned maybe. given current increasing levels of black men and white ladies (London a good example) it is slowly bene seen as normal to have people of different colour with each other. religion and upbringing are still massive inhibitions and will be some decades I suspect before mixed race relations no longer raise an eyebrow. as to adding third partner ..this is logical as so many men in world and not enough females ( with exception a certain part of world) seems adult and logical that society and religion adapt to modern way of life and start accepting ether is nothing wrong with a relationship that has more than the standard 1 man 1 woman setting, as long as all are happy , enjoying life and taking part in society why on earth are people so 2 faced about when somebody needs that ‘extra’ adult assist in life. ideally we need to reach a stage where its perfectly normal to engage in extra marital fling as and when we need or suits each couple or enlarged ? family.
This is an good news to see poly being more and more recognized. Even the Unitarian Universalist Church now accepts this as long as its done lovingly.
We were married by a Unitarian minister. Knew we saw something there that was missing from our Catholic upbringings. Becoming a poly trio with her LTR Bull is something to which we are open. But alas the Bull needs some convincing.
Very interesting, We are Catholic as well. We met Marc at our churches monthly Prayer Breakfast! Never thought we’d meet a Bull there.
Turns out Marc (52) is Black Pastor at Unitarian Universal Church near us, mixed race congregation. Hes been mindi’s regular lover for over two years and we are poly with him. Very interesting dynamic as more than a few others in the church know he’s bedding mindi regularly but its not frowned on but accepted.
How very exciting. Congratulations to the three of you.
I am cuck, but want to give thoughts on ur comment, This sounds stupid but i think being a Bull would be very hard on many levels. He is never a full part of the marriage…it has to be a mind fuck for him also. Many times, he is never allowed to attend events because of gossip
…The Bull needs convincing yes, but it has to be wanted by him also
Thanks for sharing this Luvr. While this is a small step forward, it is still a step forward. I think any progress is great and its getting harder and harder everyday to get by so I am going make a prediction: these kind of relationships will become mainstream out of necessity and will be normalized within 15-20 years. This is a very early indicator in my opinion.
The movie – Professor Marston & the Wonder Women (2017) The story of psychologist William Moulton Marston, and his polyamorous relationship with his wife and their mistress who would inspire his creation of the superheroine, Wonder Woman.
Interesting portrayal of polygyny with a certain amount of D/s play
We can only wish these couples the best of love and luck.
Everyone could do with a little.
C and S xx
Congratulations, I hope it will relief people who has lived hiding their kinks way too long.
I just wonder, when a kink to becomes mainstream and accepted, it also looses something… kinkyness perhaps?… All people are different, but at least for us the kinky and non-mainstream part of the lifestyle is thrilling. And it would for sure loose something if it was for everyone