Re: Had “The Talk”

You’re going to have to take lots of small basic steps, one step at a time, and not try to shoot for the ultimate goal right from the start.  Patience 🙂  Ease her into it – and yourself, too, because you probably aren’t as ready for it as you might think.

Start with proving to both of you that you’re really devoted to her satisfaction.  Wear a chastity device and focus on her pleasure, without the supposition that she needs to dominate you.  Have sex with her if she wants, satisfy her, but then withdraw before reaching your own orgasm and just tell her that you want to save it, because you’ve realized that you want and need sex with her, but you’re a better husband if you don’t cum as often.  The next morning, be sure to get up early and cook breakfast for her.  Show her what’s in it for her and give it to her, without requiring anything of her.  Accept and worship her just as she is.

Don’t require her to dominate you or ask her to be something she isn’t – yet.  Do it because it’s just the right thing to do. If you make no demands of her, but rather simply just make it easy for her to accept your service, it will be difficult for her to resist.  But don’t suddenly turn into a limp noodle either; she may still want you to seem strong and masculine and be alarmed if you suddenly seem to go soft on her.  It’s a balancing act, but think about what she wants – not how you want things to be.

How often do you (still clothed) get down between her legs and ask to give her oral sex?  Morning, after work, and again before bed?  Do you get up early to cook her breakfast?