Re: How to Bring out the Sex Drive

Bigfella, I don’t quite see how it is a set back when she masturbates herself? Can you explain? 

Based on some of my own experiences, if she doesn’t share her fantasies, then that suggests that she doesn’t quite trust you with them for some reason. It could be that you tend to ‘always’ respond with the ever returning cuckolding fantasy, something she may enjoy, but that she may also be afraid will take a life of its own. She may think that if she lets you know that she gets off the fantasy as well, that you will have a friend waiting for her just outside the door. Pushing too hard can be seriously counterproductive. If restraint is what the cuckold has to deal with when his wife is away getting laid, then such restraint is also necessary in the early stages. I’m not sure if this makes sense to you. 

One of own frustrations in the early stages was that my girlfriend would often come along with me in the fantasies, and then after an hour or so kill it all off by soberly saying that it may never happen for real. To suppress visible disappointment then was so damn hard.