Reply To: Wife pushing me to let her bull move with us on permanent basis.

not ideal from sound of it. wife has formed emotional bond and bull is happy enough to take advantage. ideally any bull should complement a couples relationship so both husband and wife need to be in agreement and have same aspirations etc.
difficulties lay ahead if we proceed as you have outlined. for a situation where bull is living with you we need set time stays e.g. 2 weeks or so. say twice a year. then we can say he is a close friend whom has some time free but cannot accommodate you both so you have agreed to have him stay with you when he is able as it helps him financially as well. that way we reinforce our economic situation for our area. have a valid reason to have third man around. moving to spare room or even garage ? attic? is down to the relationship you have all agreed. we will of course get reduced attention from wife and if bull moved in full time we may find a we become fully displaced. thats embarrassing and opens up family to public ridicule etc though we all aware this sharing of wives is far more common than many realise . society sees it as taboo and reacts badly.