Completely Denied

It's quite unusual for a wife to cut off her husband totally without some substitute for her.

I wouldn't be entirely sure that it's your fault she says no – have you even asked her why?

I'm completely denied as well.  I have been for almost 2 years, but I'm a cuckold and a willing one.

I have been cut off going on 11 years now as part of our cuckolding relationship. It started as a temporary thing with one friend and it just stuck for Amy since. I can JO when told it’s ok, and no other touching from her.

Well I am always a bit reluctant to offer advice to others which may change their behaviour. For what it is here is my answer. Firstly marriage was not designed to be exciting or even to develop companionship. Marriage is an institution which ahs developed over the years to insure the smooth running of society and the rearing of children. It is a good thing and it works for society as a whole and long may it last.However it is not created for you or your wife’s excitement In fact most successful marriages become boring by their very nature. In fact the more boring it becomes it may be the most stable.Men develop  a desire for golf or gardening or one of many male persuits. They also become good fathers, responsible. But, you want excitement. This comes from the different, the strange, the forbidden fruit a sense of mystique. Sexual activity as a function brought down to that level is no more exciting than eating breathing or any other biological necessity.Your sex life seems to be functional. Nothing wrong with that in marriage as, think about it, marriage institutionalises sexual activity, keeps it safe.As long as both partners are committed and would never stray it is not bad for society to keep sex in it’s box. In fact if you and your wife  loose interest through time after producing some children this is perfect for the institution as you can concentrate on rearing the kids without any constant sexual desires disturbing the whole thing.

Your desire to cuckold is a desire to add mystique to your wife. Even though you appreciate that she is sexy desireable and so on you seem to not have the burning desire you once had. Therefore you wish to return to a pre marriage state where desire ruled and you liked it. You can only do that if she samples another man and then essentially she is not entirely yours. That is what it is all about. Nothing wrong with it but you have to ask yourself how will the marriage pan out. can you really live in a constant state of arousal and concentrate on being a father and functioning properly. Maybe so but sopmething to think about. Long term maybe boring is not that bad.

Well said, nigelcuck. Seems like you’ve thought about this and have some reasoned thoughts. Thanks.

I have been denied for years and my love for my wife grows stronger as a result. I well remember the night she came home from being with her lover and announced that they had discussed it and agreed that I was to have no further sexual contact.  She suggested I might use prostitutes but I’m not into that and we both quickly realised that denial was a wonderful thing for me.

 I must wear shorts in bed and must masterbate in private/I am often erect all night. I can look but not touch over time this has made her so relaxed. Happy to be nude in my presence, knowing the effect on me and that I will never act on my almost overwhelming desire. She is open about her body telling me when she’s sore from fucking or when she is full of cum. She will happily get into bed with the smell of sex strong on her and lets me launder her cum stained knickers. She knows this is both torture and bliss for me and has never felt the need to change the arrangement.

bazram, you are a lucky man.

I hope you get to pleasure her orally?

When she first started she did try letting me have her afterwards. I have had the joy of tasting and feeling her very recently used. I treasure each of those memories. Very soon though she decided that she felt uncomfortable with this and prefered to be faithful to her lover. His attitude hardened too and he became insistent on having her to himself. I now know that this corresponded with them beginning to want a child together so I guess it makes sense. The surprise for me was how erotic this decision was for me. The usual mixture of feelings. Shame and humiliation when she confessed that she had never achieved orgasm with me and often did not enjoy sex with me. Joy when the clear boundary allowed her to become very much more open about the way her sexuality was developing. Even now that relationship is over she has not restarted a sexual relationship with me. Basically she is ready for another man and I wouldn’t want to stand in the way or encourage her to settle for less.

i have denied for about 4 months. and i just confused about the feeling.

Sub, being denied could be the result of many things.

-Being overweight and out of shape.
-Having diabetes. Neuropathy can cause the man to lose his erection. Other complications like fungal infections can also be a complicating factor.
-cardiovascular disease, hypertension. Drugs that treat hypertension can cause erectile dysfunction to a serious degree.
-Wife is seeing another man, or is dating several men.

The later is typical of women’s behavior when having sex with another man. A non threatening dialog needs to be initiated to discover the root cause of denial. Only then can steps be taken to seek a solution.

If the wife is playing around then you have to see if that in itself turns you on. Cuckolding is not for everyone but it is a pathway which could save your relationship.

I am now on my nineteenth month at denial, and mine is total denial, I can’t even see her undress and I have to sleep in my shorts as well. I haven’t seen my wife in ant form of undress since our six month wedding anniversary, she cuckolded me after six months of marriage and it’s the best thing in the world!
We can now live without any stress from my pathetic three inch when hard penis and she enjoys her boyfriend at least three or four nights a week. I am happy with the knowledge that I will never be sexual with her again, the flood of emotions that go through my body every day is amazing and I wouldn’t change our lifestyle for anything. I am happy that I have been replaced by a far superior male in her life and we are so in love with each other. I love watching them kiss passionately in front of me and when he’s at our house, HE is her main concern and I take a back seat. She chose him over me to be the provider of her sexual needs and I love seeing how happy and sexually fulfilled he makes her.
They have been coupling for the past eighteen months and we all hope that their love continues to grow for many years to come.

Well I have not been totally denied but when we do have sex it is for her pleasure. We might have sex once a year but I am only able to go down on her and make her cum. When it comes to me she has me jerk off and it has to be in front of her and she does not want me to waste it has me clean it up. As far as I know she does not have a lover but I dont know why her interest in sex has dwindled.

I have been married almost 39 years. We tried sex before we were married and due to my lack it did not really work. But we were and are in love so we decided to get married anyway with the agreement that I would be her total cuckold and that she could have sex with whomever she wanted whenever she wanted. I agreed and my diskette has never gotten close to her pussy. And since we discovered chastity devices I have shrunk more so there is no point in trying. We, and that includes me are totally happy with this arrangement. I get my sexual satisfaction knowing her wants and needs are being met by a real man.