From personal experience, the realization of a cuckold relationship or marriage is centered around sexual pleasure where the dynamics of each person’s pleasure is important but decided much differently. Though with a different man, the Hotwife’s desire for full pleasure is easy to understand being the focus, and with that maybe not too much outside the lines of public perception and understanding as being unusual. The cuckold’s pleasure, however, is less understood in the public eye because of the desire for sexual denial by his Hotwife, needed to intensify his own sexual arousal, along with her to be openly pleased by another ‘better’ man. Not exactly the ‘normal’ marital bedroom setting. As a minimum, the denial is a strict control of his pleasure, usually resulting in the relinquishing of sexual intercourse. Or to put it more bluntly, his penis will not be providing the full sexual pleasure needed by his Hotwife, nor as she see’s fit, letting him have his pleasure by penetration into her pussy. How this is enforced is usually left to the Hotwife and her making an empowered statement to the cuckold about deliberate sexual needs and control, and devotion to knowing her pleasure is most important above his.
Nevertheless, it is still important that the cuckold should experience some sexual pleasure (or relief) with the occasion and manner as agreed by the Hotwife and fitting to the intimacy of the cuckold relationship. To this, Anne has settled that mine is to only happen in a ‘mechanical’ manner where she is involved literally taking care of the matter ‘at hand’ and very efficiently ‘draining’ me. I am not allowed to masturbate. “Period. End of discussion.”
When being the dutiful Hotwife, Anne is very apt at using her hands in assisting with the task of my relief. I have become quite seduced by her method which frankly, because it is natural to the intimacy of our relationship, is more intense than intercourse and I look forward to but careful not to expect. Some men might find this thought phony, which I would have to say and point out that probably their first and maybe still best sexual pleasure likely happens with their own hand…and at that, not as personable as by someone else’s.
The frequency between her attention varies but is usually near two weeks or more, an interval of time and denial that greatly intensifies my urge for stimulation and ejaculation. More recently Anne decided after hearing about a comment made online that it would also be a good time to do it right before she gets together with her lover, helping to steady my angst…along with putting me in chastity after.
When she decides its my time, Anne might summon me into the kitchen, the bathroom, or standing by the bedside while she sits. Almost all the time she remains dressed to dramatize ‘the task at hand’ and not allude to anything else. She may be dressed casually in yoga pants and a sport top, or if she is ready to get together with her lover, a very sexy outfit for displaying herself to him. Most times, to provoke me to ejaculate quickly, she likes to comment and remind me when she is with ‘A’ or ‘R’ how wet her pussy gets with their black cocks in her while also making her climax multiple times. “And to think that I thought your penis was all I needed”.
Recently, my relief (with inspiration taken from Luv’r’s most recent post) has been on the bed on my hands and knees over a towel near the edge and convenient for Anne to sit behind me and not be visible. Her hands are the only contact that I will get to know. My pants and underwear are pulled down or removed, or if Anne is in the mood to be more intimate with the task, I am allowed to be naked. My penis is always limp and diminutively hanging between my legs when she reaches for it at first but with lubricant and some fondling by her hand it begins to swell with the start of an erection. When there is enough size to work with she starts stroking to increase the erection making sure she passes over the head of my penis where I’m the most sensitive. My erection is usually not strong until she then holds and squeezes my testicles, increasing the blood flow into my penis and finally making an erection suitable for her manipulation. Stroking in a steady downward motion like milking a cow it is not long before the urge begins to build and I mention it to her. When I am finally overcome by the need to release and I tell her excitedly that I am going to spurt (how quickly it occurs is a show to her efficiency) she then decides how it will happen. With a still steady stroke she will either let go of my penis and testicles at the moment of, ruining the full pleasure while letting only a few drops of semen drip out by gravity, or she will continue with the motion and squeezing, and with an almost painful pleasure, letting a meager and unimpressive spurt of semen dribble out on the towel. At 18 years my ejaculate would easily stream up onto my body but now it’s a more pathetic result and certainly not what Anne is interested in or compares to what her bulls have filled her with.
And I’m good with it because, though we may all be different, I also believe most men for one reason or another and not always because of penis size, are cuckolds. As cuckolds, we are eager for the pure sensual delight straining at our mind and penis while knowing (seeing, hearing, smelling, or only just in our imagination) that our Hotwife is with ‘him’ celebrating the experience of full sexual bliss. Eroticism (or “live porn” as Anne says) at its best by simply stepping aside for the few men who really distinguish themselves in ways that all women should enjoy in the bedroom.
James, after having only recently discovered the Keys and Anklets Podcast with Michael-C and hearing Anne and then your interview together I find it a very informative and stimulating podcast on the Cuckolding Lifestyle from the Viewpoints of Cuckoldresses/HotWives/Vixens, Cuckolds/Stags and let’s not forget the Bulls too. Because you and Anne are close to if not my age I can definitely relate as an older male and am Very Intrigued about the Cuckold Lifestyle and Admire those who are Enjoying All it has to Offer. Unfortunately my Wife has yet to Embrace the Cuckold Lifestyle and I’m not Certain whether She Ever will. But that said I enjoy following you Both and learning all what Cuckolding has to offer.
Maggiescuck thank you for listening to our (and others?) Keys and Anklets podcasts and sharing how you enjoyed them, but most importantly, how informative and insightful you found them. Hopefully your circumstances will evolve to experience and know the loving sexual dynamic that Anne and I enjoy. Another wonderful source helpful for women that are interested in, or at least trying to understand cuckolding from a woman’s perspective, is the Venus Cuckoldress podcasts. Anne is very good friends with her and has also shared in a few podcasts and live online discussions. There are many good resources for both men and women supported by a growing community, so we both encourage you and your wife to talk about it and together know more.
the first time someone tried to put a cage on myself it was impossible. I started to bend hard. Amazing this excitement of the loss of control.
It’s a sign.
I am interesed doing online chastity cuckold with keyholder .
Can you tell us what drew Anne to black cocks?
Ever since I had my first sexual experience with a black lover, that is what I desire; one time was all that it took to satisfy me in so many ways. I love the contrast of a black man against my white skin. I love the sensation of my black lover’s cock inside of me and the fact that he is typically so long lasting and well-endowed. I enjoy the way that he fills me. ~Anne
Thanks for the interview with Michael C. Two Qs. Would you prefer James replace his unsatisfying penis with a beautiful pussy? Do you have any suggestions on how to talk to me wife about cuckolding me?
To be clear, though I am black cock only for my sexual satisfaction, james will always be my number one and I would never change him for any reason from the man that he is and I love dearly.
Not knowing the dynamics of your marriage, my advice is take it slow, communicate, and have good reasons why your marriage should transition to a cuckold marriage. It should be a discovery together with time to evolve for what’s right for the two of you
We are starting out in the direction of her taking other cock and me no longer penetrating or cumming in her anymore. Very intense feelings about that but believe it will be best for her and her lovers.
Thx for your advice.
I have not came since the last time we had intercourse which was about a week ago. I am feeling so attentive and submissive after a week of not ejaculating. Last night I pleasured her with a big black cock hallow strapon that vibrated. She enjoyed that immensely. She wanted me in her but I declined. Today I suggested I go 30 days without an orgasm. I plan to suggest she keep me caged to make sure I don’t slip. I think I would really enjoy that but it’s up to her.
She is always been I could good church-going soccer mom so being a hot wife are having a single boyfriend is new to her. She has not said no but understandably has a lot of reservations about it.
I did find a local bowl online and have communicated with him for several weeks. He sounds like a good couple in partner for her. She is reluctant to meet someone I met online. But when you need a plumber you search online and invite someone into your home. I know it’s different because you’re inviting this man in to have sex with your wife and that’s much more personal that I am open to finding someone online and then screening him.
Do you require blood work and a statement of no STDs before you have sex with someone without a condom?
Thank you so much for your response
Woow thets realy hoot i want cuppl like thet
That’s great to hear! Keep us posted on how things go!
Being locked in a cage is so beautiful for a cuckold. The penis quickly gets accustomed to the comfortable restraint, the denial of ejaculation, and the pleasure of the frustrated erection, not possible even at dawn. James’s sexily shaved and locked penis is a tribute to his love for Anne, surrendering his pleasure for hers, and through her pleasure with her lover gaining his own contentment.
I guess it’s finding what suits each couple. I prefer not to let him cum before I go on a date. I’ve found that when he’s had release he can become uncooperative and sometimes particularly moody.
We did have a couple of occasions that this led to an unpleasant atmosphere in the lead up to me going out. His indifference was quite unpleasant and actually rude which tended to take the edge of my excitement and put a damper on what I was looking forward to.
However in my experience by keeping him locked and orgasm free for a week or two on the run up to a meet has resulted in maintaining his keenness for my adventure. He is eager to help me prepare and is helpful in suggesting outfits and shaving me.
On my return he is clearly hoping for release from both his cage and to orgasm. He also revels in hearing about my experience and seeing for himself the evidence that I have enjoyed carnal knowledge of another.
This continued interest in my enjoyment, combined with his hope for pleasure himself, has avoided the previous unpleasantness.
When it is his turn to cum then I like to make a show of it. I’ll dress in lingerie and provocative (not slutty) clothes which I know will turn him on. The effect is that when I take the cage off he springs to attention almost instantly and it doesn’t take me long to ‘wank’ him, either stopping at the last second so that his fluids just ooze out or pressing the palm of my hand on his helmet to stifle the full pleasure of his ejaculation.
i love how you handle your husband. We are new to the live style and also have found that when i let him masturbate or ejaculate before i go out he becomes uncoperative. Ive been practicing denial few days before my dates. I allow him to help dress me. He beggs me to just let him lick my pussy among other things before i go out but i wont let him. I tell him he has to wait until after my date with my lover. So I have learned how to use denial with him and enhance our relationshiop
Denial, as I’m sure Luvr will attest, is a powerful tool when used at the right time and the correct frequency.
Too much and he’ll start to lose interest, too little and it won’t have the desired effect. Just right and he’ll be putty in your hands
yes i have to beg to
Thanks James for you insights on your relationship
and into the cuckold life in general. The love
between Anne and you is really special. No doubt
that it is “Anne’s Way” when all is said and done.
So after all these many years anxiety is still a concern
in your life, is that so or is that over stated by me?
Thanks for the update,
Jeff, there is no short answer to a very good question.
I believe anxiety (or angst) never really relieves itself completely from the cuckold. It is true that with the many interludes Anne has had with other men in the past, the result is that the sex she now has with her lover has become mostly free of any angst and centered to titillation. The anxiety I do feel is from the knowing display of the emotions and affection that occur when she is with her lover, and as a evolving “relationship of three”. Without the close bond and communication that we have always shared this would be difficult to overcome. Having some angst is understandable (and true to being a cuckold) so it is important that everyone, including her lover, to be communicating openly to each other to ease any uncertainty.
So, do I have a concern about anxiety? Only from when the talking and sharing becomes exclusive rather than inclusive.
James, I believe that did answer it.
When the third person does come along
I’m guessing you need to be more involved with that person. You two need to be emotionally involved in some way. I believe that is the only way for a LTR were all three are content. You almost wouldn’t be a cuck any more. I don’t mean to be controversial, but that is how I see it. There has to be three strong relationships or it will fail.
I want to thank you for your response because it has enlightened me.
Thank you for that account of how the beautiful Miss Anne tends to your needs. Every couple has their rituals, and yours sound most intimate. Hope to hear more about how that ritual changes with time.
Very hot, james! Thank you!