You can’t eliminate cuckold anxiety – you have to learn to manage it.
You know her boss sent you this picture of her as a reward for “…lending your wife” to him, as he gently put it, but he doesn’t realize how seeing this will also be your undoing. She does look stunning and you realize that thong is the last obstacle to him being inside her. Worse, or perhaps better, depending on where in the anxiety cycle you are, is knowing this is only the first day of a 5 day trip. It’s not her first trip on the plane, but her first as his mistress. This means that by now, he is the last one inside her – and he’ll be the next as well.
You already know the corporate jet doesn’t have couch seating, so you imagine her standing, her long legs wide apart while clutching the seat in front of her. He will stand behind her and enter and couple with her her still standing. That image alone makes it difficult not to spurt, doesn’t it? Even letting go and letting your penis twitch all by itself may not save you. You need to spurt, but you dread it. As soon as the last spurt dribbles out you’re going to look at this picture and feel your stomach knot and your penis shrivel as your cuckold anxiety starts winding up.
You’ve been struggling with this, as every cuckold does, since your wife first told you he was hitting on her – and you encouraged her to cocktease him. Having met him you knew she was attracted to him – you saw the chemistry between them, yet you encouraged the shorter skirts and the fitted blouses to better showcase her breasts.
What she desires.
It’s only been a few months since he called her bluff while she was in his office and ‘stole’ a kiss that turned to something more. She had her own taste of anxiety when she came home that night, knowing you’d ask about her day, knowing she’d have to tell you they had kissed. Before she even got to the point where kissing led to buttons being undone and hands slipping into clothing, you were inside her.
“I sucked his cock…” she whispered. You wanted to ask about it, ask about his cock, but that would have to wait until your orgasm subsided.
Now you’re shocked, humbled and yet still aroused. Even after your orgasm, the knowledge that she’s sucked his cock has kept you erect. And worse, she’s was then very aware of how this knowledge had affected you, but yet you were still overcome with curiosity and soon the coupling – and questions continued. It had been a long time since you managed two performances in an evening.
Yes, she’s always enjoyed the feeling of a man becoming erect in her mouth, but you dated her for months before getting to experience that, didn’t you? It could be his position of authority that compels her to orally service him, it could be the superior size and shape of his organ – or it could both. Right now, while you’re erect, that knowledge is terribly exciting, but once you give in and let yourself spurt, this knowledge will weaken you. Fear not: just as you cannot be the lover to her that he is, he cannot be the husband and cuckold for her that you are.
Following her first taste of his cock, he asked her to meet him for dinner the next evening, Saturday, and explained that if she didn’t show up, then he’d just assume this was a one time thing and they could just let it be. If she did show up, then it was assumed that she wanted a sexual relationship with him and he would pursue it as such. Many conversations and (short) couplings later, it was agreed she would go to him.
Saturday went by in a blur, then suddenly it seems – she was gone, leaving only the faint scent of her perfume lingering in the air. It was your turn to cry.
No more teasing; he would truly know exquisite she is – inside and out.
A body to be decorated for him.
But despite your tears and the knot in your stomach, you were also erect. Very erect. In fact, you had been erect much of the afternoon and especially while she got ready for their date. She wouldn’t let you fuck her Saturday, but she frequently placed her hand there, where your penis betrayed your desire to share her with him. Were it not for that, she would have called the whole thing off, but your penis was very truthful and reassuring for her. She couldn’t deny her attraction to him, but she wouldn’t do it against your wishes.
Your first cuckold orgasm came only minutes later as you imagined them making out during dinner. That’s not how it happened, but that’s how the cuckold mind works. As your semen drained, so did your spirits, the realization of your situation crashed into your consciousness.
Now, only a month since she became his mistress, you look at the picture he sent intending only to share the moment with you and your mind fills with countless erotic images of them together. So what will you do, cuckold, give in to the erotic experience of your wife being his mistress and suffer the anxiety that comes once you spurt – or continue to stay aroused by her – by them – and hold off that anxiety for yet another day…
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**Managing Cuckold Anxiety (Reply) and A Job Better left for a Betterman**
Anxiety Management as LUVR has so intuitively, and so very, very skillfully explained, is an ingriedient that is of critical importance for the marriage. I know this first hand. My wife has been very interested in helping manage my cuck anxiety. When she feels (or when it is easy to see) that my anxiety level needs a release, Kim will hold me close, my face against her breast (or bra and clevage), and she will tell me that if I am bothered by her being with another man, she will stop this completly. And then, she’ll say, “okay, no worry, so I won’t be with another man again, ever. So let’s not even talk about larger cocks anymore” or “I have no need to be satisfied thru intercourse so you do not need to watch me getting dressed up for another guy”. The fact is, when I hear this, I stiffen like steel, I become exited and free of any anxiety. And yes, I tell her I’m fine being a cuckold. So Kim has taken an active role in managing my cuckold anxiety. That being said, I’d like to call your attention to another anxiety issue. Before I allowed myself to be honest with my wife and myself, and bring cuckolding into my marriage, I was filled with anxiety concerning my penis size and my failed attempts to please Kim. I so wanted her to climax thru intercourse. And “disappointed” became her lifestyle. Being an active cuckold allows me to drop my anxiety ridden concerns about pleasing my wife. I do not need to be concerned with my penis like I was before. Before being cucked I needed to manage the sexual preformance anxiety, and this, is not easily managed. And we all know that a woman who is unsatisfied sexually can be a real cause for tension between the husband and wife. Not to mention that I, myself, was anxious that she was not enjoying sex with me. For sure, being a cuckold is not a free ride, but I can feel good about the pleasure that my wife receives. There were no many signs, for too long, of my wives displeasure. Its not like I would go to a professional basket ball team and say “I want to play for the team”. Likewise I should not have (for 11 yrs) acted like I was able to please her sexually. And I have no such equipment. It is not like my penis would become more meaninful over time. It’s just too small. As a youth in the locker room I felt my own disappointment over my under-size. I had been unfair to her. The most organic and honest thing for me to do was to admit the truth and allow Kim to be with a “betterman” of her choosing. Yesterday in a chat, Luvr told me I was boring him. (I just love & respect his dominant honesty). And that was as a result of just chatting. My wife had 11 years of boring (and sex with a near useless penis). If doing right by Kim, means feeling humiliated, and jealous with some anxiety, then that is what I truly deserve!
a very erotic and informative narrative about the hotwife / cuckold lifestyle ,,, we saw ourselves in so many elements that you described
This is a really interesting story, and very sexy. However this really happened to me and I do think cuckold flaccid penis anxiety is a very important part of a wife needing a lover with a hard cock to satisfy her deep urges.
My fiancee (we were both virgins, and in high school) and I attempted sex…….I failed miserably with a flaccid useless penis. She then went out and had sex with an older guy with a reputation as a cocksman. Well deserved reputation, I may add. My fiancee fucked him twice during this cheating date……and confessed it to me. Later, after we were married and she had delivered our baby from her indiscretion with the other man, she continued with her infidelity …….her explanation was actually fair, and understandable. My penis which was flaccid and too quick never gave her a climax……she said she needed the other men to satisfy her. And as a stunning young redhead she had many pursuers. In fairness I had to agree with her……and I was finally able to admit how much her infidelity turned me on, and that I wanted her to do more. oddly the only time my flaccid, soft ineffective penis became hard and horny was when she had just been fucked by another guy.
My dick was also going soft and it actually made us fight cuz I wouldn’t finish and I would go soft… when she started fucking other guys I did not have that problem at all so I know what u mean!!
Very exciting. Thanks for sharing with us.
I don’t think I could ever feel anxiety knowing my woman was enjoying her lover to the fullest. I would be so proud of her and of myself for being her main man that she will come home to after her trip. I could only be driven crazy by the fact that she is being pleasured the way she desires and having a wonderful time with him. I would miss her beyond words but my devotion to her would be my strength. I would see to it she will come home to a cleaned house and a proud cuckold ready to wait on her ever need. I never hear anyone comment on what a cuckold does when the woman is away. I would hope my woman would have a girlfriend or another lover come by everyday to check on me and make sure I am doing my chores and most of all behaving. Can any women comment on that subject please. I can see that a real cuckold should not a babysitter but even kids will be bad when mom is away. Why risk it when someone can drop in at times. I know there are many things I don’t know about cuckoldry but the main ideas I would be a great cuckold. Thank you, Glenn
Seems I will be doing housework while She cuck me….Altho i have not yet experienced it we have an agreement of sorts….
I think you’d have to be unconscious not to feel some form of anxiety. My anxiety comes from whether or not my wife will enjoy herself. I’d hate to have talked her into this and the result is that she hated it, or her lover was a dud.
Hello Luvr and Other Folks here
Is this all a fatasy or does this happen for REAL that a rich wealthy man takes another man’s wife on his private jet or yacht and fucks her.
Do you know of anyone ho has ACTUALLY experienced a wife being taken on the yacht or the private jet of a rich man.
Please email us on sexyfloridian@yahoo.com or post your response here.
Rob
My wife and I have been occasional swingers for many, many years. We both have had fun with “friends” of each other and people we have met from the internet. We also frequent clubs and have had some wild nights together. It was when we.. or more I discovered that I had cuckold tendencies that this lifestyle crashed over us and took us in another direction. We have had successes and failures…one failure right now which has lead to us leaving the life at this time. Mainly due to not being able to find the right guy…a common problem I know. This means we have fallen into our old life of swinging..together and apart. However, when I read articles like the one above..the familiar feelings within me start to burn and I know deep down that I want to be…am a cuckold. The feelings and anxiety Luvr describes are bang on and it is the anxiety and angst that I crave and miss. With all the excitement and decadence that we can experience with couples and swinging clubs..as dark and mind blowingly amazing as it can be..nothing compares with my wife dating and meeting men whilst I am denied. The emotions involved are just too powerful, my head is spinning..my emotions twisted..my heart wrenched..bringing me to my knees in submission. The love I feel for my wife increased a hundred fold..and our marriage made stronger. Hopefully one day we will be able to find someone for her..and then we can both enjoy the lifestyle once again.
As mentioned before in other places, the reality can be quite different for the cuckold than the fantasy was. A lover for his wife is not just some ethereal cock but a whole man – full of personal eccentricities and features. He is someone that the man of the house would naturally compare and compete with on other levels beyond sexuality. Surrendering his wife to him for some exclusive time can be distressing because of that, and not just the sexual angle. For similar reasons, the wife will often select mates who would not necessarily be the first choices the husband would make. There are different qualities that appeal for such an intimate coupling. Because of those differences in appeal and standards, there can be some feeling of regret for meandering that path. Then there is the protector role of the husband. Regardless of all of the vetting and trust building, there will be anxiety of not being there in between the two or at least in some level of control during their date. That loss of control is how reality manifests itself in startling contrast to those well-developed fantasies that preceded actualizing things. Even if the cuckoldry is expressly based on lost control, the fantasy still dictated how that control would be lost. Nonetheless, it is undeniably exciting and very few who have experienced it do regret doing so. It might not work out due to a number of factors, probably with the inability to select mates suitable to both the husband and wife being high up there. The best advice to give anyway is to refrain from cummming until the wife has completed her date. Regrets, anxiety, and other negative feelings have very high potential in that situation, especially if you are very new to these experiences.
It’s amazing how closely Luvr’s scenario with the boss matches my own real-life experience. In our situation, I started sharing my Diane even before our marriage at age 22. During the next eight years, she would take advantage of her freedom to have other men, and occasionally come home with a story about a sexual tryst she had with an acquaintance or stranger she met at a bar or a party. Since these sexual encounters were not planned, and usually a one time occurrence, I only felt slight cuckold angst after orgasm. When she was 30, Diane came home from work one day and mentioned that her married boss was hitting on her. Just like in Luvr’s scenario, I encourage her to flirt back, and things quickly escalated until they were involved in a full-blown affair. (Her boss never knew that I was aware of what was going on. He thought Diane was cheating on me)
From the very start, my wife would orally service her boss on an almost daily basis at work. She also disclosed the fact that not only would she always swallow her bosses ejaculation, she would also lovingly hold his erection in her mouth, coaxing any remnants from her bosses orgasm until his erection completely subsided. She said this was to prevent any evidence for his wife to find on his pants or underwear, but just the same, she had never held me in her mouth like that after my orgasm. (It also had been almost 2 years since I had ejaculated inside my wife’s mouth. About three weeks into the affair I calculated that Diane had already swallowed more of her bosses ejaculations then she had for me the entire nine and a half years I had known her up to that point)
Diane also naughtily admitted early on, that her bosses position of authority added to her sexual attraction and desire to please him. For the first time in eight and a half years of sharing her, I was starting to experience strong cuckold angst after my frequent masturbations. But this was nothing like the angst I experienced one month into their relationship when my wife confessed that she had developed “romantic feelings” for her boss. She tried to assure me that she still loved me, but now she shared those same feelings with her boss. I must admit, that even though this was scary to hear, it also produced a super intense sexual arousal. After hearing my wife’s unexpected bombshell, I didn’t say much. I remember walking to the bathroom completely consumed by cuckold induced lust. As I closed the bathroom door, my face was burning, my mouth was dry, and my hands were shaking as I released my throbbing penis from my shorts. I basically couldn’t hold back, and even though the bathtub was my initially intended target, I had to just lean back against the bathroom door gripped by one of the most intense orgasms of my life, spurting all over the bathroom cabinets and floor. After the last waves orgasm dissipated, I stood there, looking at the mess I had just made, cum still dripping from the tip of my softening penis as a wave of cuckold angst, unlike any I have ever felt before, swept over me. I was immediately depressed, felt sorry for myself, and started to cry……..
This situation became a roller coaster of emotions for me. I thought that this must be what it’s like for a heroin user. Terrible debilitating, depressing orgasm induced angst, almost making me feel sick. After a few hours, sometimes longer, my angst would slowly start to diminish as my sexual arousal would start to build, fueled by thoughts of my wife, lovingly servicing her boss. I would then again try to replicate that intense sexual rush, and get my fix, by encouraging Diane to share more details of their encounters, and even facilitating ways for them to have intimate, alone time together when her boss could slip away from his wife for a few hours. (I would conveniently arrange to take my daughter to the grocery store, Chucky cheese, or even drop her off at grandma’s house while I went camping just depending on how much time Diane’s lover could get away from home.) During this time of emotional roller coaster for me, Diane realized that it would benefit her if she managed my orgasms. After I would cum, I would basically be depressed, angry, and just generally shitty to be around. She learned not to have any type of sexual interaction with me unless she was going to be away from the house for a while, like just before leaving from work. That way she wouldn’t be around for the worst part of my angst, and I would have a little bit of time to recover by the time she got home. She also made me agree to give her full control of my orgasms and even though it was okay to play with myself, I wasn’t to make myself cum. She also learned that when I was experiencing angst while she was around, a little “teasing” would help me snap out of it. (“What’s the matter honey, are you sad that your wife is in love with her boss?”) These things really helped her deal with the side effects of my angst. Luckily for me, she also came to realize that it would really benefit me if she increased the time between my orgasms, giving me less “angst” time. As I look back on it now, I realize it was truly a loving act for my wife to slowly increase the time between my orgasms, giving me a chance to get used to being “denied”. This was way before the Internet, and we had never heard or read anything about romantic bonding, cuckold angst, or denial. This was just instinctual, mostly on her part. It didn’t take me long to realize that this was making life much happier and more satisfying for me. I quickly realized the benefits of denial, and eventually learned to actually enjoy the experience. Unfortunately, eight months into the affair, the bosses wife overheard her husband on the phone with Diane. There was a big blowup, the wife made a big scene at work, and they soon moved away. Nonetheless, it was an amazing experience while it lasted. During their eight-months together, my wife’s boss put more loads of cum in Diane’s belly, (and butt!), than I have in the entire thirty-five and a half years I have known her. Even though it ended sadly, I am so thankful for the entire experience. An intensely sexual love affair is something that can never happen too often in life. I am glad that Diane had the opportunity to enjoy that experience while it lasted. She deserved it! I feel so fortunate to have been along for the ride, especially after learning how to manage my angst through denial. Thank you Diane for teaching me that in our case, denial was a product of love.
Anxiety Management
I am still learning to manage my emotions and anxiety. Because of my anxiety and many emotions, we actually discontinued for a few months. I have a very understanding wife. And, she could see that I wanted this to truly work. We have gotten back to cuckolding. But I now handle things better. My wife and I talked and role played, and as time went by, we increased what she would do. I still feel many emotions, and I do get the flooded feeling. And, I still feel anxious. But, I have come to see these components as something positive. For example, my wife sees how much I totally love her and care for her. She sees how much I want her to feel really great pleasure; even if, I feel some discomfort or even some emotional anguish. I am aware of what I do not bring to the table. I want to be fair to my wife. I must manage my feelings/emotions/anxiety; and I do not see denying any of this, as an option; I now try harder than ever, to manage what I am feeling. I try to remember that her pleasure is what I need to focus on. I am always trying to manage as I should.