Like a hotwife’s sex, a cuckold’s curiosity requires a lot of feeding!
A cop waves a badge, a bull waves a cock.
I’m posting this in response to a question I had recently from a wife who was concerned her husband had ulterior motives (bisexuality) in sharing her and encouraging her as a hotwife.While this does happen, it’s in the overwhelming minority and is often pretty obvious in many other ways than simple curiosity about past/current lovers. The root of her concern stemmed from a pattern of questioning by her husband that began when the wife shared details about experiences with previous lovers. This wife was very alarmed by the curiosity of her husband regarding the genitals of her lovers; how long was his cock, whether it was thicker than his own, for example. Her husband wanted to know “…did his balls feel heavy?”. This wife felt quite uncomfortable trying to provide such details to her husband and this is rather common. Not only was she struggling with the language herself (not accustomed to such frank discussion of males with her husband or anyone), but also feared how being honest might hurt her husband’s feelings and/or self-confidence.
For any wives reading this, be reassured that such curiosity is 100% normal and actually quite healthy. Your husband is not a latent bisexual but rather fixated on the single most obvious symbol of cuckoldry: the physical manifestation of his cuckolding. When I first began seeing a wife on a regular basis and we got to the point where I was spending time at their place some evenings and overnights on the weekend I noticed he seemed fixated on my cock when it was visible. When I mentioned to her, she just laughed and said it was like hearing stories of Sasquatch sightings and then finally seeing it for yourself. The fact is your cuckold needs to know everything he can about your boyfriend because his thoughts are completely fixated on you – and him – much of the time, but especially during dates. During this time, the cuckold’s imagination tries to fill in the blanks that his own eyes have yet to see and the more detail you give him, the easier he can do that and – most importantly – feel included.
Don’t feel guilty about the inevitable teasing effect when you tell your husband that your boyfriend’s cock is superior in one or more ways – he wants to hear that and expects to hear that. Even if he’s seen that cock, he still wants you to say it. Remember that the pain of feeling you’re keeping secrets far outweighs the fleeting discomfort of an erotic discussion of the cock that pleasures you.
“-feel included.” That sums it up in your thesis.
I have enjoyed hearing about details relating to an affair my wife had and now we are totally ok after her initial surprise that it did turn me on.
Being included is important in the sharing and also honesty relating to any other experiences she has with another man. The process is a step wise one through which nothing can be rushed.
Great points all. Sharing details of her experiences with her lover has always been very difficult for Val and she gets pissed if I seem to be pressing her for too much information. An awful lot of it has to do with her not wanting to hurt me by letting me know how much better he is.
As well, my wife worried about my reaction to her first lover. She still felt (although we has talked about it for over 4 years) that she had cheated on me. In the early days, I had to press her for info and cock size was the toughest bit for her to express. Like every other cuck, I just had to know.
Now, it’s quite different. My wife now happily talks about cock size, adventurous positions, different things they do better than me, etc. I’m not at the point where I want to watch live, but when my wife comes home after a night or weekend of romping with her boyfriend, she relishes telling the stories as well as giving me “seconds.”
I have to agree wholeheartedly with this article, cuckolding is something a couple should do together, both fully aware of what the other seeks to get, whilst also being aware of limitations. I have witnessed my wife’s fuckngs many times, and on those occasions when it has not been possible for me to be with her, she has not spared me the details. Such details have ensured I have been included, because if I had discovered she’d gone with another guy and not told me I’d have considered it ‘cheating’. Weird as that may sound to some, I do think that cuckolding is about being 100% honest with other, and in doing that it demonstrates the strength of the relationship to each other.
My wife did not have stories of other men’s cocks as she had little experience prior to meeting me. But if she had slept around I would have enjoyed her relating some anecdotes for me, for sure! I did however introduce my somewhat coy wife to porn movies when she was in her late 20s, and I did enjoy it when she was sufficiently relaxed to be happy discussing other men’s sexual techniques and cocks with me.
This is the part of many articles I have read. Why is that many women that have cuckolds not allow him to witness her sexual times. The cuckold is just as important as her lovers and all work towards the same goal of making the woman completely satisfied. I feel the cuckold has as much right to be present as the lover has to her body. I would also ask her to have all her lovers come to our home for her sex so we will both be comfortable and welcome her lovers as my friends and get to personally thank them for the joy they are bring my woman. I am only a wannabe cuckold but I will want to be part of everything and be by her side always if she is making me her main man at home. Am I thinking selfishly? How can your cuckold feel a part on your life if he is banned from anything? I will respect any encouraging advice. Thank you, Glenn
I know my wife gets self-conscious for whatever reason. She definitely doesn’t want it filmed, pics, etc. In a strange way, I like it more that she goes and has her privacy with her lover. I know she appreciates that I give her her space with him and it’s important to both of us that she genuinely likes him as well as their comfort together as lovers.
Would love to have my wife fuck a BBC but don’t know how to ask???????