Reply To: Looking for help going from fantasy to reality

Hello Shawn
Your wife has some valid concerns. All I can do is express my opinions in dealing with other couples that have had similar concerns.
First off, get the cage! Show her that you are truly sincere and want this to happen and you’re willing to sacrifice yourself for her pleasure. And when she needs relief then she can tell you to remove your cage but other than that, once you are comfortable in it, your caged to show her your devotion. Also take the suggestion of earlier reply so she can see what a man would feel like.
As for the roleplay, Keep it going. It stimulates you both and every time it will get her closer to giving reality a chance. The step from fantasy to reality is a small one but is one of the hardest things to do. Once done though it will open up a whole new world for you two.
She has every right to be concerned with the “social norms”. Times they are changing but not as open as some would like you to think. Be smart, be discrete when starting out. Make arraingments to meet out of town or place you don’t usually go to. Have her Dom come to your house or go to his. Until you both feel comfortable with “going out” remain low key. The time may or may not come around, some of that depends on how high of a profile you have and how you feel about other people you know seeing you in your new lifestyle. One way of being “out” with your lifestyle without attracting attention yet “hiding in plain sight”, is have get togethers at your house with family and friends. If he is already in that circle good, if not he’s nothing more than an “old friend” you ran into. Everyone accepts that and he now is in your circle.
And by all means, she doesn’t need to find someone by sleeping around. All that does is open you up for STD’s or crazies.
You or her must have a friend or co-worker that seems to be interested in her. She can flirt a bit with them and see if they are interested. If so, see where that may go. Look around and see who pays extra attention to her and if they fit her tastes. Websites like this one seem to have a great deal of decent people, some are local I am sure. Introduce yourselves and go from there.
But above all…..become friends with the Man that is going to be with your wife. Talk to him, listen to him, both of you. He should be someone you both like and get along with. He Needs to be your Friend Before a Lover.
When you think you’ve found someone, feel free to email/text/talk to them. Get to know what he expects from you two and what you expect from him. Be clear about this if you are looking for something to last more than a week or 2.
Additionally you need to decide if your looking for a bull or a Dom. This site has a good explanation of the difference. Read the information located here, have your wife read it also.
Last but not least
Communicate with each other, hopes, fears, dreams. That is the key to making it work long term.
I have been in the lifestyle as a Dom for the past 10 years. I am still friends with all the couples I have been with and am welcomed into their home when I am in town.
Feel free to contact me if you have additional questions if you’d like
markthomasemail2@gmail
Hope this helped if even a little
Thanks Mark