Reply To: New to the Lifestyle

Dear L-hub

Thank you for writing your story. You are one of the lucky men who was able to come to grips with your anger and ego and talk to your wife. I have talked to so many husbands about finding out about their wife cheating and they just decide they cant deal with it- and the marriage is over.

But more importantly to your question about getting the other guy out of the picture, you are correct. I recently spoke to a husband who was a cuckold, and his wife decided to divorce him for one of the Bulls.

They have 2 kids, and so they share custody but his ex-wife lives with the Bull and has sex with many other men as well.

Since you showed courage to talk to your wife before, I highly suggest you show more courage this time and just ask her – what are her feelings for you? and then what are her feelings for him?

If she loves you, then I would ask her to make a deal. And that would be to take a vacation together. You and your wife, go some place that is her fantasy, and just have some alone time. After she agrees, then Id ask her for the 2nd part – which is would she do you the favor of not seeing him before you go away. That way you can get her mind off the serotonin and endorphins that having sex with him has created in her mind. The time and space will allow her to think more clearly.

At that point, when you come back, you should immediately tell her that you are open and encourage her to meet 1 new man. And not immediately go back to this co-worker, because it’s not fair to him – he needs to find love and be able to have a serious relationship and if she cares about him, she will set him free.

She will be heartbroken, but tell her – dont be selfish and think about him and his long term needs.

that is my suggestion. I hope everything works out.