Reply To: Hard to find someone

You might try Fetlife – at least there is some conversation there… and OK Cupid if you put in or search for the right key words – at least a while back it worked.
Don’t discount people you know… just pic someone you like and who you feel would be discreet. Try to talk to people directly on boards like this and ask if they are within your area if you like them. And be open minded – don’t insist on a 24.5 year old that is 6’2.5 inches, 185 lbs no more or less…. go for the 69 year old if he seems nice… 🙂 I have a sub since 2004 and when I started with her it was not because she was “Hot” but because it would be different and entertain me for a while as I kept looking for that centerfold. Well we turned out to be a great personality match. We are still together, though looking for another to help keep me satisfied (she is too busy with family stuff lately.) So, be willing to bend a little in requirements.
It is just as hard to find someone from the bull side – I’ve met a couple women over a few years, one married but not telling hubby, one single with a kid… Distance, time and family can really get in the way of a continuing relationship. I recommend against the one night bar stands due to STDs, even with rubbers. Sounds like you are also not going for the short term but are looking for a relationship… you can only succeed if you keep trying.