Re: Confused

Hello M. Stratoss,  Thank you for reaching out to people here to get a better understanding of the situation and because you will realize you aren’t alone.  If you don’t mind me saying so, your situation sounds like the “cliche’ ” that every would be cuckold would dream of if they had the chance.  It’s also ironic that as usual, the person telling the tale (you in this case) is not as desiring of the situation as many of your readers would be. Having said that, I need to ask you a few things that may help you in the long run if you truly love your wife.

If I may say so, there is a reason that you are naturally submissive to her and she is naturally Dominant to you. This reason is subconsciously part of why the two of you were attracted to each other in the first place, don’t you think? You went as far as to say that somehow you think this is what you may have needed all along anyways, right?  Again, there is a reason that these things happen and that reason is what you need to think about.  She is being who she was intended to be since the beginning long before she met you.  I can applaud her for not fighting her nature and giving in to what society may want her to be. You need to do some serious soul searching my friend, and ask yourself…do you lover her unconditionally?  If I were in your shoes, the only thing I would be upset with her about is for concealing her intentions from you before.  I don’t know you two personally though, and it may very well be that her intentions were clear and you just refused to see the signs (it happens to a great many of us who mistakenly believe that men should be “Alpha”and women shouldn’t.

As things stand right now, she says she would like to have you back. If you love her, all you need do is concern yourself with the conditions under which she would like to have you back.  Are you content to let her make of you a slave, a pet, a toy for her amusement, as these things can be very rewarding for a person like myself or maybe you? Truth be told, I am willing to bet that her life will not be as wonderful without you in it to suffer and wait for her.  We all have our places in this life and I think we can only be happy when we are honest with ourselves and our partners too.  You and her need to sit down together and discuss what will make the both of you happy and whether that 2 fold plan can intertwine to make 1 beautiful marriage.  Most importantly though, nothing good will come of your situation if either of you cannot be completely honest about what you want out of life with each other. 

Lastly, I would like to say that I have been in a very happy cuckold relationship now for almost 3 years (married 10 years), and our lives are made all the more wonderful by total honesty.  We can accept a lot as human beings, but deception takes away from us the most valuable of human assets…freedom to choose.

I hope to be able to offer more to you if you would like to chat more.  These things don’t come naturally to everyone after all.