Luvr
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    spooky – you've made good progress and have overcome the largest obstacle: simply discussing the topic(s).

    I would encourage you not to take a false sense of security by her enjoying only an 'anonymous' partner to prevent emotional attachment. You two, as a couple, share dozens of bonds together, including an interest in exploring alternative to standard marriage sexuality. Brining another male into your marriage, into your bed, will serve as yet another bond and even if your wife should develop a bond, emotionally, with her lover, that bond can't threaten your marriage unless you two never really had a bond. When the wife creates a bond with her lover, beyond a physical one, the intensity is increased quite substantially for everyone. A wife who can't appreciate her cuckold's trust and faith in her while having such a bond with a lover is stupid, crazy or both and doesn't deserve you if she can't appreciate the gift of love you offer her in such an adventure. Based on your post and your stated marriage qualities, I think you're both well-suited to this and will do just fine as long as you share fully in it and aren't afraid to cut ties with a guy and move on.

    Yes, this can be a lifestyle change you don't look back from. In other words, having only one male lover may never be an option for her after this, but who he is and the practical exercise of this as a lifestyle can vary at any time you two choose to do so. Some couples will have a small stable of guys she sees very sporadically while others will date only one boyfriend either very regularly or very infrequently. Most will take breaks at times and not see anyone else, but few go back to how it was.

    Stop by the chat sometime – let's talk about it!