Re: Is this a good way to go about it?

You might want to come out and confess to her your inability to control your masterbation habit. Its alot easier than trying to explain to her how you would prefer her to be with other men and a possible start to a wonderful conversation how you both really feel and your inner sexual fantasies.

You might find her able to accept that and then be more open to discuss solutions. One being your locked up and therefore better prepared to satisfy her, two, you really prefer masterbation and how can you still address her needs. I found my wife wasn't shocked at all when I've finally admitted . She knew already actually and I found out she wasn't the prude she made herself out to be. Still we can't have the conversations I've hoped for but its out in the open now.

I come out to her about many of my preversions not all. I've found it has stregthened her and has made her more of the woman I've hoped her to be. Realized she is still an attractive, confident woman worthy of a great sex life and attention from men has really taken her out of her slump. She dresses better, holds her head high, demostrates her natural dominant personality.

Good luck.