Re: safety when meeting for the first time…

I strongly recommend that you meet on neutral ground the first time you are going to meet potential playmates in person.  Also that the first meeting be non-committal i.e., that it be understood by all parties that the meeting will be  strictly social with no strings attached.  If for some reason there is no chemistry or you are put off in any way, you can politely part company and no one is hurt or embarrassed. Always leave everyone a safe exit.

If, on the other hand, the attraction is irresistible, you can always change the rules on the spot and fall into the nearest bed together.

Good luck.