Re: The Difficult Wife

Hi

I think you are right about going back some steps. Don’t worry too much aboout the false start. Think of it as a seed planted, and remember her initial reaction was positive.

Take a long view. Lavish praise and attention on her so she feels a million dollars. At the same time make sure she is meeting lots of men socially and enjoying their company and attention. It may take some time, for us it took a long time, but each step is exciting. Encourage her to widen her social horizons, at the same time subtley altering your role to make a space for an alpha male in her life. Take an interest in her appearance, clothes, hair, what she thinks of people, especially other men, try to be more of a girly friend/big brother. Practice letting her make the decisions.

After all that, when she does meet a guy she likes you can be ready to encourage her interest, cheer her on through the flirting and dating. tell her you are jealous but reassure her you are more interested in her exploring and finding herself. You have given her the space and created the right conditions but now she will be following her own heart and not just your fantasy. that is what will drive her through her shyness and inhibitions. Finally the day will come when she will tell you (not ask) that she is going to give herself to another and you can savour the first wonderful fruits of that seed.