Re: The Dream

I love the pushing a swing analogy. Each time she expresses fantasies and thoughts about other men we need to be encouraging, praising and rewarding, whilst making sure she is secure and knows exactly how loved she is.

We started with just such steps, progressing to her dating andoccasionally kissing other men.

I remember what seemd a real turning point. An old (male) friend was staying over with us. She woke and told me she dreamed she had gone to him in the night and that they had made love. I was overjoyed and let her know that without any pressure there was nothing I’d like more than for this to happen. I didn’t keep on about it and nothing came of it but i made sure she knew I was really pleased with her with gifts and a lot of attention.

It wasn’t so long after this that she stayed the night with a male friend for the first time.