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Pacificcoordinator
My husband, Alan, and I have been married since we were 20 (July 2000, I was 20, he was turning 20 in November); I’m from the Philippines and had just finished my bachelor degree, and he was in the middle of his here in the US. We had our first child, Sarah, in September 2001, our second child, Jack, in December 2002, and our third child, Marianne, in August 2004. He is a management consultant for hire (he works full time for himself and keeps his appointments strictly to weekday daytimes), while I began my own business in 2001 as an event planner and interior decorator (I generally work Wednesdays through Sundays, especially swamped on weekends).
In a basic nutshell, he is very left and I am very right. We are devout Catholics and both Filipino (he was born and raised in the US), and I came to the US right after we married.
He has always been into porn, and it used to upset me really badly. I eventually came to realize that it was natural and that it didn’t affect how he treated life, at least not badly. So for our 11th anniversary (July 2011), I gave him a bonus gift: His two darkest and biggest fantasies, to know I had sex with a White man, and a Black man.
A long story short, we long discussed how to do it, and it came down to finding people I could date that we both approved of, and took each step carefully. It was slow at first, and I ended up dating almost two dozen men before I was comfortable enough and had the courage enough to do more than allow them to french kiss me or feel me through my top. Both men were also much older than me, by at least 15 years. To this day, I have been with one Indian man, 9 White guys, and 13 Black men.
I really, really love Black men. But only if they are respectable and always gentlemanly; basically they have to be businessmen.
The one I am dating now, we met back in 2004 at a Christmas party I organized. We saw each other at various gatherings, since a couple of his friends are my clients, and it was strictly platonic until 2012 when his wife divorced him. And I refused his advances, which began late that year, because he was a nice casual friend and I didn’t want to mess it up. But eventually, I gave in at a New Year’s party I helped organize at a hotel; he asked me out again, I said yes, and he passionately kissed me for at least a minute or so at the stroke of midnight.
He’s a Black man named Jeff, he’s 49 and has two children, daughters aged 31 and 13, and he works in medical supplies (he runs the company). So, we began dating in January of this year.
What was agreed upon back in 2011 when I began to date other men was that all activity that could possibly suggest infidelity was to remain outside of our home, with the exception of possible sexual activity in our pool house after our children were asleep. And all extramarital behavior was to take place outside of our neighborhood and mindfully away from people and places we were familiar with. And we’ve been careful to make sure it’s a clean record.
Now, our marriage is somewhat similar to what we’ve read about here, and it is more about my sexual and romantic satisfaction and his satisfaction of knowing I have been with select other men. But with Jeff, we are in new territory.
I began to fall in love with Jeff in such a manner that Alan is always
#1 and always will be my husband, but I do so crave to be Jeff’s girl in public too, just not around the family and friends in my married life. And part of that deep extension goes with our life at home.
Other than the pool house, the first time Jeff was in our home was for my birthday celebration, along with other family and friends, in May.
He was introduced to everyone as a friend of Alan’s, including our children. And we’ve successfully had Jeff over for dinner once or twice a week, and Jeff and I adjourning to the pool house after Alan and/or I have tucked the children in.
I have craved, for most of the time that we’ve been dating, to wear what I normally wear for Jeff around my home (somewhat cleavage baring tops and dresses), and to be able to have Jeff at home, honestly, as much as possible so I need only go to the other room or somewhere in our home if I want to be with Jeff, or, for the matter, Alan.
Alan has offered to let Jeff move in to the pool house, which Jeff has accepted, but agreed across us three that not until we’ve ironed out other details. Among them is Jeff being allowed to make love to me and fuck me in our married bed (Alan’s more uncomfortable about being sexual simultaneously with us two, not so much about Jeff and I in our married bed), displays of affection (I don’t hug or kiss Jeff in front of the children, but don’t want to feel as if it would be wrong to), and the integration of Jeff as more of a family friend (our children still call him Mr. _____, we’d like to get it so we can introduce him as Uncle Jeff, and understand that he is a good part of the family now).
There is also the fact that Alan and I want to have one more child, and the fact that we both feel it is unfortunate that I am in the beginning of a romance with another man, because this would be a perfect time to finish our family.
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devotedcuckold
You seem to be in a very fortunate cuckold relationship. Firstly, it is not an issue that at the same time you want to have another child and your relationship with Jeff is getting more romantic. It is absolutely fine if you get pregnant at this time. You should all cherish this moment, involve Your bull into it. If there is good understanding between ur husband you and ur bull, then Jeff should cherish the fact that he will be involved. I think you need to be a bit more open with Jeff infront of the kids in a respectful way. Have them call him uncle but he is a “special” uncle. When ur husband is busy go to watch a movie or shopping with just you and Jeff. I will update you more later
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theterriers
Thank you for sharing your story. It is great to hear from a successful cuckold couple. You have achieved what many cuckold couples desire. From your posting, some of the keys to this successful relationship have been effective communication between the hotwife, cuckold, and bull, and the establishment of rules and boundaries. It is fantastic that your rules and boundaries have expanded as your relationship with Jeff progressed and that he has become more integrated into the marriage and family. There should be no reason not to finish your family and achieve all that you have envisioned and desired. Continue on with your communication between the three of you, stating your desires and expectations for the relationship to continue with the addition of another baby. Establish any rules and boundaries that will provide comfort and security, and now that those can always be dropped or expanded later on. Jeff should want the best for you and Alan, and should be happy to play a central role in your family and continuing the relationship. You should have a beautiful family with another baby and maintaining your Alpha Male Bull and beta male husband. Best wishes to you and your family.
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Pacificcoordinator
Thank you for your support and comments. And to those who pass through reading, we’re all open and ears to anything constructive we can pick up from you.
We have had a whirlwind of a season, most of which I can’t really divulge here. Needless to say, it has tested the bonds of our marriage, our love and everything we can think of, and then some. And right now, Alan and I are about to leave for a much-needed one-on-one vacation for the next few days, followed by a one-on-one vacation with Jeff next weekend, after whichI will be going off of my birth control and conceiving the last member of our family with Alan.
Reality will always push you further and harder than you ever think, and it only makes it that much more important that you choose your life and stand for it. We have been pushed to arguments and tears, but Alan and I are stronger and more solid than ever in our marriage, love and friendship. Jeff and I have become more knowledgeable and understanding of each other, so our romance and relationship has blossomed brighter than ever. And all of us with our children, it’s so much happier than I thought possible.
My husband, Alan, is not a beta husband. He is every bit the equal of Jeff, but wants me to have the experiences and life I can have with other men, and now, namely Jeff. And we have found ways to integrate him into our family so that our children accept him as better-than-an-uncle.
As things are now, we decided not to have Jeff in our master bedroom, keeping it as sacred ground. And, in fact, it was at my insistence, and Jeff has no qualms about it. But, we are now in full pda in front of our children. Not that we are vulgarly sexual in front of them, but he has surprised me with a few french kisses when the children are home.
We are in a good place, but it is still important that I make solid, personal time with my men and remember where my place is in all of this. Thank you, and I will share more soon.
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theterriers
Thank you for the update and sharing your story. Your success is inspiring to others balancing family with the cuckolding lifestyle.
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Pacificcoordinator
At this time, being a family altogether, as Alan, myself, Jeff and all of our children, has been very fruitful. As I am currently abstaining from intercourse until Alan and I begin to make our last member of our family, Jeff has been making full use of his time to take care of our children simultaneously with his. And that has allowed for Alan and I to spend lots of non-sexual time with each other, stoking to fires for the weekend after next when we’ll make love and lose ourslves in each other.
That’s not to say that I don’t throw a little bone my boyfriend’s way every now and then. I have gone back to dressing as my conservative self when Jeff isn’t in our home. But on the days and nights Jeff is with us, I will open a few buttons, or go braless in my blouse or dress, just for him. And Jeff and I have our moments of making out, and they can go a long time. One time, the kids were watching the Hobbit movies with Alan in the family room while Jeff and I were upstairs making out, and when they were about to leave to watch the last one in theaters, we still weren’t done yet. And I was using everything in my power to keep his luscious cock from entering any of my orifices, because I want my child to unmistakeably be my husband’s, and I want purity in our experience of that.
Now, that being said, as soon as I find out I am pregnant and well under way, I have decided I will be moving in with Jeff in his home. It’s more than the least I could do for his being so understanding of my love and devotion to Alan. Plus, I am looking forward to the stares we’ll get when we’re in what few public places we’ll be together, with my baby bump.
As a married mother of three, I am looking for suggestions and ideas for things I can wear in public for my Jeff, my darling chocolate lover. Please keep in mind that I am 5’4″, 137 lbs. with natural F cup breasts, porcelain skinned. Jeff is almost a foot taller than me.
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Belmont
@Pacificcoordinator said:
At this time, being a family altogether, as Alan, myself, Jeff and all of our children, has been very fruitful. As I am currently abstaining from intercourse until Alan and I begin to make our last member of our family, Jeff has been making full use of his time to take care of our children simultaneously with his. And that has allowed for Alan and I to spend lots of non-sexual time with each other, stoking to fires for the weekend after next when we’ll make love and lose ourslves in each other.
That’s not to say that I don’t throw a little bone my boyfriend’s way every now and then. I have gone back to dressing as my conservative self when Jeff isn’t in our home. But on the days and nights Jeff is with us, I will open a few buttons, or go braless in my blouse or dress, just for him. And Jeff and I have our moments of making out, and they can go a long time. One time, the kids were watching the Hobbit movies with Alan in the family room while Jeff and I were upstairs making out, and when they were about to leave to watch the last one in theaters, we still weren’t done yet. And I was using everything in my power to keep his luscious cock from entering any of my orifices, because I want my child to unmistakeably be my husband’s, and I want purity in our experience of that.
Now, that being said, as soon as I find out I am pregnant and well under way, I have decided I will be moving in with Jeff in his home. It’s more than the least I could do for his being so understanding of my love and devotion to Alan. Plus, I am looking forward to the stares we’ll get when we’re in what few public places we’ll be together, with my baby bump.
As a married mother of three, I am looking for suggestions and ideas for things I can wear in public for my Jeff, my darling chocolate lover. Please keep in mind that I am 5’4″, 137 lbs. with natural F cup breasts, porcelain skinned. Jeff is almost a foot taller than me.Would love to have you email us at our email address on our profile here. We are a Caucasian hubby, 65, and Filipina wife, 42. Wife gave birth to a Blasian son this past July. We live in northern Indiana. M&B
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Belmont
@theterriers said:
Thank you for sharing your story. It is great to hear from a successful cuckold couple. You have achieved what many cuckold couples desire. From your posting, some of the keys to this successful relationship have been effective communication between the hotwife, cuckold, and bull, and the establishment of rules and boundaries. It is fantastic that your rules and boundaries have expanded as your relationship with Jeff progressed and that he has become more integrated into the marriage and family. There should be no reason not to finish your family and achieve all that you have envisioned and desired. Continue on with your communication between the three of you, stating your desires and expectations for the relationship to continue with the addition of another baby. Establish any rules and boundaries that will provide comfort and security, and now that those can always be dropped or expanded later on. Jeff should want the best for you and Alan, and should be happy to play a central role in your family and continuing the relationship. You should have a beautiful family with another baby and maintaining your Alpha Male Bull and beta male husband. Best wishes to you and your family.
Nice to know a cuckold-interested couple live so close. We are a Caucasian hubby, 65, and Filipina wife, 42. Wife gave birth to a Blasian son this past July. We are in northern Indiana. M&B
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Venerablesage
Hey Pacific, could we get an update please?
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Cathy & Jerry
Yes please, we’re all on edge here lol
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cuck4life
What a great story. Good luck to you all
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rs
I realize this is an older post but am still in awe of the integrated family life. Your children would all three now be in their teens and I am sure have an understanding about Uncle Jeff. I join the others in hoping to hear an update.
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Pacificcoordinator
devotedcuckold
theterriers
Belmont
Venerablesage
Cathy & Jerry
cuck4life
rs
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