Acceptance and submitting

Are cucks born a cuck or decide to become one. I can only share how it was for me and I acknowledge my circumstances are different.
I was poor at sex from the word go and once inserted my penis would cum very quickly two minutes max and that was with me doing all the movement. If my wife started to move and grind it would be half a minute.
I used to masterbate her and perform orally to try and satisfy her and make up for my performance. Even though this was the case I dunno think I would have become a cuck if I had not become paralyzed even though looking back I Should have done. My penis was small and circumcized even back then five inches max when hard. I have spent months in hospital and am now completely paralyzed from the waist down and double incontinent which means I poo myself sometimes. I am not husband material at all. I can’t work and provide and I can’t penetrate my wife or anyone else. If I had not become a cuck I would now be in a nursing home or something my wife would have left me years ago. Acceptance of being a cuck was easy compared with acceptance of being disabled. I had no Choice really in either. Acceptance of who you are as a man or a husband is vital to a marriage. If I had not accepted being disabled it would not have Changed the fact that I am. Same as being a cuck. Not accepting being a cuck would have resulted in me being on my own. My wife is the boss. She works she makes all the rules I obey. She chooses her lover’s and have to accept them. My little useless penis stuffed with its tube will never enter my wife’s vagina as long as I live so others will have that pleasure and my wife will choose. Hope this is of some help