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This is completely new to me as well. I am in my second marriage and we have been “happily” married for just over 20 yrs, but in the last few years I have been unable to satisfy her sexually. At one point she brought up the idea of having a sexual relationship outside the marriage, but I didn’t think she was serious and let it go, but recently, it started me to think about this whole subject and it turns me on to think of her having sex with another man. I just don’t know where to go from here. How do I revisit the idea that she brought up without making myself look like a complete fool?

Update: This site has been immensely helpful in allowing me to consolidate my thoughts and be able to express openly what I have been experiencing privately. She just returned from a mini-vacation to FL and I was dreading the conversation that would inevitably have to take place. Over the past several weeks, I have not been able to get an erection much less ejaculation with the usual methods, i.e. masturbation to porn. She has been blaming herself for my lack of interest or responsiveness. With the stories that I have read on this site, I was finally able to open up and discuss the real situation and suggest a possible solution, cuckolding. Although, not open to that option at the present, we have found other ways to show my love for her and possibly visit that option in the future. In the interim, she seems quite content with the present situation even though I cannot offer her penetrative sex. It has been an immense relief to me to be able to finally talk about this subject with her. I was losing sleep over this concern for the past several nights, and now all of that stress has simply dissipated. I look forward to learning about this subject further and continuing to urge her in this direction.