Chastity and Penis Demotion

The article “The Cuckold Demotion” (posted September 9th) that explained the idea of “demoting” a large dick really resonates with me. I developed an incredibly strong hard-on within the confines of my jailbird chastity device the first time I read it, and the many times I’ve re-read it since. According to my wife, I have a rather large dick— at least too large for her. Counter to the prevailing stereotype of a strong woman’s needs, she would rather that I have a much smaller dick. It’s not so much the length as the girth, which is the problem for her, to the point where it is too painful for her to have penetrative sex with me. In the six years we’ve been married, we may have tried penetration no more than maybe five times, lasting less than a minute each attempt before the pain put a premature stop to it. In fact it’s been at least a year and a half since our last attempt, and I’m starting to accept the fact that I will probably never get inside her pussy again let alone any other woman’s for the rest of my life.

I’m married to a rather beautiful, well endowed woman with a strong, take-charge personality. Some might find it frustrating being married to such an alluring babe, not being able to get inside her, or even masturbate without her permission while locked up in a chastity device. Instead, I find it a real turn-on, very suited to my submissive nature. While I can’t get inside her, being “cut off” gives me the motivation to serve her in other fulfilling ways. For instance, I give her long massages, slowly and firmly kneading her entire body, allowing me to carefully examine and caress every little inch of her alluring body. This is something I might otherwise miss out on if my wife and I were anatomically compatible and I had the opportunity, option– and given my evolutionary instincts, the inclination to jump right into her and release my cum into her pussy. With my former girlfriend, I could hardly manage 5 minutes of massaging her before I felt compelled to thrust my dick into her. Now, I can go for hours worshipping my wife’s body, certainly with no prospect of intercourse and without any expectation for orgasm or edging (not that I don’t hope for it). Any guy, let alone someone with the dismal track record I have with women, would feel lucky to be able to caress every nuance of my wife’s sexy, athletic body, even if they never got to come inside her. Just being with such a sexy woman like her is it’s own reward, rubbing my dripping, jailbird incased penis and swollen balls over her body as I sit atop her and massage her exciting, enticing forms. If she had told me before marriage that chastity and total obedience to her body was the trade off I would need to make in order to marry her, I would’ve done so gladly in advance.

At first, I didn’t fully understand why this idea turned me on so much, until I read and reread “The Cuckold Demotion” article. I think the author Luvr hit it on the head when he said that some men with big dicks are born submissive, but society teaches us that men and those with large dicks especially, are expected to be dominant, assertive, and even aggressive. I’ve never been comfortable with that role, and in my early years, many of my previous girlfriends would complain that I wasn’t assertive enough or enough of a man after they quickly dropped me. I learned to be more assertive with time, but since I was attracted to a more dominant type of woman, that approach only netted me frustration, shoehorning me into standard vanilla relationships that didn’t fit my psyche and sexual need to be submissive.

As stated in the article, being in a chastity device is itself a visual form of penis demotion. Despite my large size, I purposely ordered a rather short version of the Mature Metal Jailbird to keep it from being noticeable under my jeans. Before the Jailbird and the CB6000s that I used to wear, I used to feel a sense of pride, also maybe a sense of entitlement mentioned in the article as I walked by a mirror and glanced at my thick dick. Now, every time I look in the mirror, I see a much smaller, insignificant penis—more symbolically appropriate to submissive role that I find sexually fulfilling, not the symbol of potentially oppressive power that I imagined in the mirror before.

While I find the cuckold information on this site interesting and erotic, I read it mostly for its chastity content. I’ve read a lot of the chastity/cuckold posts to my wife while I’ve massaged her, and I think she’s enjoyed them. I’ve been in chastity with my wife for more than a few years now. I originally encouraged her to put me in chastity to help sexualize our lack of intercourse. So instead, we engage in a lot of edging– and when she has the urge to orgasm, I look on while she masturbates; I often fantasize that she is cuckolding me with another man while she uses her vibrator on her pussy. I’m greatly turned on by the thought of another man developing a hard-on in my wife’s presence. In my mind, I see her nude except for a pulled-aside thong, him also nude and dripping with precum. It doesn’t matter whether they are about to have intercourse, or whether his dick is just as large as mine so that they are limited to fondling and outer-course as it was termed in the “Cuckold Demotion” post. Mostly, I’m turned on by the validation that my wife receives from her boyfriend’s erection, and the enjoyment she gets from playing with him in bed. Although probably destined to remain a fantasy, it’s not totally farfetched. I knew my wife for several years before I married her; she cuckolded at least one of her other boyfriends in that time, so I know she’s capable of it if that’s what she wants. I’m sure that if my wife were willing to take our fantasy beyond role playing or she wanted to dress the part of a “hot wife,” an athletic woman like her would probably attract a lot potential suitors in her age group (early 50’s) if not younger.

Perhaps being cuckold by her, would also add another layer of symbolism to our d/s relationship as stated in the post on demoting a big penis. Indeed, it’s hard for me to understand how someone as sexy as my wife can do without penetrative sex for so long as she has in our marriage. Judging from what she has said on several occasions, she does seem to miss it. That’s why we’ve tried it several times, even while knowing from past experience that it would probably end up painful for her. If she so desires, I have no problem with her fucking another guy to fulfill that part of her needs, especially if I can be a witness to her adventures at some point. Far from feeling threatened, it gives me a hard-on imagining her getting the sexual satisfaction that a beautiful sexy woman like her deserves. Even if I did feel threatened, which seems contrary to my concept of unconditional love, I would be stupid to object. I would prefer to be a part of her finding someone to take care of her penetrative needs, than be left behind and alone without any access to her. Also as has been noted elsewhere on this website, knowing that I have competition for her attention should give her some self-assurance that I will not take her for granted. Not that I’m not already giving her 100 percent of my efforts massaging and adulating her in all ways, but you can bet that I would redouble my efforts.

I often wonder how many other average and large endowed males have similar fantasies. I suspect there are quite a few of us out there, even though this is one of the few websites that seems to go beyond the stereotype of the so-called under endowed chastised male, and I would be curious to hear how you deal with it in your life, whether as the husband, wife or if you’re in a cuckold/chastity situation, the boyfriend.