Cuckold Coach

cplnmbsc, I encourage you to question the motives and validity of content whenever there is a profit motive. If helping your wife cuckold you was his primary intent, he’d have a website like this one. Do I think he shouldn’t be able to profit from his work? No, but I think he’ll tell you what you want to hear to make some $$.

There’s no magic behind moving, as a couple, into a cuckold marriage. There also isn’t a one-size fits all approach that works. It’s also not as much about your behavior as it is your wife gaining a different perspective than the one she has now.

Often what holds couples back is one of two things:

1. either you have the blind leading the blind (two submissive each hoping the other will lead them into this) or
2. there’s a fundamental question/concern that remains unresolved for her

If you have a stronger personality than her, yet want to be her cuckold, that means you have to find a boyfriend for her who has a stronger personality than you do and then – you need to let him serve his role.

I have to agree with Luvr, I subcribed to, and read the material on that website. I have a strong and dominant personality. I could not execute the plan laid out in his book. First it seemed far to manipulative for me. Secondly, I would not be happy behaving according to his progrm. In my case I think if I would have followed the program, I would have been cucked alright, and likely abandoned. Because the guy she is in love with would have exited the relationship. For me it was just about taking the risk. Since your lady has already had sex with other men for you, I think you are more than half way to what you are looking for from the relationship. What worked for me was risking honesty about my sexual desire (true intimacy). I simply got up the courage to tell her what I was looking for inorder to achieve what I felt was maximal sexual satisfaction. The great thing is while she acted reluctant, I could sense from our fantasy life, that she was a real Hotwife. So we both are having fun and are looking to get me cucked about once a month with an old boy friend of hers. AT present I consider myself more of a wittol than a cuckold, but I know sexually I enjoy being sub to her. So I will likely do whatever she wants.
Anyway good luck to you. I do think Luvr’s analysis is quite insightful.

Herguy12

A nice and thoughtful comment.

From my way of thinking it is about developing tendencies that are already present and if you try to manipulate your way into getting your wife to do what you want her to do then, you are topping her from the bottom.

While helping to to bring your fantasies into reality will be one of the goals reached, if you start out this way you won’t be very happy when a more Dominant male is running the show.

I also bought the book and read it. I tried some of the suggestions, but found although I may have sub leanings and want my wife to be more dominate with me in a sex scene, I don’t want a 24/7 situation. I don’t consider myself as a wimp, just one that likes to try different variations. I like to expand her horizons so to speak and have some fun while doing it. I think a cuckold sex scene would be fun, but it’s just sex not life. Perhaps I differ from some looking or doing this life style, as I love my wife (which I know many of you do also), but looks as sex be it kinky or normal as fun, erotic and enjoyable for all parties involved. We have done a threesome with a friend a few times and found watching almost as erotic as the sex. Am I wrong to want some cuckold feelings without dedicating myself to a life style?

has anybody seen a similar book in style, but for convincing hubby to be cuckold?

@vixen said:
has anybody seen a similar book in style, but for convincing hubby to be cuckold?

You don’t need a book for that, vixen, you have a pussy!

In all seriousness, I’ve started working on something like that, but it’s not yet finished – one of several open projects I have. Where does this topic stand with you two now? Have you cautiously hinted at anything? Have you ever watched a mainstream movie with a threesome theme involved and made mention of that being hot..? Have you explored any fantasies together which would give you a foundation to explore others (including this one).

If you wear something decidedly provocative and sexy in public – does he enjoy that or behave possessively?

@Luvr said:

@vixen said:
has anybody seen a similar book in style, but for convincing hubby to be cuckold?

You don’t need a book for that, vixen, you have a pussy!

In all seriousness, I’ve started working on something like that, but it’s not yet finished – one of several open projects I have. Where does this topic stand with you two now? Have you cautiously hinted at anything? Have you ever watched a mainstream movie with a threesome theme involved and made mention of that being hot..? Have you explored any fantasies together which would give you a foundation to explore others (including this one).

If you wear something decidedly provocative and sexy in public – does he enjoy that or behave possessively?

Ha! I should just tell him to read my lips I guess. Sounds promising, actually.

I found this site earlier on my phone searching for a cuckold guide for convincing hubby. Today I actually started looking through the blog entries at home. Such a great site!

I am still trying to understand the roles and concepts, so maybe I need to finish up reading first. So far http://cuckoldmarriage.info/2010/11/from-cheating-to-cuckolding/ seems very useful, but I would love more information if there are updates I have not reached yet or from what you are working on.

Cuckold fetish has not been discussed between us at all so far, I only recently really found out about it. My infidelity on the other hand has, unfortunately, been a topic we have had to deal with. I cheated several times before we married that he knows about. The first time was early on and we broke up for a few days as a result, the second time was different and he was more forgiving/understanding.

I don’t think I’d call it dropping hints, but I am pretty obvious about seeing my current lover (I see him every Thursday). I can’t really think of the last time I dressed provocatively with hubby in public. . . he certainly likes it when I do that at home