Cuckolds describe your feelings?

Hi Buttercup

For me, being cuckolded is a unique experience, one that at times is hard to put into words, its a whole cocktail of thoughts, emotions and feelings.

The very first time I was cuckolded was mind-blowing. I wasn’t actually there for the act, but I drove my wife to her lover’s house and returned to pick her up an hour or so later. As I dropped her off my stomach was filled with butterflies and my heart was racing, but that was nothing compared to what I experienced later. As my wife was being fucked by another man, I was at the golf driving range trying to keep myself in some state of normality, that was until my wife called me mid-sex. That is when it truly hit me that I was a cuckold, hearing my wife moan with pleasure as she was being fucked by another man. My head began to spin, my heart was beating so hard, by knees went weak and my cock began to throb. My mind was racing, knowing that my wife had another man’s cock inside her, a bigger cock at that, knowing that she was enjoying it was amazing. I felt embarrassed, humiliated, shamed, and envious of him, yet I was filled with pride, happiness and love for my wife alongside sexual excitement and lust. I would have ejaculated from the phonecall alone had it lasted much longer.

Being cuckolded is one of the most exciting, erotic, loving experiences I have ever had.

Hi Buttercup.

My wife and I have been swingers and we have had many other partners along the way. Some people on here get pissed at this and say that its no difference being cuckolded than swinging…NO WAY!!

When we swing at a party or a club..its amazing..its fun..its decadent..filthy..orgiastic..debauchery…but its anonymous.
When my wife is with one man..intimately…and I am denied…then everything changes as emotions come into play. As Yorks says above, the mere fact she is with another guy..and I am not with a woman…its a very powerful feeling. Humans crave emotion..and nothing enrages mine like being cuckolded. One morning as I got to work, my wife called me…she was breathless..and couldn’t talk..it was clear she was being fucked…the guy had waited till I went to work and then sneaked into my bed to fuck my wife…in my marital bed…
I could hear them on the fone..pictures arrived of them in sexual acts..my chest tightened..my breathing shallow..my pulse racing..head spinning…angry..confused..jealous..in pain..emotions in turmoil so much I could feel it in my chest. But above all else my penis was throbbing rock hard and I was horny as hell….I wanted to rush home and see them holding each other in the poist coital cuddle…this is where I usually perform my cleanup duties…but I was at work..and as the fone went dead..i was left to wonder just what they were doing..and for how long…

Emotions Buttercup..the more you torture the emotions of the man who loves you..the more he will want and desire you…he will be more attentive..more passionate..more generous…he will be yours to play with..wrapped around your little finger…..he loves you more than anything…and you love him.

Rob

My wife never felt guilty to my knowledge. Being cuckolded was meant to be a one-off event (according to her) but it turned into much more than that, she embraced her freedom.

Communications is vital for couples in this lifestyle, you must discuss any issues you have with your partner.

Hi Buttercup,

yes my wife did feel guilty..as she wasn’t just fucking another guy..this guy was being intimate..kissing passionately..in our bed..rubbing my nose in the fact that he had my wife..bigger cock..made her scream outloud…
I reassured her that everything was fine and the feelings coursing through me were exactly what was supposed to happen…if she finds herself attracted more and more to her new boyfriend that’s ok too..I want her to fall for him. She can have him anytime she likes…and I will encourage her to.
Once she saw how much I changed she realised that it had altered our relationship completely..for the better.

Rob

Howdy,
My wife and I have been discussing this lifestyle for a couple of years and she’s certainly open to it and really wants to make it happen some day. The night she came closest to actually cucking me, she had a heavy make-out session with a guy she just met, but didn’t go the rest of the way because I wasn’t there to make sure everything was still copacetic.

When she got around to telling me about it the next morning, I was beyond turned-on. My sex drive was off the charts to the point where I had to back off after the 3rd time we had sex that day. My feeling is that it’s exhilarating to know my wife feels that much more attractive because an attractive guy wanted to have sex with her. My only disappointment was that she didn’t actually cuckold me. I think she also likes the kink of my being unavailable to other women… and yes, I like that as well!

The first time was bittersweet for me. I didn’t know what to feel. What drove me over the edge was when she was teasing these 3 guys outside the hotel window giving them a strip tease and stuff was so hot and sexy. But I couldn’t fully enjoy it cause I had other things running thru my mind like is this really happening what if she doesn’t love me anymore cause I want her to do this. Then thinking OMG what if this gets out. What if my family finds out or my friends. But what made it feel so good I was doing what I had fantasized about for almost a year. She was amazing. But when it was all done and we went back home I was a nervous wreck. I knew it felt so good going through with it that it would definitely happen again and I couldn’t risk being found out by people I knew. So we stopped.

Very conflicting feelings for me, highly stressful and at the same highly erotic. Knowing that other guys are turned on by my wife and that she’s willing to share her pussy with them has taken me to the highest but also the lowest places since we’ve been married. It’s difficult to manage the ups and downs. When it works well she’s really alert to how I’m turned on and acknowledges that and does something for me, even if it’s only teasing. When it’s hardest is when she’s so absorbed in another guy that I feel like she’s ignoring me or unaware of how I’m turned on by her behavior. I can ride my turn on through the stress if I know she’s seeing it in me.

It is a well established psychological idea that we move from pain towards pleasure, in other words we move away from things which we find painful or unacceptable. Freudian psychology would locate these feelings in the unconscious part of the mind the bit which deals with feelings. Regardless of how you think logically your emotional unconscious mind may still reject cuckolding. This is because your belief system from childhood has established these feelings. You have been socialised in a society which views male marital dominance as the norm. In a western marriage it is very common for the female spouse to defer to her husband. This is what she has been socialised to do since even in the games she played as she grew up.You may have grown up playing at being the provider the male protector the tough guy the soldier all that. Most young men did not grow up with a desire to wear women’s underwear and so on, a practice which can prevail in cuckolding. As an adolescent you may have wanted to grow facial hair and so on and be a man as quick s possible. Now you may find as I do that your wife is either seeing another man or wants to. Well this is different territory You are not prepared for this. Your emotional unconscious pre programmed mind did not expect this. Even if you stumble on cuckolding as a thrilling sexual practice which suits your submissive tendencies you will be in conflict with your pre programmed mind. Personally I have suffered for years with this. The only way to resolve this is to change your belief system and cement this with practices which will change your unconscious. Your belief system can be changed with logic by working out what props up the belief that women should be monogamous and perhaps subservient to their husband. This will vary from person to person . Then you must get your partner involved in some exercise with you which sexualises her behaviour for you Personally I like her to tease me and arouse me then gently tell about her affair. For me this has reprogrammed my mind in that when I think of her affair now I feel excited, sexual. This has ended years of pain. Cuckolding will not work if at some level your mind still rejects it. When you are highly excited at the thought of her cuckolding you then it works. Strange thing happened for me though my wife enjoyed the teasing that much and the general intimacy cuckolding seems to be moving off side. Her affair may have been the result of a lack of marital intimacy, something which was tried for the first time as a last ditch attempt has actually worked but maybe not as intended. So what happened. I changed my belief system about monogamy. I instigated more sexual intimacy in the marriage. My wife may have seen this as a more dominant taking the initiative type of move showing my true feelings without recourse to the consequences actually asking her to do something. She enjoyed my excitement as I was turned on by her hence no need to seek attention elsewhere the attention she gets at home is more than adequate. Letting her tease me and so on may have seemed submissive to me but again that is a belief system problem, when actually it may just be the type of male attention she craves makes her feel good. I suspect many cuckodresses are actually turned on far more by the attention of their cuckold husbands than by any selfish sex the bulls offer. Lets face it the bull can be a bit of a self centred individual Long term I believe people do not want to live with a selfish character they crave attention. Therefore finally I believe cuckolding at its core is about two people who love each other where the male offers loads of attention to the female The bull just enables this process to occur Many couples can achieve this without cuckolding however many couples never achieve any real intimacy or understanding and man y give up in despair A bit of a rant but hope it helps

@Buttercup118 said:

I was wondering if any of you that are cuckolds could share some of your feelings while you’re experiencing being cuckolded? The reason I ask is that its difficult for me to understand since Im on the other end. I am very dominant and possessive over my bf and I dont want him touching or even thinking of touching other women. This has nothing to do with my personal insecurities, as I am a very secure woman, I just know what I want and deserve and I want to be the center of his world, as I should be. He seems to need to be cuckolded to feel free to connect with me, or really to feel at all, as it makes him most vulnerable and brings out his beautiful side. I dont understand the thoughts or feelings behind being cuckolded, and I’d like to understand better. From what I’ve read here on this site its a humbling experience, I get that. What is it that turns you on?

This is a very good question. Though my wife hasn’t cucked me yet, she has come quite close, but her inhibitions stopped her. In other words, I was the LAST person who was going to stop her. My assumption is that I’m “supposed” to feel hurt or embarrassed when she talks about how much she wants to do this. The only things I really feel and felt were: a sexually-charged jealousy, an intoxication and immense pride at my wife’s sexual freedom. But that’s just me and I’ve always been extremely honest about my feelings and desires.

it is very exciting for both of you – you just need to make him feel safe that he is not going to lose you then keep playing. Ride his cock or his mouth and share the details with him. Tell him that you plan to make him into a sissy cuckold.

My wife and I have been married for more than thirty years. At first I was very jealous of anyone looking at her, but during a holiday in France when we were in our early twenties, she went topless on the beach like most women did. I was suddenly turned on by seeing other men looking at her. Some years later after a few adventures and experiences, we invited an old friend of mine from university to join us for a threesome. After a lot of changes of mind and swinging moods, my wife eventually let him strip her, explore her and take her. I watched and helped. it was the most exciting thing ever. Watching the one you love submit to another man’s fingers, eyes and mouth is stunning. Seeing her eyes roll back as he licks her clit and holding her hands as she feels him enter her, then kissing her as he thrusts inside her is wodnerful. Listening outside the door as they spend time together imaginging what they are doing, is a desperate mix of butterflies, manxt and excitment. Chosing lingerie for him to take from ehr. Having her tell you what they did on a night out like she would a girlfriend is brilliant. Having her slowly rub me off telling me what he’d done to her was electrifying. Hearing him take her bum hole foir the first time and her screams of pain then pleasure was intense. Watching her dress for him and submit whenever he wanted was delicious. Wanking myself in front of him whilst telling him how he should take her however he wanted was humiliating but exciting. It’s a fabuloous experience. I’m keen to chat to other husbands who have been in a similar situaion or who want to be. Thanks

HI Sandbanks, I have emailed you. I am happy to chat to anyone about experiences and feelings – paulpaulpaul1955uk@hushmail.com
Best wishes, Paul

My answer to “I was wondering if any of you that are cuckolds could share some of your feelings while you’re experiencing being cuckolded? “

The description given by Yorks Cpl closely mirrors my own feelings when my wife is with another man. We have been married for more than 30 years, and my started cuckolding me with my encouragement, while we were still engaged. Throughout our marriage, my wife gave herself to dozens of men, almost always playing alone, and away from home. I would anxiously await her return, where I would receive all the details of her naughty encounter, accompanied by a slow hand job. My first reaction when I knew that an extramarital tryst was happening, imminent, or even probable, was usually a physiological reaction caused by a large surge of adrenaline pumping through my veins. I would feel shaky, and hot. My face would be flushed, and my mouth dry, hands trembling. At the same time it would feel like I was consumed by lust, this was a weird cocktail, the adrenaline and lust, a physical reaction that I would get only when I thought another man might be taking my wife. This may, or may not be accompanied by an erection. I remember at times thinking how odd it was not having an erection during during some especially erotic situations. For example, one time I could clearly hear my wife moaning in lust from behind a closed door, as she was soundly being fucked by a coworker. I was unbelievably aroused yet amazed that my penis didn’t seem to be reacting at all. Although after I heard them “finish”, it only took very slight manipulation to produce an orgasm and ejaculation from my flaccid penis. When I am in that adrenaline/lust state, I also find that I am very focused and driven to do what ever is in my power to facilitate my wife to engage in an erotic coupling with another man. This single-minded drive seems to shut down that part of my brain that makes good decisions or thinks about consequences. This has at times in the past, caused me to encourage my wife to do some things, or go to some places that could possibly have put her in danger. Thankfully nothing bad ever happened as a result of my lust fueled advice or encouragement. Afterwards I would often feel hugely guilty, yet strangely un-regretful. Psychologically, just like Yorks Cpl, I would feel embarrassed, humiliated, shamed and envious of my wife’s lovers. These feelings, though seemingly negative, served to stoke the fire of my lust, and if I could intensify those feelings, the fire would burn even hotter. I would use facts, questions, and my imagination to amplify those feelings of humiliation, shame and envy. The knowledge, speculation, or hope, that he had a big cock, or was a superior lover, further served to fan the flames of lust. I guess if I had to reduce all these feelings and reactions to two words, it would be “burning desire”.