Disabled man needs help getting wife into cuckolding

Troy,
In my experience you can never and should never try to psychologically coerce a wife to take up the cuckold lifestyle. Its likely to create aggravation and possibly to wreck your marriage. However much you see cuckolding as a part solution to your needs, those that you suspect she may have, all such decisions have to be fully consensual. Its a common problem amongst would be cucks-pressing the agenda too fast and too often. The arousal of being cucked is great and you can start working on your agenda rather than what might become hers. You will start to seem the pervert, strange, obsessed, odd etc. Luvr in this blog emphasises how the lifestyle is usefully portrayed as a freedom or gift, something that the wife can chose whether or not to accept. That seems to me the right way to approach this. It cannot guarantee that lifestyle proceeds in your desired way, but it provides the best chance of a sustainable and mutually enjoyable lifestyle if it does.

You might wonder what a gift then looks like-how it is handled?

Well, it involves a good deal of patience and perhaps in your case it centres on the oral sex that you provide and she so obviously appreciates. The first thing to do is to stop talking about other men and to concentrate on her. Focus on the cunnilingus, and tell her how you need this, how intoxicating it is. Read about pheromones, female sex scent in order to give those conversations a little substance (but don’t lecture her!). Tell her how beautiful, arousing her sex is visually, explore whether it would seem sexy to trim bush in a particular way. Learn to play in this regard and help her feel centre stage in your universe. Find different places and times to give head (alfresco), don’t always associate it with coital sex, premature ejaculated or not. As this progresses indicate how you want to become really good at this, to make it something that drives her mad! She may insist that you’re good already, but gently dismiss that. You can be better- she deserves the best.

What you’re facilitating here is the idea that in doing this you serve her. All the better if she rides your mouth. Gently, oh so gently, you’re giving her permission to take the upper hand in sex. Absolutely no talk about other guys though. Help her to enjoy getting used to having her own way, meeting her needs on your tongue. Cunnilingus is in the psyche of many ladies a submissive, a dirty and less manly sort of sex (unless you come from the European mainland in which case its an art form). So you work with that, and welcome any conversation that she starts about how dirty and debased you are. You need it, its an addiction, an oh so sweet habit! If you are lucky and if she is then receptive, she will remark on some contrasts-orgasms this way with none the other way. She may make you wait for oral treats-all to the good, she is learning to rule you and knows that you want this. Then and oh so slowly, you allow her to wean your cock out of the equation. She is learning to be selfish. Only then, and with no guarantees, the fantasies about other men can be returned to. Coupling is one form of sex, oral another. Expertise in both doesn’t always exist in one man. Something shared then is not something abandoned with another. She may feel receptive to fucking with someone better whilst enjoying oral with you. It won’t be a betrayal, just sharing with a man what he is good at, what he was put in the earth to do.

It’s great to see you guys making progress.