finding the right ‘bulls’ or men to share her with

I'm not at that stage yet with my wife, ( I hope to be someday). I plan on hinting in the near future about my fantasy. If and when we do get there

it will be all about her satisfaction. I cant imagine the process a couple has to go through to find the right guy. There has to be a physical attraction

(obviously) chemistry and  trust. Heck , people can't find those qualities in a marriage. Good luck with your search.

useherhard said:

W how do I share pictures of her and I in this forumn if we so desire?

I posted some directions on that here: /index.php/forum/how-to-tips/how-to-upload-images-to-a-post/
 

But in short, there is an add/insert image button in the toolbar above (when posting or editing). To the right of the image URL field is a Browse button to use something from your PC instead of a pasting a link in to something posted elsewhere.

We look forward to having a good look at her!

Its a big step from fantasy to actually doing it and its committing that is the hard bit. Are you sure you are really ready?

Finding the men is not so hard. Men love to fuck beautiful available women. Get out and meet men face to face and make sure she is the centre of attention, let her dance with them, flirt with them, stand back and smile. They will soon get it that she is available and that you are ok with that. Then they are like bees around a honey pot.

Of course all the kinky stuff you mentioned is up to them and will come later but surely what is most important is your wife getting another guy’s cock and cum inside her isn’t it?

(just to encourage you a little, my wife was a straight laced shy teacher with her head always in a book, since we married she has been fucked more by other men than me, on average three or four times a wek, she loves partying and adores fucking, and yes she’s even done the pregnancy thing. Its all much better in reality than any fantasy.

Finding bulls is no terribly difficult.  There are several dating and lifestyle sites where you can get a feel for ones local to you.  You still need to get out and actually meet them face to face.  What appears promising can end up being zero sexual chemistry.  Once found, finding out enough about the guy to establish trust can be pretty taxing.  A caution when it come to bulls is that there could be a back story that is a deal breaker for you.  Some of those “single men” are actually married cheaters.  Others are gay, but exploring the other side, like a reverse down low.  If the guy will not entertain at his place ever or is available only around certain times, that’s a red flag.

So then you have sound a guy who sparks the fire of lust, is trustworthy, and is also respectful friend material.  STIs are a concern.  Everyone get tested and tested again.  You’ll probably was exclusivity commitments, to keep the infection risk away.  The contract generally is that his sexual freedom is exchanged for your wife’s sexual availability.  If he wants to fuck four days a week, you need to put out four days a week in order to be sexually compatible.  He’s satisfied, them he doesn’t feel a need to supplement things.

It’s not a difficult as finding a spouse to marry.  But it is not as simple as selecting your breakfast from a Denny’s menu, unless you want to play the serial NSA dating game.  It can be a deep relationship, as it requires friendship, lust, and trust.  Also don’t discount the emotional component.  Very few women sexually bond well without love.  If she takes a lover for a period of time (not long at all), she will genuinely fall in love at some level with him.  Might not displace your relationship or grow to the same intensity of love as you two share, but you need to believe a romantic bond will form between them and the sexual passion will be met with attendant deep love if he is worthwhile for her.  That polyamory is perfectly normal and is true human nature.

There are those who take it  less seriously.  They have a series of lovers or use a fuck buddy, with emotions detached.  This is about the bull and hotwife commitment that is more stable and characteristic of the lifestyle.  Not saying the other approach is wrong, just different.   We are in the serious dating camp and understand the frustration there.

i read many of these where husband asks help in talking wife into cuckolding him i am now divorced but i was very willing to find a bull i found him myself by going to bars where black men frequented i would wear short skirt and no panties i would look over bar til founf attractive man i would flash him and generally meet him this is how i sorted out and found right bull

I became the lover of a women 30 years ago in a strange way. My lover got married to a cuckold she found online. All of a sudden I was cuckolding a husband and did so for 25 years. I even attended the wedding and made out with her in an unoccupied room. Very weird day. I thought that would limit the amount of time she could spend with me but the opposite was true. She did not have to work anymore and her cuck took care of her son. She would spend weeks with me and her cuck even brought her to stay with me for a vacation once while he went off on his own.  

She had considered a regular marriage and just having a occasional affairs but after hitting the clubs she said all the single men our age were single for a reason. She has two Master Degrees and a very dominant personality. For some reason a lot of men think that all women just want sex with a large penis and could care little about the man attached to it. I never met a woman like that but I am sure that they exist. She decided that finding a bull that she actually liked other than just for sex, was going to be difficult so she gave up on that idea and looked for a cuckold. There are no shortage of cuckolds looking for women online.  

When I asked my wife to have sex with another man so I could watch we could not find someone we did not know that was agreeable to my wife. My wife need to have an emotional bond on some level to enjoy sex. You are not going to find that with a bull or guy who is just in it for the sex.  We ended up with the husband of a wife swapping couple we saw once a week. The guy was so rough with her that she had bruises when we got home. My wife was going to stop him but did not because he was a friend. He was all business just using my wife as a receptacle for his sperm. That was the end of her Bull finding days.

For the two women I loved, it was difficult to find a bull. I guess you have to be a certain type of woman who can have sex with no emotional involvement. Every married woman I had sex with got emotionally involved with me. Then again, I attracted those kind of women. Not as easy to find a guy who just wants sex as some posters make it seem. You do not walk into a club, pick out a man and presto, he has a big penis and is great in bed. Most men do not have big penises, even the black ones as anyone who shared a shower with their sports team will attest to. Not all guys are good lays or will perform as expected in bed. We were lucky that we kept it among us and that each of us fulfilled a need in the other. I feel sorry for couples who attempt this lifestyle for the first time. It is not as easy as they read online.

@JandGinSD said:
Finding bulls is no terribly difficult.  There are several dating and lifestyle sites where you can get a feel for ones local to you.  You still need to get out and actually meet them face to face.  What appears promising can end up being zero sexual chemistry.  Once found, finding out enough about the guy to establish trust can be pretty taxing.  A caution when it come to bulls is that there could be a back story that is a deal breaker for you.  Some of those “single men” are actually married cheaters.  Others are gay, but exploring the other side, like a reverse down low.  If the guy will not entertain at his place ever or is available only around certain times, that’s a red flag.

So then you have sound a guy who sparks the fire of lust, is trustworthy, and is also respectful friend material.  STIs are a concern.  Everyone get tested and tested again.  You’ll probably was exclusivity commitments, to keep the infection risk away.  The contract generally is that his sexual freedom is exchanged for your wife’s sexual availability.  If he wants to fuck four days a week, you need to put out four days a week in order to be sexually compatible.  He’s satisfied, them he doesn’t feel a need to supplement things.

It’s not a difficult as finding a spouse to marry.  But it is not as simple as selecting your breakfast from a Denny’s menu, unless you want to play the serial NSA dating game.  It can be a deep relationship, as it requires friendship, lust, and trust.  Also don’t discount the emotional component.  Very few women sexually bond well without love.  If she takes a lover for a period of time (not long at all), she will genuinely fall in love at some level with him.  Might not displace your relationship or grow to the same intensity of love as you two share, but you need to believe a romantic bond will form between them and the sexual passion will be met with attendant deep love if he is worthwhile for her.  That polyamory is perfectly normal and is true human nature.

There are those who take it  less seriously.  They have a series of lovers or use a fuck buddy, with emotions detached.  This is about the bull and hotwife commitment that is more stable and characteristic of the lifestyle.  Not saying the other approach is wrong, just different.   We are in the serious dating camp and understand the frustration there.

there plenty of sites and local swinger parties where you can meet men of all ages, once you found one that you feel like you can connect to, rest is easy. My wife has slept with over 50 guys in the last 11 years , i dont think we ever had a bad experience as yet