I am sorry to hear about your illness and your demotion. I can’t really tell from your post but it sounds your wife is still happy with her bull.
Even if it is hard for me to accept, if my wife is happy I will be okay. What I am worried about is this guy hurting her and just leaving. After talking with a few people in chat it sounds like the best I can do is to tell he what I am seeing and how I am feeling and be supportive of her.