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cuckoldsameh
Hi Luvr and everyone ,
I'm a 32 years old submissive guy who is married to a 37 years old dominant lady . We met through some D/s website and we got married . I was a virgin when I met her and she was much more sexually experienced .
I talked to her about cuckolding at the beginning of our marriage , but she always said that she wasn't interested , yet she suggested other kinky stuffs like forced bisexuality for me while she watchs .
Then , she started to deny me sex most of the time , became more dominant with me , stayed out of home most of the time , and never wanted to admit where she was . I suspected that may be she was cheating on me , but she always denied . Then , one day she left home and told me that she moved out with a guy . She admitted that she had a lover for nearly a year and that she was moving in with him . I was hurt and tried to convince her to come back home . After a month , her lover broke up with her and she came back to me . I took her back . I was hurt but I loved her and didn't want to lose her . I forgave her for her cheating and took her back .
This was 4 months ago . Now , we live happily together . She became much more close to me .
So , I'm supposed to be happy . But somehow I miss these few months when she was cheating on me . Her behavior was exciting . She was very dominant . I was denied sex most of the time . She always required me to massage her , lick her , etc . Now , things became different . I don't know how to explain , but since she ended this affair she became less dominant to me . We have sex nearly everyday . She rarely argue with me . For most men , it's heaven , but for a cuckold like me , I miss these aspects .
My questions are :
First , why when I suggested to her cuckolding in the past she didn't accept , then she risked our marriage and cheated on me behind my back ?
2nd , when she had the affair she became much more dominant with me , and now after she ended that affair , she became less dominant and more nice to me . Can this be explained somehow ?
3rd , from the story , do you think that my wife can make a cuckoldress ? Do you think I should introduce her again to the cuckold lifestyle ? Or would it be sensitive – given her cheating incident – .
4th , is it normal that I miss these days when she was cheating on me cause she treated me badly , denied me sex , and even slapped my face if I argued with her ??
And finally , how can I change her from a cheater to a cuckoldress ?? By the way , she cheated before on her ex husband severl times !!!
I'm really looking for your answers and your advuice….
Regards ,
cuckold sameh
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WellBuiltandWellHung
Buddy it's almost hard to knwo where to begin. I honestly wonder what you definition of cuckolding is. A cheater is by deifnition a cuckoldress. Perhsp you want more. To be involved. But you also say in your post that she didn't want to cuckold you but wanted to make you do bi stuff as humiliation, again that's a type of cuckolding. You are a cuckodl buddy. Or at least were. And accoring to what you wrote you were happy then. Anyways, in general I think you have to begin with letting your wife cuckold you teh way she wants. if it's fucking other men and not telling you, then accept it. Slowly she will ease you in. But I've never liekd husbands who only want to be cuckolded on THEIR terms, the whole point is it to be on your WIFE'S or her BULL'S terms.
But to answer your specific questions
1) She wasn't your marriage when she “cheated” was she? She fucked another man b/c she wanted to, and she didn't tell you because she didn't want you to know? Now why she didn't want you to know…. need a lot more info to answer that I think. Maybe not telling you added to the spice of it.
2) So what you're saying is when she dominates you she dominates, and when she doesn't she's nice. I don't see the confusion. The question is why does she not dominate you now. Perhaps she has a change of heart and she feels “guilty” I'd say senses your confusion of cuckolding is and so has withdrawn to being what a “proper” wife is. The confusion is in you not her. She fucks other men… Accept it. She doesn't tell you… Accept it.
3) Obviously she wants to cuckodl you. what you need to do is back off and just open the door. Don't push her through, just let her know it's ok and give her the space to do it. And also the normal things that cuckolds do to get their wives going (watching cuck porn, commenting on other guys… there is a big list)
4) Very normal for a cuckold to feel that way, so you're fine.
5?) Again in cheating she was a cuckoldress. Don't worry she'll cheat again, just don't freak out when she does, be happy and give her more room, don't get all anxious and excited and fuck it up.
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Luvr
I have to say, unfortunately, that your marriage currently lacks the foundation necessary for a healthy cuckolding relationship.
Your wife clearly took advantage of you previously and had little worry or concern for your needs or wishes during her 'affair' and I say affair because she wasn't open with her activities – a complete violation of love and trust.
Cuckolding is no different than a vanilla marriage in that compromise is always necessary by all parties involved.
Your relationship now is only closer because he dumped her and you took her back – has she learned anything from that? Have you spoken openly about your pain caused by her apparent lack of concern for your needs before he kicked her to the curb?
I've know other couples to go through this and learn from it, but for that to happen here, you two need to have some frank conversations about the mistakes of the past, the desires of the future and how to ensure those desires, for both of you, won't lead to repeating those mistakes.
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cuckoldsameh
Dear Luvr ,
I got the following reply from a cuckoldress that I know , please let me know what you think about it .
Here is her message to me :
A true and sincere cuckold relationship . What is important is that She comes back to you after she cheats on you , and that She feels secure and protected by you .
Real thrill and pleasure of the cuckoldress does not always come from fucking other men with the husband informed or present . A real pleasure is when you meet a man when the husband does not know the circumstances .
If you will accept and play this role, I am sure you will feel Happy when your Wife come back to you… this means you are better than than the men She meet (no matter if She falls in love with one of them , cause it is just a temporay love…).
Do your best !
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Luvr
She's entitled to her own opinion and if that's how it is in her own experience, who am I to argue with it. I would say though that any woman who cuckolds her husband without regard to his well-being is just a bitch.
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cuckoldsameh
WellBuiltandWellHung
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