Master for long term D/s cuckold

By the way I am 52, 6 foot, 200, very blue eyes, professional, smart and creative. Email Arapahomaster@gmail.com.for more details.

Interesting site and conversations; I look forward to hearing from more of you.

I seek that one right couple for very long term. The couple who values the connection and wants it to last.

I love the cuckold dynamic; the honesty and transparency. It is the most intimate relationship model; it compels the couple to be open. There is very little in life as gratifying as a couple that has never cuckolded and making them see and understand, reassuring their fears and leading them through living their fantasy to fulfillment then building the relationship to ever greater heights of intimacy and intensity. 

Giving a wife the permission of her husband without judgment or condemnation; having the husband hear and see his wife in such ecstacy, cumming again and again, begging for her Master; leading them both to a new model of intimacy and trust between themselves is extraordinarily pleasing. Her knowing she is owned and Mine, to be used and taken often and where and when I wish, her being shown off and understanding how beautiful and desirable she is, watching her flower and blossom in a way she never has before is what I seek and live to make happen.

Yes, exactly one of the activities I am into. Email Me at Arapahomaster@gmail.com and lets discuss.

I have thirty years experience as a Dom and Master, seventeen years experience cuckolding and I have had cuckolds of five and nine years. I have taught many first timers. The key to long term cuckolding is establishing that emotional connection with the girl; making her know she is safe, protected, valued and treasured everyday. Sincerity and being genuine is all that is required of a couple. 

know if you were Mine, I would own you, all of you. your heart, mind, mouth, pussy, tits, ass; all of you.

I would own you, dominate you, make you Mine.

I have had several people IM or email Me telling Me how they like to masturbate while reading My post; how many of you like to do that?

I have enjoyed hearing from so many of you, I look forward to hearing from and meeting more of you.

Arapahomaster@gmail.com.

I think one of the more interesting dynamics is that men who are, or want to be, cuckolded often transfer an immense amount of responsibility onto their wife. This may be conscious or not but marital responsibilities that the husband should own get placed on the shoulders of the wife. She often feels overwhelmed by responsibility. Consequently when the husband approaches her about cuckolding it just looks like another responsibility to organize and manage and try to make work successfully. A good Master will take those responsibilities off of her shoulders and place a significant amount of them on His own shoulders while making the husband own the responsibilities he should as a cuckold. A Master should make the life of the wife more stress free and enjoyable, not add to her burdens. 

A woman who has a husband who adores her is exactly the couple I seek.

The personality and intellect you bring to this is as critical as your submissiveness. I seek a woman who desires something more than just being tied and taken (though that is part of it too).

For Me the whole point to D/s is intimacy. It produces (when done properly) the greatest degree of intimacy possible, transparency. 

I am D/D free, 6 foot, 200 lbs, 49, light brown hair, very blue eyes, professional, available time during the days, evenings and weekends. I am seeking a long term D/s cuckold relationship local to Colorado. A wife and couple I can see often, multiple times a week with daily email/text/IM communication.

Attitude matters to Me much more than looks but be clean and care to look your best for me. I am real and know how to do this. I am no amateur or first timer being curious. No experience required on your part but a good attitude is required.  I would like to get to know you with a great deal of emotional depth and a relationship that builds on itself.

You are reading this and know what it was like to have a man want you, desire you, think of you constantly. I want a girl who wants a Master to think of her constantly. I am very adventurous and bold. If you are at that point in your life where passion, desire and having your fantasies brought to life is worth the investment of time and emotions then let me hear from you. 

I am very good at this, smart, creative, emotionally available, stable, experienced and have a great deal to give. 

I understand the dynamic between the girl and I, the couple and I, and the couple themselves.

Bondage, objectification, light pain, and control will be involved. I very much enjoy spanking and I very much enjoy putting you in situations you have never been in. I adjust what I do to the person and couple I am with, this is not formulaic.  I can be very intense, I am not for everyone. If you wish to feel force, power and control then this is it.

I always have appreciated that the truly submissive women are so often the strongest women in their vanilla life. Smart, decision makers, successful, reliable. I so enjoy these strong women melting into submission, releasing control and assuming a safe and protected place under My care. Having a place and Man where they can let go of responsibility. I do not expect a door mat and certainly not a women of below average intelligence, what would be the point and pleasure in that? I expect a strong woman who requires Dominance to be demonstrated, for it will be. I expect a strong mind that recognizes her Master and what He provides her that she has never had before. As I said, not for everyone. For the right couple this would be the thrill of a lifetime. 

Just never ever bore Me. The unforgivable sin. 

The most common response to what I do is that it is exciting and scary.

I understand that. I will promise that the more you know Me, the more exciting and less scary it gets.

Most of the women who have become Mine are very strong women, successful, decision makers. What they find is a model without the responsibility on their shoulders is extremely attractive, where a Master will care to discover them and their fears and desires. In reality, women find it extraordinarily liberating. On the surface it may seem counter to liberation; under the surface many many women desire this model. They are wired to respect, want the attention of, want to please and be appreciated by a strong, confident, dominant man. 

For the woman, a huge part of this is confidence. It takes a tremendous amount of confidence in her life to do this. That takes time to develop. Women will typically only do this if she believes she can maintain all of her existing relationships (husband, children family, neighbors, professionally). 

This requires discretion and sensitivity to all parties involved. This is all about the wife feeling safe, secure, confident and the Master taking the tasks and unnecessary responsibilities off her shoulders and providing her a safe place to breathe and be herself and be His.

Hopefully your wives enjoy just as much!

If we listened to convention, we’d never have the fulfillment and love we yearn for. We’d never have the cravings satiated. We’d never know the exquisite pleasures, because we’d be afraid. Well, do not be afraid. Be confident in a Master who will care for you and bring you together in ways you have never imagined; in obedience and submission, in service and adoration. 

I’ve had wonderful love affairs cuckolding. The most sincere relationships, the deepest emotions, the best sex, the most transparent thoughts have all been through cuckolding.

Mark Twain said “One is apt to overestimate beauty when it is rare.” This is true in cuckold relationships; when the right Master meets the right couple you will believe it is the most beautiful thing you have seen or experienced. However, this is rare. Rare because we tend not to trust (especially on the internet) and rare because we do not have the courage to follow our hearts. 

Ownership is a beautiful thing

matmagic – email Me at arapahomaster@yahoo.com and we can discuss how you move through this.

It takes courage

I am a Master you can love. I will love every little thing about you. I will love your smile, your eyes, and the sound of your voice. I will love your touch, and you will love the warmth you feel when I’m by your side. you won’t stop thinking about Me when we are apart. you will need Me by your side. You will complete me and I will complete both of you. I will be the one you have always wished for. 

your heart will sing. you will feel like the best poetry ever composed, the best song ever played, the best picture ever painted. 

Tomorrow’s hopes and dreams will be fulfilled. The desires in your heart will guide you. you will gain the greatest gift of all, the gift of ecstasy and fulfillment you rightly deserve.

Never let anyone stand in the way of you pursuing this dream.

Know that you will always have a Master to rely on whenever you need Him.  

Sweet cuckold

I was asked how I approach cuckolds.

 I will take you, fill you with My cock, make you Mine, teach you to be My slut and own you.

Interesting conversation with a cuckold: “I feel guilty I cannot give my wife what she needs”

Response: “you are actually giving her exactly what she needs.”

I desire you to be rational, smart, understand what you know and do not know, sincere, eager, and committed

As you were taught to do betaboy. The important thing is, you realized it and corrected course.

you want My cum to fill your mouth, you want to feel it dribbling down your chin. you want to feel My cum dripping out of your pussy, stretched and sore and swollen.
Obey, submit, do as directed.
Obey and submit with enthusiasm, show Me how you want to please your Master. Understand what pleases Me, wake up every morning thinking “how can I please My Master today?”.

Good working definition of objectified: Sexualized, desired, an object of pleasure and enjoyment and beauty.

Not an object of chores, an object of art.

Tony –

Control is an interesting word because couples generally give over control to Me, they find it a relief to do so. My control is through the desire to please Me, continue with Me, the improvement I make in peoples lives and marriages, the innate desire to submit and obey and have the burden of having to figure everything out themselves taken off of their shoulders. The feeling that the couple can relax and breathe because they have finally figured this out and it was so much simpler than they had imagined, so drama free, so pleasing to all involved. The sense that control is there, power is there, dominance is there, all the security those things bring is there, someone caring for them, looking out for them, seeking their best interest in the control and power He has over their lives. The genuine desire to please the Man who has done this for them, the love and affection that it generates, the understanding that to have this so little is actually required of them in terms of what they have to do: submit and obey, be genuine and transparent, be themselves. Sometimes couples have a difficult time believing that, at the end of the day, that is all they actually have to do to make this work.

More than anything else that is what I provide couples, the opportunity to be themselves without judgment or condemnation or ridicule. 

There is so much more to this, at least to how I do this, than just showing up with My dick hanging out. 

The range of what couples seek varies quite a bit, the level of understanding and the level of courage also varies quite a bit. The husband is often eager, the wife much more cautious. The possibility of the long term fantasy, the fantasy by which they have mutually gotten off so many times of an owner and a Master, becoming real and being the real thing is to be pondered and considered. 

The nine year cuckold that I had started when the wife, who I had known in a platonic way and knew I was a Dom, came to My office and threw herself at Me with her husbands permission. she wanted to be owned, wanted to be Mine, wanted to be in love with Me and wanted Me to love her, was willing to lay down everything she had to be Mine and have My attention daily, to have Me thinking of her constantly.

I accepted her as Mine. I came and went at her house as I wished, I had a key to her house, I took her to coffee, lunch and dinner, I spent My time with her as I wished (which was pretty much daily), the trust was complete between her, her husband, and I. I took her to clubs and to parties, I shared her with My friends, she was proud to be Mine and I was so very proud of her. There was nothing in their life that they with held from Me, including her womb. she was fulfilled as a woman to be Mine. Where as she had a career, was a wife, was a mother; she felt for the first time in her life like a woman and that a Man appreciated her and loved her as a woman. Loved her and desired her for what she was.

I put a ring on the ring finger of her right hand, so each day she had a ring on her left hand to remind her of her husband and a ring on her right hand to remind her of her Master. We had a D/s ceremony where he officially gave her to be Mine; they each vowed their obedience and submission. Their marriage drew closer for it was no longer a tug of war but a focus on their Master, with his duty to prepare and facilitate her for My pleasure. In exchange they quit fighting and arguing over the petty things in life, quit worrying about the emotional insecurities, and became secure in themselves for the first time.

I am not seeking to recreate all this in detail; each couple and girl is unique and as I said before this is never formulaic. I do wish to have the same or increased level of commitment, trust and enjoyment in the couple I choose.

I understand how exquisite this can be, how fulfilling and wonderful. I understand all of your dreams can come true, the fantasy can be real, and you can feel like a woman each and every minute of each day.

The sacrifice the husband makes so his wife may have this, may be fulfilled, is enormous. The cuckold husband is to be respected for the love he shows his wife, not disparaged or ridiculed. The wife needs to thank him, daily, and make sure he knows his sacrifice is appreciated. 

People have asked what am I like outside of this…

I own businesses, I ride motorcycles, I go to Sturgis, I hunt elk…

One of the best analogies I have heard about D/s is from a girl who was Mine some years ago: being a submissive with a good Master is a lot like skydiving; it is the thrill of falling, having no control what so ever, but trusting that the Master will ensure that you have a soft landing.

I have missed you today. I do not know you yet, but know I miss you. I think of your arms around Me, the wonderful flutter in the pit of your stomach when I look at you with loving eyes, the tender kisses that you leave on My skin.

There is just something about the autumn air that makes Me particularly think of you. It’s hard to describe the emotion churning inside my body. It is like a delicate thunderstorm. With every kiss the storm will get stronger. The lightning strikes and My body yearns for you as yours does Mine. The thunder roars and thoughts of your kiss, your touch, your taste…

I close My eyes for the few seconds that the thought lasts and savor it.

With the simplest kiss, you will make My heart soar and My body tingle with anticipation of your warmth.

you will be amazing.

Let Me emphasize; anyone who wishes to converse may contact Me. However if you are interested in My being your Master I wish to hear from the girl. she is who the primary relationship must be built with.

Many times the wife is hesitant to acquire a Master; though the desire is there she is concerned about a host of things such as

Is she attractive enough
How will it effect her long term relationship with her husband
Will her friends, family and professional acquaintances find out
Can she trust the Master who takes her
Will the Master protect and care for her

All of these are valid concerns; which is why a girl should be careful about the Master she chooses. Here is how I address those concerns:

I focus on making sure the dynamic is such that the husband and wife pull closer together, not pull apart. The marital relationship will evolve (that is guaranteed). Having a Master who is cognizant of this and moves you two closer rather than farther apart is critical to the long term health of the marriage.
I will not compel you to tell your friends or family; I will not out you. you get to choose who you tell.
I will do as I say, that is the hallmark of a good Master. Do as you say you will do; that is how the trust is built.
A good Master will always protect his girl. I have physically thrown men out of bars and houses for not behaving appropriately toward My girl. you will not be abused or disrespected by anyone if you are Mine. Ever.

Think on this, it is a major decision. It can be, with the right couple and the right Master, the most exquisite thing you have ever done in your life. It can be more rewarding and fulfilling than any relationship the girl has ever had.

As far as ‘are you attractive enough’, I take into consideration all of you. Personality, sincerity, earnestness, intellect; all that counts considerably in how attractive I find you. Nothing is as attractive as a girl who truly wishes to be Mine. The path to My heart is through submission. 

Cuckolding is a bit different than some other D/s dynamics in that the Master you choose should take into consideration not just his relationship with each of you but you and your husbands relationship with each other. your Master should allow for and plan for enhancing the dynamic that you and your boy have together. Undoubtedly the relationship dynamic you two have will change when you have a Master join. It will change most significantly for your boy, it always does. Allowing yourself that full release of submission to your new Master is critical; you need to take care in choosing a Master who understands that a major part of this managing the evolution of your marriage into something which draws you all closer.

It won’t be the same as what you currently have, the key is selecting a Master who will make it better than what you have now.

One of husbands major fears is a Master taking his wife away from him. I have had the wife ask Me if she could leave her husband and just be Mine; the request is not that uncommon.

I have always said ‘No’ and always will. That would be a complete betrayal to allow her to do that. I send her home, reminding her of the commitment to the entire relationship, not just to Me.

Do not be too hard on the wives, everyone has a bad day or series of days with their spouse. The temptation is present.

Be assured I do not ever allow that to occur. Ever.

I would communicate daily with the cuckold; voice, email, text, in person and yes he generally would serve. That could mean running errands, driving his wife and I to places, he could be subject to physical discipline. If he was deserving he would be addressed as ‘good boy’.

Couples often find taking that step so difficult; stepping out of the life they live to the life they want. Having a life driven by the trivial, by insecurities, by meaningless conflicts, by hopes, by fantasies that will eventually fade when not acted on can and does feel so comfortable. 

Moving to a new model of relationship, with a Master who does care and who will build you both up in different ways so you feel fulfilled and valued in all that you do going forward does take courage. It takes trust and it takes sincerity. Submitting to the ownership of a Man with the hope that all the pettiness goes away, that you will be led and directed to care for each other so much more and in ways that you each realize it, this takes holding each others hands and taking that step forward to having a Master.

Sometimes the hopes of the wife and the hopes of the husband are different; they can be merged. Sometimes the complexity of the unknown seems daunting when the actual case is that a good Master can simplify all of your life. Sometimes the tendency to overthink things causes one to not act at all. Sometimes it is the fear that you actually will get all you dreamed of.

Be bold, this is here for the couple that is sincere. The fear that you are not good enough, pretty enough, or the doubts that you can actually be Mine creep in. you may fear possible rejection. If you are sincere about this you have nothing to fear. 

you want someone to know who you are, to know you, to see you, to be your confidant and to hold your trust. you want a Master to whom you can be open and transparent without being betrayed or used. you want a Master to whom this is not a game, but with whom you can still laugh and have fun. you want a Master with whom the stress in your life goes down and you can completely be yourself, who ever that is. you want to be accepted and loved for you, the unique you, the special you, the you that brings forth what no one else ever can or will. you want to be recognized for who you are, for being that special prize that a Master will treasure and keep forever. 

you can find that with Me.

It may have been a long time since a Man reminded you daily of how beautiful you were, since a Man told you how your smile lights up a room, since a Man told you that your eyes sparkled. It may have been a long time since you spent your work day competing with your own thoughts about a Man touching you, it may have been a long time since a Man looked at you with adoration and desire in his eyes, it may have been a long time since you were truly lusted after. 

you remember what it was to have a Man thinking of you constantly, sending you sexy notes during the day, reminding you by the minute that you are a woman. you want that again, or maybe for the first time, the attention and focus of a Man who does see you for the beautiful and sexy creature that you are and that you want to be.

Don’t allow it to be too much longer dear

you have spent so long being a wife and perhaps a mother. Now it is time to be a woman and have a Man who reminds you that you are a woman, beautiful.

The fortunate couple will bond and be drawn closer by sharing a fate.

There is tremendous amount of intimacy in that occurring.

Look around your world, at your life. Is he sitting there watching tv, or playing on Facebook,  and kids are constantly saying me, me, me, me, me…? Did you come home and have to cook and are you the one who is cleaning the house? When you go to bed it is unsatisfying, no longer exciting and transitioning from that wife/mother role to being a woman is getting more and more difficult? 

maybe you should rethink about what you have been living…

The dynamic needs to change for you to be fulfilled.

you can have your husband and family and all of those relationships as well as a Master who makes you feel as a woman right down to your core every minute of the day.

Now this is my world…

“Im your Master to fulfill your life, moisten you, make your heart beat faster and take your breath away “

I have worked my entire life learning how to be the best Master I can be for the right couple.  My Dominance is My gift, not your right.  you must earn it with sincerity and affection.

I give My all to you if you are who I choose.

Whatever My and her sexual desires are they will be fulfilled. We compliment each other in a perfect triangle. I will provide you inspiration. 

you will live to serve your Man, as He shows you unconditional love. 

“Fantasy, fairy tales, a moment in time. Did Cinderella lie? Is finding the one you didn’t even know you were missing a possibility or just the things of which dreams are made?”

Make life happy for your Master and life for you will be ecstatic.

An awakening awaits you both.

you are torn, should you pursue your fantasy or should you play it safe. your very soul tells you to pursue your fantasy, but it is so hard. you have re-read all the stories several times, you have looked into all the available information.

you will tell Me of your desires, what you are interested in, hoping I will contact you back. you will wait. It is the longest wait you will ever have. 

you are afraid both that I will respond and that I won’t. you will start checking your email almost hourly. 

Then, it will happen. An email from Me. I will discuss My interests, both vanilla and as a Dom. I discuss your desires and how I reflect them in My desires. you will be hooked. 

I won’t assume she is My slave already. I will talk to her as a person who would be a sub, a person with feelings and interests. I will talk about the road I would take her on and how it would lead to her final submission. 

she will feel warmed by My interest in her and knows this was a Man she would happily submit to. Thus begins her journey to submission, freedom, and happiness. 

If you contact Me as a couple to be owned and dominated; be prepared to voice verify fairy quickly.

I find it interesting and common that one of the fears the wife has is her husband knowing how badly she wants this. she knows her husband wants this badly, she knows she wants this, but she is afraid of her husband discovering just how badly she wants it. Often times the wife has been masturbating since her teen age years to the fantasy of submitting to a Master, to her body being exposed and showed, to her being shared with a Masters friends, to being made into a slut. It is one of her deepest desires and often one she never thought she would have the opportunity to fulfill. her fear is often what her husband will think of her if he were to know just long and deeply she has held that desire. Interestingly, the husband often has the same desire for her. This is sometimes the stumbling block for a wife; often the request to a Master is not to tell her husband just how badly she wants this. It is very culturally ingrained for a wife, even a wife who has agreed to cuckolding, not to have her husband know she desires to be shown off and shared. While cuckolding puts the husband in a very vulnerable position; having her husband know she has fantasized about being a slut and desires that in the depths of her heart puts her in equally as vulnerable a position.

husbands need to reassure their wife, that what ever she desires he supports and that pursuing her desires will only elevate her in his eyes, not diminish her, regardless of what those desires may be.

Life is so interesting, this dynamic is so fascinating…. and rewarding

you are to the outside world the neighbor next door. They have no idea what lies behind that smile and friendly wave as you pass each other in the street or of the long suppressed wants, needs and the things you hunger for that much of the world will never understand. Dominance and being nice do mix, as does building a real relationship, a balanced relationship including you both. The emotional touching is a vibrant, living thing. I am someone who is a gentleman that will take from a woman and make her into a sloppy, mascara smeared, wet mess… 

If I am in the relationship, I own her. I allow the husband to experience sexual activity as a reward that I decide where and when.

Most certainly true, you do not know….

cuckold, submissive husbands are quite content for quite a long time when treated well.

“It’s hard for an educated woman to turn her head off. That’s part of the joy of being a submissive. None of the decisions are yours. When you can’t refuse anything and can’t even move, those voices in your head go silent. All you can do, and all you are permitted to do, is feel.” 
― Cherise Sinclair, Dark Citadel

Who wants to be owned and dominated?

Denise – I am still around, email me at arapahomaster@yahoo.com

Good boy

Thank you, looking for My next couple

Still seeking that right couple to own long term

Happy New Years!

Arapahomaster@gmail.com

No BS