My Girlfriend and her boss

Welcome to the community.

I would say there could be one or more reasons why this seems stalled:

1. there is always the chance that he’s grown wary of workplace relationships since their first encounter with it
2. it’s possible it really never stopped completely and the taboo of ‘cheating’ was alluring to both and now that’s gone with your encouragement
3. perhaps it did stop and has now restarted, but she’s reluctant to tell you about it

As to why you’re encouraging this: there are a number of aspects which play into it. Which ones apply to you I couldn’t say, but the fact that you’re comfortable with it does tell me you do have a high confidence in your marriage and in her love for you or you wouldn’t be able to suppress the anxiety of such an arrangement enough to enjoy it.

I would encourage some dialogue about her daily experiences in the office. I’d say to encourage her to show off her breasts for him and to make that planning part of your pillow talk. Things like being playful in overtly teasing him when no one else can see, for example. Let her feel comfortable and empowered by sharing these details with you. One of the things you can encourage her to do is to stand closer to him – much closer. Explain how she can cock tease him by letting her breast rest against his arm when she stands next to him, for example, something a woman not wanting a man’s attention would never allow to happen.

And, of course, consider sharing this site with her and let her see that you and you two as a couple are far from being alone in this interest.

It wouldn’t be a bad idea for you and her to stop by the chatroom, either.

As much as I find distance from all of this at times, LUVR can really bring a person back to being a cuckold wannabe in a phrase or two.  It is almost as if we would all like to try to get to that level of cuckoldry readiness,so that finally the master himself (LUVR) deems us ready and worthy of his servicing our lovely mate.  It would seem like an honor.  Man, that is some crazy thinking, but it is , I must admit, a big turn on.

It’s exciting to hear of your/her plans. Look forward to this exciting saga as/if it develops.  Keep me posted as I am avidly interested, for some reason.  Mat

I think you should take your woman go for drinks and or dinner, come home make love and relax without phones, door bells, kids (if any), friends, etc. and have a good long very open talk about what you would enjoy and then ask her to open up to you about your desires and if she could find happiness I that and go for there. If she says yes or no go deeper into the talk and always telling her you only want what she will be comfortable with but you are open to everything she may want. I think for this talk before you go out put on a new chastity device and hand her the keys after you are deep into this talk. Tell her you hope this proves it’s all about her pleasures and you are not interested in another woman. If you mean what you say, tell her you will do housework, wash clothes, give her massages when she desires and pamper her in anyway she decides to show your commitment to her and your desires to serve her as a cuckold. Tell her you are handing over your sexuality, orgasms and will serve her as a queen should be served. Tell her you will live up to everything your role entails that she will read about this lifestyle. Most importantly, you better live up to and do everything you say. Good luck for her move to queenhood and your cuckoldry. Thank you, Glenn

Thanks for your response. I find that I am not interested in chastity devices. I also am seemingly inconsistent (however, not as I see it) in that I am often jealous of her talking and flirting with friends, but would like her to flirt and and have sex with strangers. I’m a little stuck there, I guess, but it makes sense to me. Any thoughts?

@matmagic99 said:

Thanks for your response. I find that I am not interested in chastity devices. I also am seemingly inconsistent (however, not as I see it) in that I am often jealous of her talking and flirting with friends, but would like her to flirt and and have sex with strangers. I’m a little stuck there, I guess, but it makes sense to me. Any thoughts?

Your reaction to her flirting with friends happens because you feel more threatened by it. The problem with jealousy is when you exhibit jealousy (behave in ways which make it apparent to her or others) that you’re jealous, what you’re doing is expressing distrust in her decisions and actions. I’m sure that’s not what you mean to say, but that’s the net result. Your encouragement to flirt with others and desire she not flirt with friends or others closer to you is also an attempt to exert control – again, a trust issue.
You either trust her with expanding your sexual horizons as a couple or you don’t. If you don’t, stop encouraging her and focus on yourselves until you can.

Thanks for your response. Since reading it, I told my wife that I had something to tell her. I said she is a lovely, loving, flirtatious woman who is a great wife and mate. I said that I have been inconsistent in my opinions of her flirtations, sometime encouraging it, sometimes getting mad and jealous of it I said that it must be difficult for her to be herself and to expand into any of the areas that I have hinted at going (i.e. cuckolding, hotwifing, her openly flirting at bars, etc.). Anyway, I said I would, from now on, try to more supportive, open and consistent in my reactions to her interactions with others.
So LUVR, thanks for the boost. What you said was a little hard for me to swallow at first, but I think I needed to hear it and will be better off for it in the future. I hope at least some of the emotional lightness that I am now feeling will be lasting. Keep the faith, Mat.

Hi, when my wife was a student nurse here in the UK many years ago, she was in her words “pushed into a cupboard” by a consultant who kissed and fondled her. She didn’t tell me at the time as she thought I would punch him on the nose etc, which at the time I may well have done as I was very jealous of anyone looking at her. It turns out he made numerous advances to her over the years during her career, all of which she refused. Some time ago she had a thyroid problem, which came under his remit and he offered to examine her and do various tests for free as a private consultation. She could have had that here in the UK under our National Health Service, but there would have been a lengthy wait and she was anxious to know how things were as soon as possible. It may also have falled to him to do the exam anyway.
The next evening I drove her to his house which had a consulting room at the back and waited for her. I had no idea this was the consultant who had kissed and felt her up in the past. She came out and later told me her had insisted that to examine her thyroid, which is of course in her neck, he would have to have her stripped to the waist. She said she undressed and, having been in a summer dress this meant standing in just her knickers. She later told me, after he has died, how he had pushed her into the cupboard all those years ago, and how on this occasion after examining her neck, and arranging for fluids to be taken the next day, he had felt her breasts, pulled her nipples and hugged her. He asked her to go away with him for a weekend to attend a medical cofnerence and to have an affair with him. Had I know this I would have encouraged her and suggested she should. She told me that night he had asked her to strip for the examination which she said was odd, and when we got home I immediately jumped on her and we had sex. He was a popular, wealthy and charismatic figure and I would have loved to have been cuckolded by him. I did hear that he had had relationships with a number of nurses over the years. Best wishes to all, Paul