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CompletelyHers
Hello would be cuckolds and cuckoldresses. As a submissive cuckolded husband of a beautiful Asian Goddess, I have had the privilege of being in this wonderful lifestyle now for going on 4 years. It could have been 10 years had I known the right things to say or how to say them though as my wife and I were a bit slow to start. We had enthusiasm but lacked the general knowledge and confidence that might have helped us to make the leap forward. We keep reading stories of all these guys that have wives or girlfriends and just don’t know how to broach the subject with them or worse, have broached it only to be shot down and refused. If you have come looking for help or advice, then you are in the right place to start out. Tell us what situation you are in and what you are looking to get out of it. Remember that honesty in all regards gives the best starting point for useful advice to be received.
Don’t be shy and don’t waste another minute wondering what life could be like if you were turning your fantasies into reality. It really is possible as we should know…
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wannabe222
My lovely sexy wife and I have been married for over 12 yrs. are madly in love and share a wonderful sex life. She is by no means a prude…..we use sexual innuendos often and we’re considering vacations with nude beaches. I’m around 5’8″ and by no means well hung and she’s an inch taller. About 3 years ago, while in bed, she asked me what my greatest sexual fantasy was. I hesitated for a bit….then told her it was seeing her being pleasured by another man. She was a little surprised, but at least, didn’t act like I was weird. Since then, we’ve used this fantasy all the time during sex, physically and verbally and she really gets into the roleplay. We use a lifelike dildo often and she really plays up the part, which she knows really turns me on. We’ve even used the fantasy in texting when she’s away from me. Lately, I’ve subtly tried to get to the next level…encouraging her to open a few more buttons and wear shorter skirts when we’re out….mentioning when I think guys are checking her out. I obviously wasn’t subltle enough because I think she felt a little pressured and she told me that our fantasy is just that….fantasy for our bedroom, and we should keep it that way. When I had asked her what her fantasy was she said it was to be with the man who swept her off her feet and was dominating with her…..only wanted her for himself. She felt I was trying to get her to be shared…and that’s not what she wants. She’s fine with the fantasy….she says it really is a turn-on, but wants to keep it that way. I know that her previous husband and relationships were all with tall, muscular alpha type men, so I know that’s the type she is attracted to. I guess I need some great advice in getting her to the next level.
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luv2bused
Same here, looking for great tactics to use to promote action beyond simple fantasy. Others PLEASE contribute tactics you suggest:
1) Get her comfortable thinking about other men. My wife isn’t looking for physical attributes, she’s looking for emotional attributes to make her feel comfortable with another man. That means she needs to first become friends with other men. Promote this.
2) Get your girlfriend or wife to talk to you about previous lovers. Get them to describe the situations in great detail. This will cause her to understand you truly find this arousing, and get her to relive those experiences in her mind. This reminds her that other man can give her sexual pleasure.
3) Re-enact those great sexual situations your wife had with previous lovers. Wear the same cologne that her x wore. Dress like he used to dress. Make love to her the way he used to. Have her call you his name when you make love. Have her pretend it’s his cock. My wife struggles with this.
4) Be clear that you are interested in her screwing around, but you have no interest in screwing around. Be VERY clear with her that this is not a request for an open relationship. Freedom for her only, obedience to her by you. This takes time and constant reminders.
5) Give her the control you promised. Go where she wants to go, and do what she wants to do. Trying to force her seems to have slowed her down.
6) Encourage anonymity. Don’t attempt this with her co-worker which would have complications if things go poorly. This makes it much harder because women desire close friendships to feel comfortable. Expect it will take months…not hours or days. Tennis partner, bowing team, friend from an old company, or high school. Encourage her to make friends on facebook with old friends from college or high school.
What other tactics do you recommend? I need more ideas?
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CompletelyHers
wannabe222
My lovely sexy wife and I have been married for over 12 yrs. are madly in love and share a wonderful sex life. She is by no means a prude…..we use sexual innuendos often and we’re considering vacations with nude beaches. I’m around 5’8″ and by no means well hung and she’s an inch taller. About 3 years ago, while in bed, she asked me what my greatest sexual fantasy was. I hesitated for a bit….then told her it was seeing her being pleasured by another man. She was a little surprised, but at least, didn’t act like I was weird. Since then, we’ve used this fantasy all the time during sex, physically and verbally and she really gets into the roleplay. We use a lifelike dildo often and she really plays up the part, which she knows really turns me on. We’ve even used the fantasy in texting when she’s away from me. Lately, I’ve subtly tried to get to the next level…encouraging her to open a few more buttons and wear shorter skirts when we’re out….mentioning when I think guys are checking her out. I obviously wasn’t subltle enough because I think she felt a little pressured and she told me that our fantasy is just that….fantasy for our bedroom, and we should keep it that way. When I had asked her what her fantasy was she said it was to be with the man who swept her off her feet and was dominating with her…..only wanted her for himself. She felt I was trying to get her to be shared…and that’s not what she wants. She’s fine with the fantasy….she says it really is a turn-on, but wants to keep it that way. I know that her previous husband and relationships were all with tall, muscular alpha type men, so I know that’s the type she is attracted to. I guess I need some great advice in getting her to the next level.
luv2bused
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