Questions

I’ll take a shot. For background, we have been swingers for 10 years, and a cuckold couple only for the last two. But we were able to apply the lessons from swinging to our cuckold lifestyle. We stick to common sense rules (at least they are to us) and fortunately have had no real bad experiences and honestly have no regrets. But if we were ones to rush into situations I’m sure we would have plenty. Move slowly and follow your instincts. As the hubby, be 100% supportive every step of the way! Be her biggest cheerleader and let her know you have her back.

Jealousy can be a deal breaker for some. I still get jealous, but the jealousy is partly why it’s so hot. When she dates solo it still tears me up a little. You don’t really combat or control it. You use it. You will learn to love it!

We have a very nice ritual that when I travel overnight for business (about once a month) she is allowed to have a BF over. She dresses for him, cooks him dinner or they go out…. she enjoys the “dating ritual”. All I ask is that 1) he is somebody we have played with together and trust, and 2) she texts me a few hot selfies.

Once you’re in an alternative lifestyle you need to forget about what society deems “normal” and do what works for you. Society tends to reject the cuckold lifestyle so much that many of our swinger friends even reject it – and they live an alternative lifestyle! If what you’re doing works for you and your wife – and causes nobody harm – then do it! When you’re married you need to do what makes each other tick. I think an arrangement with a dom bull may be just what the doctor ordered. And the fact that you got excited when you saw her perform oral on your friend tells me you can handle the jealousy part. The bull will go home and leave you to tend to and care for your lady the way you do best.

Jealousy is a natural response to what happens, but being able to manage our emotions is part of what sets humans apart from other animals. To give in to jealousy and allow it to dictate your behavior, especially in negative ways, communicates the belief that you don’t trust your wife and/or you don’t trust the foundation of your relationship.

The idea that a marriage or relationship is weakened or threatened simply by the interest of another male in the woman is not only false, but obviously so. Threats to relationships are always internal first. If there are no threats (weaknesses) internally, then no one can take what isn’t offered for taking.

A-Z,

My wife and I have been involved in the lifestyle for about 18 months. We are white and our primary partner is black. I am average at 6′ and he is about 8.5″ and much thicker. When we started out we met with him a few times before having him to our home, that day our relationship changed as I watched as he had his way wit my wife. We were with him a few times together at first and then we progressed to one on one encounters with the two of them. I found this very exciting and was so turned on by it. The first time my wife recorded the entire encounter on her iPad for me to watch later. The second time was at his place of business and I listened over the phone.

We do have rules in place. There are no interactions between them without my permission. I have and still do encourage her to make “pit stops” on her way home from work. As for jealousy, we really do not have any. I am fine with them interacting and feel she deserves to have those interactions with a much larger endowed male. We have built a relationship/friendship with him as well. We exchange texts and photos and my wife and him do as well.

We have had a few other encounters with a few other black guys as well. She has gotten a Queen of Spades tattoo and wears it proudly. Our only real regret is not doing this sooner. We are both in our mid 40’s. Oh and BTW, this week we start down our road into exploring male chastity.

Live,

I appreciate your comments but our dynamic is that of a couple. We enjoy the relationship we have with each other and with our bull. I’m part of the relationship not excluded.

Cuckolding has been a threat, a tease, and a topic of discussion between my Domme wife and me for several years. She admits that she enjoys how the topic makes me squirm, but says that she really does not want sex with anyone else now, though some special attention from another guy might be fun.

The furthest she has taken it is to have me buy a Starbucks card for a long time male friend of hers who is aware of our FLR situation and to keep it loaded for him and whoever he buys coffee.

I don’t know the guy well and rarely see him, but when I do I feel myself getting excited, though I no mental image of for what.

Recently, she tells me that he has offered to consult with her on how to handle me and has asked what I think. Sounds like we could be stepping onto a slippery slope where he goes from friend to consultant, to Bull and eventually works his way right into our house.

I’m not sure what I should respond. Part of me is turned on by her relationship with him that I’m not part of and another part is scared of that she’ll start falling for him as this “help” goes on.

Even without their going to bed together I am getting the mix of excitement, fear, and jealousy that I read about other guys experience when they do.

ive been a cuckold husband for coming up 30 years dont regret 1 minute of it communication is the key and indulging in activities that both are agreeable to i never had jealous feelings just higher levels of excitement even in the begining my wife always teases me saying your just born that way i believe sexuality is in you just like knowing your gay i couldnt enjoy sex any other way it just feels right for me if you are able to let go and run with your true feelings and throw everything society would tell you out the window and enjoy the ride its agood one