Re-introduction after 5 years

We are a married couple who are getting back into the cuckold lifestyle after being absent for more than 5 years. We played on and off from the time my wife was around 30 years old until she was 45. I’d like to say it was all drama free but that wasn’t the case. There are two scenerios that exist and overlap in this lifestyle. The Cuckold, and the Hotwife. Often, the husband wants a Hotwife and wants to be included to watch, participate, set up dates etc. In the case of a cuckold relationship is controlled more so by the wife. Like in the majority of situations where the male partner intiates the lifestyle I encouraged the whole thing from the start. However, what I envisioned, and what my wife wanted were often two different things. She played along to some extent but always had a preference towards a one on one boyfriend experience with her lovers. I became resentful at times thinking she wasn’t a team player, and was not supportive which led to the eventual demise of our lifestyle.

As with many couples who enter their 50’s excitement and passion gives way to repitition and even boredom. Women who are peri-menopausal often report lowered libidos. Husbands however, still require sexual intimacy to feel connected so this disconnect can lead to problems. Couples looking to repair the lost lobidio often chase down the hormone path which works well for men (Testosterone) but it doesnt always change things for women. The trigger aspect involved in womens libido is complicated involving a host of emotions. Her perception regarding the health of the relationship is based both on the past and present, and their may be a host of hidden things that affect her moods. You can treat most of the female symptoms but it doesnt necessarily equate to an increase in libido.

In our situation we are contemplating getting back into the lifestyle to revive the lost passion and excitement. There is no doubt that “Laurie” is still extremely turned on by black men. This time I am much more focused on providing what my wife wants. I just want her to be happy satsified. My wife is an emotionally strong person and is able to juggle between her day to day responsibilities, the marriage, and a lover. It never consumes her thoughts or distracts her from her routine. She suggested a once per month tryst to keep everything in balance. She also laid down some rules that are dependant opon her participation. 1. It has to happen naturally and without great effort on her behalf. 2. No threesomes involving hubby, or anyone else. 3. I have to willingly give up my time so she can spend time with her lover. 4. I am not to interfere, listen to phone calls, snoop in email, or follow her. 5. She may or may not include me such as for clean-up duty. 6. She may or may not even tell me about her night 7. If I don’t fully cooperate she will cut me off completely and see her lover more frequently, until my behaviour improves. Not much wiggle room there but I agreed to her terms.

I recently began by placing an ad on Craigs list. I don’t know if anyone has had experience in this arena, but it can be very frustrating. You ask specifically for Black men and you get everyone under the rainbow replying. You are specific about pictures and they just send pics of their dick. You set age requirements, however it does nothing to deter the 25 year old. And if that isnt bad enough, fellow advertisers, and moderators, can flag and subsequently remove your ad for no apparent reason. My wife is is a very attractive confident woman who is quite fit for her age. Maybe their motivation is to remove the competition.

I did however receive one reply of interest from a Black gentleman who lives near Seattle. I have a good idea the type of men my wife is interested in. She likes attractive tall black men with a nice smile, who is solidly built, has a quiet confidence, a subtle dominance, and knows how to make a woman feel special. From what I can tell “Michael” meets all her requirements.

We have been planning to drive south to the outlet malls to do a little Xmas shopping, then onto Seattle for a weekend getaway. I have planned a night out where I will introduce “Michael” to my wife. I am looking at it from the perspective of introducing two friends on a blind date, in the hopes they become an item. Michael will have plenty of opportunity to seduce “Laurie” by nights end. He knows he is free to treat her like any other available woman with no restrictions. If the night goes well “Michael” and my wife will spend the night together behind closed doors. I have a one bedroom hotel room booked to accomodate her one on one requirements.

If the first night goes well, I plan to purchase some sexy lingerie for Laurie during the day, then plan to meet Michael for diner. He may even bring her bouquet of flowers. Aside from diner, I will provide him every opportunity to connect with her. I plan to take a backseat to the conversation. He can sit next to her, walk hand in hand whatever he pleases. She is his date. Hopefully, they hit it off and spend a second night together. The next day we are heading home, so I thought I might grab the free hotel breakfast and let Michael take Laurie out for breakfast. This will give them time to exchange numbers, emails, and plan to meet again without the awkwardness of my presence. I want my wife to feel totally free to enjoy herself without worrying about me. To be honest I can think of no greater turn on than to witness her pleasure and passion during a private encounter. I fantasize about being at home connected to a live video stream, with a view of an empty hotel bedroom, anticipating the return of Laurie and her lover from a night out, then witnessing ther unabashed lovemaking.

My wife is not on the pill and although she is not in her prime, still has regular periods. Admittedly, in our current relationship, intercourse has given way to other sexual activities. It so happens that she ovulates a day or so after the planned weekend, which makes the Sunday a very risky time of the month. Still, Michael plans to send her home on Sunday wet and full of his seed. ….

I hope this opportunity sparks her libido and and brings some much deserved excitement to her life.